New here and looking for advice!

  • Fiveldsp

    Posts: 99

    May 08, 2008 2:44 PM GMT
    Hello guys:

    Name's Rich, just found this site the other day through a friend who told me I should check it out for advice and help on getting the tone and build I want. So I thought I'd post a thread up here and introduce myself and ask a couple questions to see if I could get some help from you guys, who obviously know more about all of this than I do.

    I'm 28 years old, 5'3", 129lbs. Certainly not happy with my body, which has over the last 5 years gotten thicker and squishier, heh. I like doing anything outside when it's warm out, love bowling, golf and billiards, watching movies with friends and spending as much time as I can with my boy. Despite the fact that I am a nudist and an exhibitionist, I have this insecurity about working out in front of people, so to help with that I got myself a bowflex home gym to use at home. I've tried a few of their workout routines in their manual that they give you, and even though the exercises feel really good while I'm doing them using their proper form and all, I never seem to notice any results or feel like I've done anything the next day. I've added weights, changed to different workouts, etc, but all pretty much resulting in the same frustrating.

    So I guess if someone who might have some experience using a bowflex or has been in a similar situation as me could help I would greatly appreciate it.

    Also, I am a web developer and sit at a desk for 8 hours a day typing away on code and making graphics. So I don't have the most active job in the world. I do however walk a lap around the block during my lunch break and take the stairs from the 4th floor every time instead of using the elevator. I eat out for lunch every day and would like to eat as healthy as I can during the day. Packing isn't the best of options for me just because of limited time in the morning as well as not having a refrigerated place to store my food at work. So I wasn't sure if someone has found some good things to eat at random fast food places that were tolerable for someone trying to watch what they eat when trying to lose fat and gain muscle.

    Over all, I'm not afraid to bust my ass to get the body I want, I just want to know that the work that I'm putting into it is actually the right work and that it's going to pay off. On my profile, the two pictures of me in the mirror taken with my cell phone are what I currently look like, compared to what I look like in the christmas tree picture which was 3 years ago.

    Thanks in advance to everyone who took the time to read this and anything at all that you're willing to share icon_smile.gif

  • olden

    Posts: 200

    May 08, 2008 5:38 PM GMT
    Welcome to Real Jock. It is a great site with very knowledgeable people ready to help.

    Don't fell embarrassed about going to a gym. Most of the people there remember when they were not the perfect Adonises and Venuses they think themselves now. Also a lot of the guys there are more than happy to give you advice on exercises and techniques. Remember bad technique can negate all your efforts and cause injuries to boot.

    I was in rotten shape when I started back at the gym, but I kept it up. Keep in mind that you are there for YOU not for the others there.

    IMO even the most nutritious food from a fast food place is not very good for you. One thing you might try is to make you lunch the night before and store it in the refrigerator. Get yourself an insulated lunch bag with a freezer packet included. Freeze the packet overnight and it will keep your food cold at your desk well past lunchtime.

    I am sure others will have better advice, but here is a start.

    Good luck and keep up the random daily exercise amid your work.
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    May 08, 2008 6:10 PM GMT
    Hi Rich,

    I lost 50 lbs, and put on some noticable mass with a Bowflex over a period of a year. I didn't notice any change at all until at least 6 weeks went by, and then the results were minimal at best. Then changes started to happen more rapidly although not evenly.
    The issue is consistency. I chose the muscle building program in the book and supplemented it with a few extra exercises. The diet played an important role for me as well since my problem in eating was more about sugar than fat. I didn't really have refrigerator access at work, there are easy ways around that if your creative.
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    May 08, 2008 6:14 PM GMT
    Did I hear 5'3"???? .... icon_eek.gif .... well, hello fiveldsp! .... icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 08, 2008 6:18 PM GMT
    Oh Caslon! You cheeky monkey!
  • Fiveldsp

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    May 08, 2008 6:22 PM GMT
    lol, yeah Caslon... my nickname is TONKA, like the toy truck, because i'm like the real thing only smaller, heh. Thanks for the words of advice so far guys. I've heard a lot of people tell me after getting my bowflex that they are a waste of money and don't actually work, so i'm glad to hear that atleast someone else had results with one and that I didn't waste my money. It's just easier for me to work at home on my own equipment than to track down a gym in town that I can use. I live way out in the country and the only gym I've found within 50 miles of me is a YMCA that doesn't have a very good selection of equipment and puts a lot of restrictions on when you can actually go in and work out. If I was still in college I could use one of the many university gyms around here, but seems a little overboard to go to college just to work out, lol.
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    May 08, 2008 7:48 PM GMT
  • Squarejaw

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    May 08, 2008 8:56 PM GMT
    Are you insecure about going to the gym, or is it a full-blown phobia that leads to anxiety attacks that leave you unable to function.

    If it's just insecurity, the best way to get over it is just to go to the gym anyway. Resign yourself to the fact that you'll feel uncomfortable the first few times, and go anyway. Lots of things worth doing feel scary beforehand. One of life's great lessons is that mild fear and anxiety are not necessarily reasons to avoid something.
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    May 08, 2008 9:41 PM GMT
    pssst, fiveldsp...beware of taking advice from a mouse. .... icon_lol.gif
  • Fiveldsp

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    May 09, 2008 12:32 AM GMT
    My insecurity I think is more just the actual insecurity of not being comfortable working out in front of other people. I don't know if it's because I don't know exactly what I'm doing or if I think I would lift so little compared to them or what, but my main issue is what I stated in my 2nd post about not even really having a good gym in my area to rely on even if I did get past the insecurity.

    Caslon, as far as taking advice from a mouse, actually made me chuckle since my screen name itself has Fivel in it from the little mouse from the American Tale movies icon_smile.gif
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    May 09, 2008 9:40 AM GMT
    I say beware of caslon more than le mouse squarejaw! icon_wink.gif He has a thing for us short guys. icon_lol.gif Welcome to the forums , fiveldsp. icon_biggrin.gif