How long would you wait for a quality guy to put out?

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    Aug 28, 2011 1:25 PM GMT
    Coming out late in life and rather new to this dating thing. Always been an LTR kinda guy and would like to have a bit of a bond with someone before hitting the sack. What's the longest you've waited for a guy you like to put out?

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    Thanks for all the great input guys (give or take a couple - boy some men can be pigs ;) ). Anyhow, good point about the sexual compatibility thing and not putting time tables on things. Not being prudish at all, just feeling apprehensive. Tough to find myself feeling pretty inept, regarding the bedroom, at 47. Especially when it looks like there could be some sharks in them there waters. At the same time sounds like a lot of loving and supportive guys out there.
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    Aug 28, 2011 1:49 PM GMT
    Really depends on the guy.
  • Midas426

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    Aug 28, 2011 2:17 PM GMT
    4 months
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    Aug 28, 2011 2:20 PM GMT
    A quality guy? Forever.
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    Aug 28, 2011 2:30 PM GMT
    If you are seeking a LTR, holding a stopwatch till when he puts out ... should not be done.

    Let things take their natural course, and enjoy each other.

    Sometimes the cuddling and making out will make the full-on headboard-breaking gorilla sex that comes later all the more powerful.

    That said, if you (or he: not clear who is looking to get whose cookie here) needs to get the dick wet, then start moving things in that direction.

    Ultimately you have to do what is best for you and him: intimacy is a key part of any relationship.
  • laxdude25

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    Aug 28, 2011 2:37 PM GMT
    I don't do hook-ups. Most of the time I meet a guy through sports or work or some random event, but even if I meet them online I will wait a while to get to know them before we play. It just takes the pressure off, and somehow seems to make the action hotter when it finally happens. But I know plenty of guys who connect on the first meet and it's all good.
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    Aug 28, 2011 2:53 PM GMT
    Just let things unfold naturally.
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:02 PM GMT
    gymrat100 saidA quality guy? Forever.


    Nicely put!
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    I have never had to. But I would be willing to wait quite a while if this guy was really that special. I love sex and it is important to me, but finding a great guy for the long term is more important
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:31 PM GMT
    TriAthInCA saidComing out late in life and rather new to this dating thing. Always been an LTR kinda guy and would like to have a bit of a bond with someone before hitting the sack. What's the longest you've waited for a guy you like to put out?


    "Quality" and "put out" are not of the same context. Perhaps you are better off with a "$6,000" and hour whore until you "work out" your newness to 'gaydom'. (Or for that matter the straight world.)
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:38 PM GMT
    I'd wait as long as it takes, and have just let things roll along nicely at their own pace.

    I get the feeling that the OP wants numbers...and I can say that with one guy I fell in love with, we waited until we were together for 7 months before we went "all the way"...another, we waited two months, another, about 3. That said, it was dependent on the guy. One guy I had a long term relationship with - we ended up having sex the first time we went out on a date, although we had known each other for 2 years.

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    Aug 28, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    Don't adhere to anyone's or society's timelines. Do it when you want to do it because you want to do it. That may be sooner or later. As others have said, let things unfold naturally.
  • UStriathlete

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    Aug 28, 2011 3:47 PM GMT
    as patti from millionaire matcher says...

    no sex until monogamy

    it's better than a time line
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    Aug 28, 2011 3:47 PM GMT
    After dessert. No one is worth the wait.
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    Aug 28, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    Just let it goes with the natural course. Love, admire, interact, respect the guy first, then everything else. It is the same for both gay and stright relations.
    Good luck and Regards
  • iowaguy000

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    Aug 28, 2011 4:34 PM GMT
    Last Call.
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    Aug 28, 2011 4:43 PM GMT
    My partner of 9 years and I both came out late and met through an online site. We talked on the phone for a few weeks before he came down to visit me. He is a psychiatrist and was very active in the gay community in Dallas for 25 years. That being said, we decided the trip down here was "just dinner" and hands off the private parts.

    To get to the point. 20 min after the plane landed we were doing the deed. He never left and we couldn't be happier.

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    Aug 28, 2011 5:01 PM GMT
    Depends if I'm buying dinner or not each date. Depends too if I'm stopping by a fuckbuds afterwards to relieve the hormonal pressure. Grin.
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    Aug 28, 2011 5:09 PM GMT
    I would definitely wait as long as it takes for the right guy. I would not put a time frame on it.
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    Aug 28, 2011 5:21 PM GMT
    Quality guy? What is that? lol.. you mean one I like? I dunno...
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    Aug 28, 2011 6:24 PM GMT
    DOH!!! Though I have a 27-inch screen, I have trouble reading the forums because this browser window is sized small to share the desktop with others, including a satellite TV window.

    So I thought this thread title was "How long would you wait for a quality guy to PULL out" [my emphasis] And I was thinking: till he runs out of lube? Till you feel the dribble down your butt? When your raised legs go numb? Imagine my disappointment when I opened the thread and read the posts. icon_redface.gif
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    Aug 28, 2011 6:46 PM GMT
    ^ lol, *shakes head*
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    Aug 28, 2011 7:18 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidDOH!!! Though I have a 27-inch screen, I have trouble reading the forums because this browser window is sized small to share the desktop with others, including a satellite TV window.

    I thought this thread title was "How long would you wait for a quality guy to PULL out" [my emphasis] And I was thinking: till he runs out of lube? Till you feel the dribble down your butt? When your raised legs go numb? Imagine my disappointment when I opened and read the posts. icon_redface.gif


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    Aug 28, 2011 7:27 PM GMT
    There's no real timeline. Whatever works for you. Though I do think there's something to be said for getting to know each other a bit before doing the deed, particularly if you're looking for a LTR. Was about 3-4 weeks for my last relationship....
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    Aug 28, 2011 7:34 PM GMT
    i wait for no man, well i kinda did yesterday arrrrhhh that was stupidicon_evil.gif