Man, I saw and grabbed a great quote yesterday which totally applies:
"God loves you, it's the Christians who hate you."
Your family tradition is so strong that you're going to need to allow yourself plenty of time - to not try and shake all of that, unless you choose, instead to make reconciliation. Anybody can abide by religious principles whether or not they choose to subscribe to the whole package. Though I'm agnostic one of the tenets many faith traditions share, as do I, is that someone has to be forgiving. "...for they know not what they do," is one I'm sure you've heard. Do your best to keep that in mind because realistically, the news is not going to be warmly embraced. (Though one never knows.
There is a nonsectarian national group which has some stuff to read specific to the religious question: http://www.pflag.org What's also really good about this organization is that they put no restrictions on who goes to one of their chapter meetings. Untold thousands of BLGT people aged from their teens to WAY older have found an instant support system and even "parent wanna-be's" by visiting. This sort of safety net is crucial
to have in place before you take that big step. We here on RJ can give you all the supportive words and virtual hugs you can stand. It makes a huge difference to receive these from real live humans (real hugs at that), though.
Know that you're walking a path which scads of people have walked before (or, run the xc course of if you prefer.
) And just because some of us have made it, doesn't mean we're not willing to step back and walk it with you.
One more quote and I'm out, this one from African-American Christian tradition: "I'm not junk. God made me, and He don't make no junk."