Awww shucks, connexion.org is closing....

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    Aug 25, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    Not sure if this has been mentioned already as I've been away, but connexion is closing it's door.

    I'm not sad in the least bit. I've not met a single person from there that amounted to anything...and I barely met anyone from there period. 2 guys who I thought I liked and we met or came close to meeting, were psychotic psychos.

    It just seemed like a sea of profiles but with no one really wanting make a real............ what's the word? Connection. It's like the site seemed to be set up to display a million profiles and not really giving anyone the chance to stand out. It was more like myspace to me, not a place to actually find someone to date.

    I found out about it towards the end of last year which makes it the 3rd to the last gay site I've used next to realjock (which is 2nd place to OKcupid which I find slightly better).

  • fitartistsf

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    Aug 25, 2011 12:56 PM GMT
    Yeah, I've been a member for a couple years. Have seriously thought of closing my profile on there recently... glad Connexion is making the decision for me... same thing, met a few guys (online), but nothing of significance, or substance... sure wish www.gaymuscle.org would come back... that site was a sister site to this one, which I enjoyed greatly... I hope RJ stays...
  • a303guy

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    Aug 25, 2011 1:24 PM GMT

    I'll be the lone dissenter here, but connexion was a pretty darn good site concept. Like realjock, nude pics were not allowed (even though RJ allows them behind a private 'veil' ) which, unlike any of the other sites out there, forced you to actually meet people instead of cocks and asses, which so many of us seem to reduce our online presence, and there for, image of self, to. I met a lot of people on connexion, and the vast majority were good people - some of whom will be friends for life, i have no doubts. I joined connexion in its infancy in 2003, purely on a lark - i didnt think it would work either - but it did.

    I also had a simple rule for adding friends on connexion - i had to meet you in person. It was a rule that worked really well, and forced me to get away from my desk, and outside. Of the roughly 100 friends i have there, about 90 of them are 'real' to me. The others are chat friends of significance from around the globe.

    Basically, and i'm pretty sure this is the reason connexion is going away, if you joined connexion to use it as a hookup site, like A4A or MH, you were doomed. If you joined to site to actually meet people and exchange ideas, it was a win. The probable sad fact is that most of us dont know how to turn off the sex gene, and couldnt ever wrap our heads around what connexion was really all about.
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    Aug 25, 2011 1:39 PM GMT
    That's too bad.

    Connexion was a great idea. For those people who wanted more than to just have sex or trade nude pics..... it had a lot of substance. Definitely disappointing....
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    Aug 25, 2011 1:44 PM GMT
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    Aug 25, 2011 1:45 PM GMT
    I tried that website at one point. It was very disappointing, with many of the guys mostly into hookups and not responding back to me. I tried OkCupid, too and had more luck with that.

    But in general, I think I'm done with online dating. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 25, 2011 2:21 PM GMT
    I had a profile on there once never met a single person. ended up deleting it
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    Aug 29, 2011 5:58 AM GMT
    I've heard from 2 guys (both in their 40s) that connexion was an a GREAT site. Which is what prompted me to use it.

    When I first signed up, I guess I did get the initial "new hot Black guy" rush. But non of the people were of substance except perhaps 1 but we did not really click.

    1 of the guys I met from there seemed really cool on the first date, but then he deteriorated from there.

    Another guy was really off. We barely had a conversation before he started asking me the notorious chocolate chaser question, "How hung are you". I told him thanks for making me feel like a piece of meat...and he was pretty much brain dead from there. Couldn't even say, "oh sorry...", just said, "okay". I'm like...this fool on some SHIT.

    Most of the guys I hear who say they've met people seem to be older and White. Not being age-ist or racist, but perhaps that was who the site was marketed to and why I didn't see much use of it.

    AlwaysDreaming11 saidI tried that website at one point. It was very disappointing, with many of the guys mostly into hookups and not responding back to me. I tried OkCupid, too and had more luck with that.

    But in general, I think I'm done with online dating.
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    I would like to say the same, but I know that online dating is no different than meeting guys at bars/clubs/school, etc. I mean, they way things have been going lately I've had better luck online than the bars here.

    People here in Denver are so cliquey that there's almost no point of going out to bars and expect to meet someone. I cannot name how many times I've met a great guy, they liked me and I liked them...but they couldn't hangout with me for the night because they were afraid their friends would think they are rude or even worse, a whore with jungle fever.

    I met a guy at the bar the other day. Staring me DOWN. I looked back at him and we started chatting. Chatted for like 15 minutes. But he's already acting weird and shady for no reason. Sporadically responding to texts, hasn't made any plans to meet in the future, didn't want to meet up last night...It's like, what the hell is wrong with these people?

    It's like I'm so over it. But at the same time I've taken all my online profiles down, I'm getting tired of the bar scene too. That's why I just want to move...cross country or something, this shit is lame!
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    Aug 29, 2011 6:45 AM GMT
    Dear RJ,

    I belong over 1,000 bi, gay and straight dating groups any I STILL can't find a mate!!! I still have connexion and if I loose that that ok. I just aded a new gay site few days ago!

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    Just naming a few sites I do belong in and if you want the ELITE website and has TONS of others site to choice from and some you pay other's are not is:

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    So Real Jock Divas check it out and would you be kindly don't ask dumb or rude remarks about me or mine site! If you do. We will know you just a plan SOB who thinks your better then anyone! You really need a life!

    Other's Guys in Real Jock want to meet there future husbands or long term or short term of a friendship or others in Real Jock! I am one of them!

    Badwild