Battered and bruised -- and loving it

  • slimnmuscly

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    Aug 28, 2011 5:03 AM GMT
    Every now and then I go through an intense period of wanting hot guys to beat the crap out of me. This is one of those times.

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    These bruises came from two different guys who don't like each other. It feels a little like they're conducting some kind of turf battle on my body.

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    With both of them, fear is a big part of the experience. Both are stronger than me and know how to fight. I don't. And both tend to get out of control.

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    But even though there's fear and humiliation (and sometimes too much pain) involved, the overall experience is surprisingly empowering and incredibly euphoric.

    Does anybody else ever go on these kinds of adventures?
  • commoncoll

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    Aug 28, 2011 5:24 AM GMT
    I can understand that the loss of power and control along with added helplessness add to the experience. Although I like rough sex, I don't like to hurt/be hurt during sex enough to leave so many bruises but I have a few questions for you...
    Does this happen during intercourse or before?
    Is the violence controlled?
    Do you use a safe word?
    How long do the bruises last?
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    Aug 28, 2011 5:24 AM GMT
    I can understand the desire to engage in "safe, sane, consensual SM play". Fear and humiliation are part of this kind of play.

    I encourage you to consider if "safe, sane, consensual" would, within any reasonable interpretation, include "without injury".

    Why? Because, bruises are injuries. Repeated bruising can cause permanent discoloration of the area bruised, as well as circulatory issues in the area of the repeated bruising. Bruises can calcify. Bruises of the bone have been linked to bone cancer.

    Consider how you might be able to continue enjoying your fetish without risking your long term health. If you cannot imagine a way to enjoy your fetish without injury, consider speaking with a counselor or therapist who is versed in "safe, sane, consensual SM play" as an additional resource.

    Safety first. Take care of yourself, hot man. Stay hot.
  • slimnmuscly

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    Aug 28, 2011 3:51 PM GMT
    commoncoll saidI can understand that the loss of power and control along with added helplessness add to the experience. Although I like rough sex, I don't like to hurt/be hurt during sex enough to leave so many bruises but I have a few questions for you...
    Does this happen during intercourse or before?
    Is the violence controlled?
    Do you use a safe word?
    How long do the bruises last?


    We didn't have intercourse in either case, although both guys have said they want to fuck me. Beater No. 1 is so unspeakably sexy in a way that pushes all my buttons that I would seriously consider letting him, though I haven't been fucked in eight years. I'd probably get impaled, though.

    Beater No. 2 wanted to fuck me the other night, and again I was so turned on I would have considered it, but neither of us had condoms so we didn't. He did rape my mouth, which was very hot and absolutely in keeping with the spirit of events.

    Some added details: Beater No. 1 and I have never been alone with each other. He's just very dominant, even to the point of being violent, when we're at a sleazy bar together (the two or three times we've hung out). And the bruises from him are actually bites -- no broken skin, but hickeys gone overboard. I much prefer being punched to being bitten. But he also lets me grope and worship his muscles as part of the play, and the psychological rush either outweighs the pain or gives it a run for its money.

    So the violence, in his case, is controlled in that we're in a public place and things can only get so out of hand. In Beater No. 2's case, we were alone and hadn't discussed safe words or anything -- it was more a matter of pent-up sexual tension exploding. We've been friends more than a year and have always traded punches when hanging out, so the other night was a culmination of that. I guess I'd call the friendship a loose "control" in that he cares about me and wouldn't want to truly hurt me. Undermining that control: We were both hammered.

    As for how long the bruises last, usually 1-2 weeks, based on past experience. Which is one reason I don't go to these extremes very often. I do love how the bruises look, though, and carrying around reminders of being owned by those guys.

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    Aug 28, 2011 3:54 PM GMT
    I love hot guys who can take a good beating and can appreciate being "owned." Good boy!
  • slimnmuscly

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    Aug 28, 2011 4:25 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidI can understand the desire to engage in "safe, sane, consensual SM play". Fear and humiliation are part of this kind of play.

    I encourage you to consider if "safe, sane, consensual" would, within any reasonable interpretation, include "without injury".

    Why? Because, bruises are injuries. Repeated bruising can cause permanent discoloration of the area bruised, as well as circulatory issues in the area of the repeated bruising. Bruises can calcify. Bruises of the bone have been linked to bone cancer.

    Consider how you might be able to continue enjoying your fetish without risking your long term health. If you cannot imagine a way to enjoy your fetish without injury, consider speaking with a counselor or therapist who is versed in "safe, sane, consensual SM play" as an additional resource.

    Safety first. Take care of yourself, hot man. Stay hot.


    Thanks for the kind words, sexy. I agree with your advice from a medium/long-term perspective and should stress that these episodes, when they occur, are short-lived because of the considerations you bring up.

    But every now and then a certain itch needs scratching that, for me, requires coloring outside the proverbial lines. Every now and then "safe, sane, consensual SM play" isn't what I'm after, but rather a beatdown from a guy so hot -- which is at least as much about our chemistry as his body and looks -- the usual cost/benefit analysis doesn't apply.

    It can't and won't last. Which is why I'm documenting the bruises now.
  • slimnmuscly

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    Aug 28, 2011 4:29 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidI love hot guys who can take a good beating and can appreciate being "owned." Good boy!


    I love being owned. icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 28, 2011 6:35 PM GMT
    slimnmuscly said
    DOMINUS saidI love hot guys who can take a good beating and can appreciate being "owned." Good boy!


    I love being owned. icon_twisted.gif


    Well - you ARE prime real estate....
  • Nayro

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    Aug 29, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
    They really let themselves go on ur nipples didnt they? :O