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    Aug 28, 2011 2:51 AM GMT
    Pity thread i made a while ago. Ignore
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    Aug 28, 2011 2:52 AM GMT
    it's just your age. Nothing you can do about that. Date guys your age for a while.
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    Aug 28, 2011 2:54 AM GMT
    chris2787 saidWell I send a message once and a while to a few guys that are obviously way out of my league and I don't expect a response. The truth is I have not got a response to one message that I have sent to anyone and they all said read by receiver. it is just beginning to piss me off. Am I really that ugly or is it something about my profile that says stay the fuck away? So could someone please enlighten me to why I am ignored by every single person I send a message to?

    I am not looking for pity. I just want to know so I can improve my profile.

    What message are you sending? You've only been here a little over a week, with 2 posts as of this moment. Unsolicited e-mail from unknown newbies often gets ignored, because a lot of spammers do that.
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    Aug 28, 2011 2:54 AM GMT
    Upload adult pics, pose more provocatively LOL and change your profile pic with those white boxes covering your friends, your profile pic should be your best pic , you should use the one of you in the gray shirt as your profile pic. Oh yeah, and post more on the forums and you'll meet more guys that way.
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    Aug 28, 2011 2:57 AM GMT
    Upper_Canadian saidit's just your age. Nothing you can do about that. Date guys your age for a while.


    I only try to date guys my age. They all ignore me.
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    Aug 28, 2011 2:58 AM GMT
    Hypnotico saidUpload adult pics, pose more provocatively LOL and change your profile pic with those white boxes covering your friends, your profile pic should be your best pic , you should use the one of you in the gray shirt as your profile pic. Oh yeah, and post more on the forums and you'll meet more guys that way.


    Those are my adult pictures. All those pictures were taken when I was 24. I just don't have many photos of myself.
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    Aug 28, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
    chris2787 said
    Hypnotico saidUpload adult pics, pose more provocatively LOL and change your profile pic with those white boxes covering your friends, your profile pic should be your best pic , you should use the one of you in the gray shirt as your profile pic. Oh yeah, and post more on the forums and you'll meet more guys that way.


    Those are my adult pictures. All those pictures were taken when I was 24. I just don't have many photos of myself.


    adult as in shirtless, or sexier pics, that'll bring you more attention.
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:00 AM GMT
    chris2787 said
    Hypnotico saidUpload adult pics, pose more provocatively LOL and change your profile pic with those white boxes covering your friends, your profile pic should be your best pic , you should use the one of you in the gray shirt as your profile pic. Oh yeah, and post more on the forums and you'll meet more guys that way.

    Those are my adult pictures. All those pictures were taken when I was 24. I just don't have many photos of myself.

    I think he meant adult-rated pics, not pics of you over 18.
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:01 AM GMT
    Hypnotico said
    chris2787 said
    Hypnotico saidUpload adult pics, pose more provocatively LOL and change your profile pic with those white boxes covering your friends, your profile pic should be your best pic , you should use the one of you in the gray shirt as your profile pic. Oh yeah, and post more on the forums and you'll meet more guys that way.


    Those are my adult pictures. All those pictures were taken when I was 24. I just don't have many photos of myself.


    adult as in shirtless, or sexier pics, that'll bring you more attention.

    I don't look good shirtless. I am still working on that. I mean I don't think I look that bad. I just have zero definition.
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidI'd suggest your "guys I'd like to meet" section could use a little word-massaging...
    I sometimes come off as not interested in my responses but if I respond I am interested in chatting. I usually don't respond to people that come off as desperate or creepy. I don't know why I always get those kind of guys since there are a lot prettier guys the creepers can be going after besides me.

    There's got to be a better way to say that, lol. icon_wink.gif

    Good point. I just changed that. That is probably information I can keep to myself.
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    chris2787 said
    Upper_Canadian saidit's just your age. Nothing you can do about that. Date guys your age for a while.


    I only try to date guys my age. They all ignore me.


    Let's evaluate what you're doing.

    #1 What type of messages are you sending? One liners? or something more deep.

    #2 What type of guy are you trying to attract?

    If you're just sending "hey" & "sup" most likely people are not gonna be interested. I'm the type that will reply to most msgs. but not one liners.

    If you're trying to grab the attention of the so-called "ego gods" you are gonna get ignore because that's what they do. Which explain why they are here.


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    Aug 28, 2011 3:07 AM GMT
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    chris2787 said
    Upper_Canadian saidit's just your age. Nothing you can do about that. Date guys your age for a while.


    I only try to date guys my age. They all ignore me.


    Let's evaluate what you're doing.

    #1 What type of messages are you sending? One liners? or something more deep.

    #2 What type of guy are you trying to attract?

    If you're just sending "hey" & "sup" most likely people are not gonna be interested. I'm the type that will reply to most msgs. but not one liners.

    If you're trying to grab the attention of the so-called "ego gods" you are gonna get ignore because that's what they do. Which explain why they are here.




    i usually send messages to people that share the same interests as me. So I will usually mention I read it in the profile. Maybe I would be better off with one liners?
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:13 AM GMT
    No shirtless pics. That's the primary reason. It's a fitness site, and the majority of people want to see if you're actually working on progress or just trying to find a trophy boyfriend (or maybe they're looking for a trophy boyfriend, and lack of shirtless pics leaves them hanging so they go to the next guy).

    As for messaging guys "out of your league," I occasionally get hotlisted by guys I would otherwise consider to be out of my league. Just because they have more body definition does not mean they won't find you attractive...everyone has different tastes.

    And lastly, it could be WHAT you type. If your words make you sound needy, lack confidence, pushy, overly dramatic, or creepy, then that would drive people away too.

    Oh yeah, and your OP makes you sound needy, lack confidence, and overly dramatic. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:13 AM GMT
    amoonhawk saidI think your pretty darned good looking, so not to sure why. When you say they are way out of your league, what do you mean by that? Are you just sending the "hey what up?" or "your hot", message or something a little more personal that opens a conversation up. Maybe something like "wow, you look awesome, I would love to know what is your workout routine for looking so great?"


    I never send a message like that. I always try to go into a little more depth. Will usually comment on something in the profile that seems interesting to me.
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    chris2787 saidi usually send messages to people that share the same interests as me. So I will usually mention I read it in the profile. Maybe I would be better off with one liners?

    There, I just made things a little friendlier for you here. You seem like a sincere guy. Hang in there, you'll get the hang of this place before long. Every online social site has its own unique patterns, don't get discouraged so quickly.
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    chris2787 said Maybe I would be better off with one liners?


    No. They don't give any jumping points for conversation.

    I get irked at messages that just say "hi" "sup" "how's it goin'. There's nothing to respond to that.
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidNo shirtless pics. That's the primary reason. It's a fitness site, and the majority of people want to see if you're actually working on progress or just trying to find a trophy boyfriend (or maybe they're looking for a trophy boyfriend, and lack of shirtless pics leaves them hanging so they go to the next guy).

    As for messaging guys "out of your league," I occasionally get hotlisted by guys I would otherwise consider to be out of my league. Just because they have more body definition does not mean they won't find you attractive...everyone has different tastes.

    And lastly, it could be WHAT you type. If your words make you sound needy, lack confidence, pushy, overly dramatic, or creepy, then that would drive people away too.

    Oh yeah, and your OP makes you sound needy, lack confidence, and overly dramatic. icon_wink.gif


    I would put a shirtless pic but I am still a work in progress. I might put one up anyways. I think I sometimes come off as needy or desperate but I am not at all at least in real life. This post probably makes me sound that way. I was just trying to get an answer.
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    You're cute as you can be. . . so don't worry, it's not your looks icon_biggrin.gif

    People sometimes ignore messages on here, for any number of reasons. Really, it's not a commentary on you. Just keep sending messages out. . . you'll get plenty of responses.
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:18 AM GMT
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    chris2787 saidi usually send messages to people that share the same interests as me. So I will usually mention I read it in the profile. Maybe I would be better off with one liners?

    There, I just made things a little friendlier for you here. You seem like a sincere guy. Hang in there, you'll get the hang of this place before long. Every online social site has its own unique patterns, don't get discouraged so quickly.

    Cool thank you. I was on this site before but I deleted my profile by accident. I hit tab and enter twice or something.
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:21 AM GMT
    you look underage icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:22 AM GMT
    chris2787 saidI would put a shirtless pic but I am still a work in progress. I might put one up anyways. I think I sometimes come off as needy or desperate but I am not at all at least in real life. This post probably makes me sound that way. I was just trying to get an answer.
    Pfft...I've still got a shirtless pic up of when I was only halfway through the progress. In my eyes it's very unattractive, though other people have vocally disagreed, both online and offline. Of course it's a nude pic, so that automatically wins hot points with most people regardless of body definition. icon_lol.gif

    I do think that's your answer, though...lack of confidence. It might be subconscious in real life, but it shows in the words you type. Just remember that other people have different eyes, and as result they see things differently from you. I think you're pretty sexy. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:23 AM GMT
    wowgamer92 saidyou look underage icon_eek.gif

    I got that. I usually get that at work. People usually tell me I look like I am 15. They are shocked to find out I am 24.
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:25 AM GMT
    wowgamer92 saidyou look underage icon_eek.gif
    Looks can be deceiving. Yeah he "looks" underage, but I've dated a guy older than him who looked even younger. It only lasted through one date, though, because I felt like a pedophile for even going on the first date. He looked much younger in person than in his pics (and he had valid ID to backup his age). icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
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    Upper_Canadian saidit's just your age. Nothing you can do about that. Date guys your age for a while.


    I only try to date guys my age. They all ignore me.


    Let's evaluate what you're doing.

    #1 What type of messages are you sending? One liners? or something more deep.

    #2 What type of guy are you trying to attract?

    If you're just sending "hey" & "sup" most likely people are not gonna be interested. I'm the type that will reply to most msgs. but not one liners.

    If you're trying to grab the attention of the so-called "ego gods" you are gonna get ignore because that's what they do. Which explain why they are here.




    i usually send messages to people that share the same interests as me. So I will usually mention I read it in the profile. Maybe I would be better off with one liners?


    You're doing it the right way then. Don't let it get to you. Some of these guys in here **think** that by replying to someone who message them they are engaging into a new relationship with whoever send them the message and refuse to acknowledge the sender when he doesn't fit their criteria. The same applies to those Guy Above You threads. They will only reply when they "like" whoever posted last.

    There are almost 300K plus profiles here. You're gonna find someone who's intelligent enough that shares the same interest as you and won't be stupid enough to think that by conversing with you they're opening the imaginary relationship door.



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    Aug 28, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    Your percentage has gone up... look at the replies you've received here!

    ...and there is something about you that I can say, I'd definitely respond!

    Kidding, but seriously, the "age" thing might have something to do with it and also how you approach the person you are contacting. If someone sends me a message and they say "sup"... I probably won't respond.
    Now you don't look like a "supper" lol, but you might try a little different approach. I try and respond to the vast majority of those who send me a message. There are a few that don't get a response....lol