Intro time :)

  • citypartyboy

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    Aug 27, 2011 2:05 AM GMT
    Hey guys,

    First, I want to introduce myself. I am new here, I've been around for only a month or so, but I've read your boards and posts for a little even before that. I am so glad that RJ exists because already I have learned a lot about myself through each of you and through reading your posts. You guys have shown me that a whole new world exists, one that I am not too familiar with myself just yet.

    I graduated from college about 3 years ago (I can't believe it has been that long already! I must be getting old.), have a great job in sales, have a great family, awesome friends, and enjoy going out at night (hence the profile name, which might be tentative icon_wink.gif ), going to the gym, watching movies, and just overall being a typical 20sum year old. I'm one of the nicest people you will meet, and tend to give people the benefit of the doubt in most situations, for better or worse. Also, I am a pro at sarcasm, hopefully you can handle it icon_lol.gif

    But anyway, I think I am getting to that "coming out" point in my life. I am happy in every part of life, except in that region. I know the 'point' comes for some people at 12 years old, and for some, never at all. Im growing increasingly tired of having to dance around the questions of girls and I feel like Im getting to the point of just letting go and being me. My question is, once you reach the point of coming out, how do you push yourself to do it? Once you jump in, you're in and theres no coming back haha (that sounds so deep and twisted), but it's true. It's one of the few phrases that you will ever say that can never been taken back, nor should ever be apologized for. I have read a few of your coming out stories and they all sounded great, or eventually became great, and I want that too. I feel that if I do it now, I am still young enough to enjoy this whole new world that I am on the edge of entering. I can't quite figure out what is holding me back. My family loves me unconditionally (they tell me everyday - corny, i know lol), I am mostly me around friends, and they all love me too. No one in my family or friends circle ever says anything anti-gay that would make me not want to do it. What is keeping me from doing it and holding me back? Not to sound cocky, but I feel that I am an awesome person who has a lot to offer and that I deserve this aspect of life just like everyone else.

    Thanks in advance, I hate being one of these advice threads, but most of you guys have done it, lived it, and now love it.

    I look forward to getting to know you all too! PaulFlexes, I want a calendar with a funny saying for each day, why are you not on SNL yet? KSUOwl, I've seen your posts too and they seem to really be similar to myself, and Art, your posts always have good intentions and genuine ideas. I'm looking forward to getting to know everyone on this board. icon_biggrin.gif Feel free to hit me up with an IM if you see me on.
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    Aug 27, 2011 2:13 AM GMT
    Welcome to the boards.

    Might I suggest uploading a photo at your earliest convenience - it helps to "put a face on things", heheh.
  • a303guy

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    Aug 27, 2011 2:15 AM GMT
    alphatrigger saidWelcome to the boards.

    Might I suggest uploading a photo at your earliest convenience - it helps to "put a face on things", heheh.


    What he said, plus, like, 5 Faceless profiles and their posts are, frankly, worthless. its 2011.
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    Aug 27, 2011 2:18 AM GMT
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    Aug 27, 2011 2:18 AM GMT
    Either post face pics AND verify, or I will assume you're one of those people who use the internet to lure in gays to beat and/or kill.
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    Aug 27, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    Welcome! And thanks for the shout-out! I agree with the gentleman above me. A pic will help people take you a bit more seriously on here.

    But yeah as far as coming out, its scary as hell and I postponed it WAY too long. I had all these fears of my best guy friends not wanting anything to do with me ever again. Well I came out and I am even moving into a place next weekend with one of my straight guy friends, so no relationships were tarnished and now I can be myself. I wish I did it years ago. But its kinda something you just have to do. I don't know if anyone is ever 100% ready to come out. Just gotta take the plunge.
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    Aug 27, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    Just go do what you want to do, and when people ask what's up, don't lie, tell them you're gay. That's how I'm handling it at least. You don't have to have a grand entrance to the world of being gay, you can slip in if you're not comfortable coming out to everyone all at one time.
  • citypartyboy

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    Aug 27, 2011 2:34 AM GMT
    KSUOWL saidWelcome! And thanks for the shout-out! I agree with the gentleman above me. A pic will help people take you a bit more seriously on here.

    But yeah as far as coming out, its scary as hell and I postponed it WAY too long. I had all these fears of my best guy friends not wanting anything to do with me ever again. Well I came out and I am even moving into a place next weekend with one of my straight guy friends, so no relationships were tarnished and now I can be myself. I wish I did it years ago. But its kinda something you just have to do. I don't know if anyone is ever 100% ready to come out. Just gotta take the plunge.



    Yeah, very true about the plunge and no one ever being 100%. I don't think anyone ever just casually goes, "Yeah, i'll food shop, then pick up the cleaning, then tell everyone I'm gay." Don't wanna do it this weekend though with the storm coming up East and possibly be rained-in and stuck inside haha