Whats up with guys that don't thank you when you hot them?

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 1:41 AM GMT
    Didn't there momas teach them how to be polite? If someone gives you a complement you say thank you. I know I'll even thank the pictureless guys. Doesn't mean you have to start a relationship. Just a simple thank you and take care. Just seems kinda rude.

    _________________

    Ok you men have put me in my place. I know when its time to eat crow icon_smile.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 1:49 AM GMT
    Maybe you should try starting a conversation with them before hotlisting to find out if they're as hot in the inside as the outside.
    Ya know...kinda like a steak...it can be seared on the edges and still cold in the middle.
  • creature

    Posts: 5197

    Aug 29, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
    But all you did was click a button. Not to say responding with "thanks" isn't simple, but technically they're putting a bit more effort than you by replying to the automated message that is sent to them.

    If you wrote an e-mail that looks like some thought was put into it, you would probably get more responses.
  • inundation

    Posts: 11

    Aug 29, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidYa know...kinda like a steak...it can be seared on the edges and still cold in the middle.


    A lot of people like steaks like that, you know.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
    It's a click of a button. Opting to not respond to a hot list is generally accepted as not a big deal. If you want a response you invest in a personal message, not a mouse click.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    Is hotlisting a big deal? I thought it was just a simple compliment. I never expect a response.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 2:13 AM GMT
    the worst part if when you spontaneously hot list someone without reading there profile first... then you read it and you think FECK he's ugly!!! but you already hot listed him and that little message is already sitting in his inbox!

    So you leave it there for a little while.. then you unhot list that bitch so hard it makes you go OMG I'm gonna read profiles first!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    inundation said
    paulflexes saidYa know...kinda like a steak...it can be seared on the edges and still cold in the middle.


    A lot of people like steaks like that, you know.
    But only once or twice a year.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    Oh boy. Sounds like I got some learning to do? Thanks guys.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    i dont, because i mention it in my profile.. otherwise it would take so much time...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:19 AM GMT
    I always thank guys who hotlist me unless they're not verified, and their profile was created yesterday and they've hotlisted like 3000 guys, but when the member is verified, or not verified but their profile is 3 years old, I do thank them.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:19 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidIt's a click of a button. Opting to not respond to a hot list is generally accepted as not a big deal. If you want a response you invest in a personal message, not a mouse click.


    YATZEE.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:20 AM GMT
    datislandboy saidIs hotlisting a big deal? I thought it was just a simple compliment. I never expect a response.


    On RJ, hotlisting is like proposing.icon_biggrin.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:22 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidIt's a click of a button. Opting to not respond to a hot list is generally accepted as not a big deal. If you want a response you invest in a personal message, not a mouse click.


    this.
  • UVaRob9

    Posts: 282

    Aug 29, 2011 3:22 AM GMT
    I find it more disturbing when someone who has never contacted or met you before adds you to their buddy list. I hate it on Facebook (at least you can see if there are mutual friends) and I loathe it here. Hi, let's try to have a dialogue before you do that.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:22 AM GMT
    Hypnotico said
    datislandboy saidIs hotlisting a big deal? I thought it was just a simple compliment. I never expect a response.


    On RJ, hotlisting is like proposing.icon_biggrin.gif


    Nice then i proposed for over than 70 guy -.- .. come on ... its just that am saying u look hot man ... if they just dun answer then they need a slap on da face ...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:28 AM GMT
    Cairo_M said
    Hypnotico said
    datislandboy saidIs hotlisting a big deal? I thought it was just a simple compliment. I never expect a response.


    On RJ, hotlisting is like proposing.icon_biggrin.gif


    Nice then i proposed for over than 70 guy -.- .. come on ... its just that am saying u look hot man ... if they just dun answer then they need a slap on da face ...


    I was kiddinicon_rolleyes.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    haha whoops should I not be thanking people then icon_confused.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:36 AM GMT
    I keep my hotlist short and cull it on occasion.

    For me, the hotlist is more of a bookmark to profiles that inspire me to do better and continue my personal fight to be my best.

    For folks I've either met in person or otherwise have had extended conversations with here or skype or the like, I use the buddy list.

    As for thanking people for hotlisting, I seldom do that, particular if the guy listing me has 12095 other guys hotlisted... lol
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:42 AM GMT
    I thank each and every one. Some are shocked when I do. A couple have even asked me why I said thank you.

    For me, a compliment is a compliment and I always am flattered (and a little surprised!).

    Please note I prefer gem stones.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:44 AM GMT
    swmrh911 saidhaha whoops should I not be thanking people then icon_confused.gif
    You'll eventually stop, or at least be more selective with whom you thank.
    I used to thank all of them, but now I just thank the ones I've talked with in the forums...or the ones who I also find attractive...or the ones who strike up an interesting conversation based on my profile info.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:46 AM GMT
    Once again people.....the Hotlist is for YOU. It's a way for YOU to keep track of the guys YOU find attractive. Please note that Hotlisting someone is NOT the same as an email. If you want a response, EMAIL them. Now if they don't respond to your email, then you can safely put them on your Douchebag List! icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:48 AM GMT
    Cash saidI thank each and every one. Some are shocked when I do. A couple have even asked me why I said thank you.

    For me, a compliment is a compliment and I always am flattered (and a little surprised!).

    Please note I prefer gem stones.


    This +1.

    I always thank them for buddy/hot listing me, even photo comments. That's how I usually initiate a conversation.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidNow if they don't respond to your email, then you can safely put them on your Douchebag List! icon_rolleyes.gif


    We need one of this too. Like seriously bad.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 29, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    ESCESV said
    Cash saidI thank each and every one. Some are shocked when I do. A couple have even asked me why I said thank you.

    For me, a compliment is a compliment and I always am flattered (and a little surprised!).

    Please note I prefer gem stones.


    This +1.

    I always thank them for buddy/hot listing me, even photo comments. That's how I usually initiate a conversation.



    So if a mega creepy dude Hotlists you, you initiate a conversation? Seems to me like that's just leading them on.