Meeting a Guy on the Street or Subway

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    Aug 24, 2011 6:08 PM GMT
    What's the best way to show interest in a guy you see on the street, subway, or in passing without giving the impression of being a creep? I'm trying to diversify away from dating people from bars, grindr, and the like.
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    Aug 24, 2011 6:10 PM GMT
    marcobruno1978 saidWhat's the best way to show interest in a guy you see on the street, subway, or in passing without giving the impression of being a creep? I'm trying to diversify away from dating people from bars, grindr, and the like.


    Make eye contact, when eye contact is made, smile, if he smiles back your golden.

    Pro-tip, if he smiles and looks down, that means he likes you but is embarrased that you like him back. This can be a good thing or a bad. Good thing = he thinks your too hot for him (someone said that to me once) bad thing = he is in the closet will kick your ass (hasnt happened to me yet).

    So...there ya go!
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    Aug 24, 2011 6:14 PM GMT
    smile and a nod. if they smile back-agreed with above done deal.
  • Lincsbear

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    Aug 24, 2011 6:55 PM GMT
    A slightly longer look as you pass him.Let a few seconds go by and then casually glance round at him.If he`s looked round,you`re in luck!
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    Aug 24, 2011 8:04 PM GMT
    Definition of creep: Making a pass at anyone who is not interested in you.

    In other words, if the feeling isn't mutual you will be considered a creep, regardless of how "polite" you are.
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    Aug 24, 2011 8:16 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidDefinition of creep: Making a pass at anyone who is not interested in you.

    In other words, if the feeling isn't mutual you will be considered a creep, regardless of how "polite" you are.


    yea but still if you look for eye contact you can avoid being a creep. Just saying.
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    Aug 24, 2011 8:30 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidDefinition of creep: Making a pass at anyone who is not interested in you.

    In other words, if the feeling isn't mutual you will be considered a creep, regardless of how "polite" you are.


    I think it can be worth the risk. LOL
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    Aug 24, 2011 8:44 PM GMT
    I had a fun and totally unexpected encounter yesterday on the subway. I laughed at something funny when some guy entered the train. He and I started laughing and talking about it, and we both saw each others' interest. 'Nuff said.
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    Aug 25, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    BuddyinNYC saidI had a fun and totally unexpected encounter on the subway


    I did in a New York subway once too! All it took was the proverbial eye contact on a station platform. I chatted him up on the train, convinced him to stay on with me all the way to where I was going uptown...piece of, uh, cake. icon_twisted.gif

    Over the years I've had a not inconsiderable number of HOT hookups that started with a glance by chance on public transpo, walking down the street or across a campus or park, browsing in a store, you name it. As others have posted, the eyes don't lie. But in my experience it usually hasn't been quite as simple as eye-lock/grin/talk/action. The tried and true formula when not in a moving vehicle is to exchange looks and pass each other. THEN if both guys turn their heads, you're onto something. At times even that is only the first step of the dance. You next have to go into a charade of window shopping or checking out all the publication racks on the street. icon_rolleyes.gif It's no different than when you're out fishing and get that first tug on the line. There's no telling what will follow. You might reel in dinner without much effort, there could be a drawn-out struggle which either side could win, OR it may wind up as a catch-and-release.

    I'm glad my sex life started eons before Al Gore didn't invent the Internet. Unplanned encounters are a lot more fun.
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    Aug 25, 2011 5:15 AM GMT
    Agreed and I will say this, when 2 men are attracted to each other the conversation happens naturally.
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    Aug 25, 2011 9:49 AM GMT
    paulflexes said

    In other words, if the feeling isn't mutual you will be considered a creep, regardless of how "polite" you are.


    That's not really true, though - at least with me.
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    Aug 25, 2011 11:06 AM GMT
    I'm going to have to try that when i get back to Toronto...Dang I'm rusty.
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    Aug 25, 2011 11:24 AM GMT
    Start a conversation and see how things go from there. Same thing you would normally do to anyone who you just met.