"He's hot"!

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    Aug 26, 2011 5:41 PM GMT
    I know this is going to vary depending on opinion & type of relationship, but if your involved in a monogamous relationship how do you feel about your partner checking out other men & telling you the person is hot?

    I know we are men & everyone notices each other but when vocalizing it some feel its ok, & some feel its very disrespectful to a partner.

    Which do you prefer & why?
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    Aug 26, 2011 5:48 PM GMT
    redbull saidI know this is going to vary depending on opinion & type of relationship, but if your involved in a monogamous relationship how do you feel about your partner checking out other men & telling you the person is hot?

    I know we are men & everyone notices each other but when vocalizing it some feel its ok, & some feel its very disrespectful to a partner.

    Which do you prefer & why?


    It happens. That attraction is what made him interested in you in the first place. Think of it this way, the promise is to not FUCK other men not to never be attracted to another man in any way shape or form.

    Go ahead and hope that he is never attracted to them, but be prepared for a life of disappointment.
  • Iakona

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    Aug 26, 2011 5:57 PM GMT
    My husband and I point out to each other guys we think are hot.....actually we have very similar taste....It's about knowing where your heart is....I can find guys hot, doesn't mean I am going to do anything with them.
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    Aug 26, 2011 6:01 PM GMT
    I don't see anything wrong with my bf looking at another guy and telling me that the guy is hot. Thinking someone's hot doesn't mean you want to have crazy sex with the guy. Even if you did want to have sex with the guy, it doesn't really mean much until you actually have sex with the guy. It's healthy to appreciate beauty, and in my mind it's even healthier if my bf trusts me enough to tell me about it. I think at bottom it's all about high self-esteem, trust in your bf, and confidence in your relationship.
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    Aug 26, 2011 6:54 PM GMT
    I encourage it. In fact, I'd be offended if he didn't vocalize it, because it would make me feel like he's lying when he says I'm hot.

    Alternatively, I wouldn't date a guy who gets offended when I vocalize my appreciation for other males. Hell half my career is based on the appreciation of other males.
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    Aug 26, 2011 7:18 PM GMT
    Iakona saidMy husband and I point out to each other guys we think are hot.....actually we have very similar taste....It's about knowing where your heart is....I can find guys hot, doesn't mean I am going to do anything with them.


    We do the same thing! (BTW, today is our 11th anniversary!) One of the local 'ass-holier-than-thou' fags said it seemed like we were looking for something besides what we have.

    I told the fucktard "Just because I window shop doesn't mean I am going to try on everything in the window!"icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 26, 2011 8:25 PM GMT
    When living in NY, my partner and I would take photos of sleeping guys on trains who we thought were hot and email them back and forth
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    Aug 26, 2011 8:26 PM GMT
    At my last birthday party, my boyfriend nearly snapped his neck checking out one of the waiters. My mother saw and gave me the eye. I looked at him, looked at the waiter, and said to my mother "At least he has good taste."
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    Aug 26, 2011 8:26 PM GMT
    Everything has a limit . As long as you are on one accord wiht your partner then should be fine... You have to make sure that the both of you are cool with it. If you do it and disregard how the other will feel the the problems start icon_razz.gif

    For me I think its fine.

    Do what you would normally do when I am not around.
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    Aug 26, 2011 8:29 PM GMT
    Lean_mean_cocky_bastard saidAt my last birthday party, my boyfriend nearly snapped his neck checking out one of the waiters. My mother saw and gave me the eye. I looked at him, looked at the waiter, and said to my mother "At least he has good taste."


    +1
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    Aug 26, 2011 8:29 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    Now....about this anniverary.....if the 1st is paper, and the 5th is wood....for gay guys, is the 11th anniversary Latex??? icon_biggrin.gif Congrats on 11 years together!


    Hm....I've got both 'wood' and latex....we're set! LMAO

    Thanx for the comment! icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 26, 2011 8:35 PM GMT
    My partner and I do it all the time and I think it's very healthy. I'd be concerned if my partner (said he only) found me attractive. If you're secure with yourself and your relationship, you have little to worry about.
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    Aug 26, 2011 9:18 PM GMT
    I would be fine with it as long as it isn't every 5 minutes. If he thought everyone was hot, it would make me feel a lot less special. But you know a guy is checking out other guys sometimes so I think it is ok (maybe even better) to vocalize it. Plus it depends on how he goes about it. Going nuts over how hot a guy is might bother me a bit. It also all depends on our relationship. If I know he is crazy about me and loves me, I really would never give a shit haha
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    Aug 26, 2011 9:25 PM GMT
    Twas a BIG no-no when I was with my ex.
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    Aug 26, 2011 9:30 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidAlthough I'm generally not attracted to women, pulchritudinous features are worthy of a compliment regardless of gender..in my book. icon_smile.gif



    Ahhh, Muscle, how you turn me on when you talk dirty!
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    Aug 26, 2011 9:39 PM GMT
    Iakona saidMy husband and I point out to each other guys we think are hot.....actually we have very similar taste....It's about knowing where your heart is....I can find guys hot, doesn't mean I am going to do anything with them.


    This is so true. Just because a guy is hot does not mean you want to hook up.
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    Aug 26, 2011 9:39 PM GMT
    I like it, cuz then we can have a three-way.
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    Aug 26, 2011 9:40 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    solaguy said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidAlthough I'm generally not attracted to women, pulchritudinous features are worthy of a compliment regardless of gender..in my book. icon_smile.gif



    Ahhh, Muscle, how you turn me on when you talk dirty!

    See, that's why you guys need universal healthcare....I'm pretty sure we've cured pulchritritudinous up here in Canada. icon_neutral.gif


    We have universal health care - ObamaCare (aka P-PACA).
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    Aug 26, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    It's a museum. You can look, but don't touch.
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    Aug 26, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    It's a museum. You can look, but don't touch.
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    Aug 26, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    It's a museum. You can look, but don't touch.
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    Aug 26, 2011 10:14 PM GMT
    It's okay to look, but I don't want to hear about it. I was on a date with a guy who kept telling me how hot this or that guy was walking by us. I felt like he was interested in everyone but me. We did not have a second date despite his request.
  • grnranger99

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    Aug 26, 2011 10:32 PM GMT
    In the end, its not who you love but who you fall in love with....
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    Aug 26, 2011 10:34 PM GMT
    my boyfriend and I call them "meats"as our code work.. Its very healthy to discuss hot guys, I mean acting like they dont exist is sort of stupid.
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    Aug 26, 2011 10:37 PM GMT
    jprichva said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidAlthough I'm generally not attracted to women pulchritudinous features are worthy of a compliment regardless of gender..in my book.

    See, now A has his college degree, suddenly he's usin' dem $10 words.... icon_smile.gif

    I chuckled at this one....in a good way of course icon_biggrin.gif