Aug 26, 2011 7:42 AM GMT
Oh about a decade ago, I had been obsessed with analyzing social interaction and the way to navigate through life. One of the things I made my mind up on was the justification of one's actions because of external circumstance.
An example is saying "I broke his nose but he deserved it".
Some say that because the nose-brokee was behaving badly, the assault was either a good act or a justifiable act. Meaning the circumstances define if your actions are good or bad.
Another issue is, what if the puncher was wrong and the punchee wasn't the jerk he had thought. Does that change his act from good to bad?
I came to believe that my actions are my own regardless of anything that's going on around me. The circumstances neither force me to act a certain way nor determine if it was right or wrong.
The way I see it, if I hit someone in any situation, I have lowered my own quality, I've hurt someone. I will never again be able to say "I have never mistreated someone". I wasn't forced to act that way, others wouldn't have made the same choice, but that is what my brain decided to do. I can't blame anyone but myself.
By the same token, if I help someone out, it reflects on my character and stays with me even if they didn't appreciate it.
I've seen quite a few posts here where people will say "they deserve it" to excuse their ill intentions and cruelty. Do you think that is a legitimate excuse?