If you had to choose to date between one of these three people, which would you choose?

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    Aug 24, 2011 9:34 AM GMT
    See thread title. So, you have to choose one of these three:

    a) Really nice guy, average body/looks, introverted, caring, genuine, lacks a social life, rapidly advancing in his career, mild paranoid personality disorder.

    b) Really hot guy, plenty of friends, HIV+, outgoing, adventurous, sexual non-monogamist, brash, stable career.

    c) Loud and fun guy, life of the party, narcissistic, always on the go, tons of friends but none too close, athletic but not insanely hot, well-groomed, dead-end job.
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    Aug 24, 2011 9:53 AM GMT
    Hang on, is the choice to go on a date with them, or are we talking about for a relationship?

    Because my answer differs, if it's just for a date/hook-up I'd pick b) but for long-term potential, a).
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    Aug 24, 2011 9:59 AM GMT
    Date/relationship... aren't those around the same duration for gay people?
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    Aug 24, 2011 10:00 AM GMT
    B for sure A depnds how hot he is .
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    Aug 24, 2011 10:09 AM GMT
    a) for sure, but mostly because I wouldn't in a million years be interested in an HIV+ non-monogamist or a loud narcissistic partyfag.
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    Aug 24, 2011 1:06 PM GMT
    Guy A is most appealing. I'm extroverted enough so I tend to appreciate the more private types who are actually decent dudes.
  • bad_wolf

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    Aug 24, 2011 1:12 PM GMT
    Considering a) is a disturbingly accurate description of me, I think I'd have to go with c) just to offset my shortcomings.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 24, 2011 1:15 PM GMT
    Absolutely (A). Sounds like the kind of guy to connect with on a real level.
    I have a number of friends that fit this sort of category.
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    Aug 24, 2011 1:16 PM GMT
    A) sounds like the best fit for me!
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    Aug 24, 2011 1:20 PM GMT
    I tend to be socially out going but I would choose A because it will help to ground me. Plus I can coax him to be more friendly with my friends icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 24, 2011 1:43 PM GMT
    FrostedFlakes saidSee thread title. So, you have to choose one of these three:

    a) Really nice guy, average body/looks, introverted, caring, genuine, lacks a social life, rapidly advancing in his career, mild paranoid personality disorder.

    b) Really hot guy, plenty of friends, HIV+, outgoing, adventurous, sexual non-monogamist, brash, stable career.

    c) Loud and fun guy, life of the party, narcissistic, always on the go, tons of friends but none too close, athletic but not insanely hot, well-groomed, dead-end job.


    A.
    We can make tin foil hats for the dogs together when we get home from the office

    Would not go anywhere near B or C, even as a friend or keeping in touch if they were a school chum, since our values are so unaligned.
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    Aug 24, 2011 1:57 PM GMT
    definitely "a"
  • ohioguy12

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    Aug 24, 2011 2:08 PM GMT
    I'm actually gonna go with C. Being fun is really important for me. Athleticism is a big turn on also.
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    Aug 24, 2011 2:11 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidAbsolutely (A). Sounds like the kind of guy to connect with on a real level.
    I have a number of friends that fit this sort of category.


    I AM A!!!
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    Aug 24, 2011 2:11 PM GMT
    Guy A. but not for pity.
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    Aug 24, 2011 2:12 PM GMT
    The options are skewed to make A the only choice that isn't a one-dimensional stereotype.
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    Aug 24, 2011 2:14 PM GMT
    Probably go with C.
  • calibro

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    Aug 24, 2011 2:21 PM GMT
    i've been with As i have loved and As i felt nothing for. it always comes down to a physical attraction, and some average guys pull it off and others don't... which mean i think i'll have to choose choice (A)riodante.
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    Aug 24, 2011 2:24 PM GMT
    swimguychicago said
    HndsmKansan saidAbsolutely (A). Sounds like the kind of guy to connect with on a real level.
    I have a number of friends that fit this sort of category.


    I AM A!!!



    there is what people say they would do and there is what people actually do. imagine two guys, one intraverted average guy sitting at a corner of a bar having a drink by himself with bad posture, next to him is a group of hot guys surrounding with a muscle daddy in leather harness flirting with each other. guess who is going to get all the attention and who is going to be invisible.

    I find when i guy says he just wants average, what he really meant was he wants effortlessly hot (comes different ways for different people). dont try to be average.
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    Aug 24, 2011 2:28 PM GMT
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    there is what people say they would do and there is what people actually do. imagine two guys, one intraverted average guy sitting at a corner of a bar having a drink by himself with bad posture, next to him is a group of hot guys surrounding with a muscle daddy in leather harness flirting with each other. guess who is going to get all the attention and who is going to be invisible.



    Guys want A at home ironing their work shirts while they're out partying with C.
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    Aug 24, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    I'll take the one that first recognizes I'm a better catch than any of them, and pursues me accordingly.
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    Aug 24, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    Until we cure HIV within the next 10 years (that's my prediction and I'm sticking with it) I'm sticking with A. Otherwise I'd go for B.
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    Aug 24, 2011 2:51 PM GMT
    i am going to speak up for B here, i have dated many Bs, its always a struggle to maintain exclusive relationships with people like that, but they are not all that bad as everyone thought.

    b) Really hot guy, plenty of friends, HIV+, outgoing, adventurous, sexual non-monogamist, brash, stable career.

    Hot guy- work out regularly, amazing body, consistent, presentable, good taste in clothes, fork out 8k on an armani jacket, know the power of "looks" and play all of his cards right, cooks well, some take steroids with prescription due to their HIV status and can afford them.

    plenty of friends-- sociable, eloquent, great conversation skills, turns people down with a yes, always something to learn from them

    HIV+ -- made mistakes in life and have learned from it, value every moment, sees life from a different perspective, good at on-going management of difficulties in life. writes on manhunt:"always playing safe", actually mean :"playing safe, my HIV status irrelevant " knows how to sell himself.

    sexual non-monogamist -- knows what he wants and is realistically managing those desires.

    Brash-- as with everything in life, he is in control, even in all of his conversations, you just need to tell him to shut up and listen. he cant help it, he is on steroids.

    stable career -- well established, knows he doesnt live for his career, he lives to have a good time, enjoying cooking, working out, occasionally drug-fuelled dance party and good holiday in his spare time.


    I dont get type A, i just dont see how someone who is socially awkward progressing very fast in their career. successful people I have met are always best salesperson in life that are very good in selling themselves.
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    Aug 24, 2011 2:53 PM GMT
    i chose D
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    Aug 24, 2011 2:53 PM GMT
    Ariodante said
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    there is what people say they would do and there is what people actually do. imagine two guys, one intraverted average guy sitting at a corner of a bar having a drink by himself with bad posture, next to him is a group of hot guys surrounding with a muscle daddy in leather harness flirting with each other. guess who is going to get all the attention and who is going to be invisible.



    Guys want A at home ironing their work shirts while they're out partying with C.


    lol, oh my god, so true. i immediately painted a picture in my head when you said that.