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  • Montague

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    Aug 29, 2011 2:19 PM GMT
    Has anyone ever felt that being somewhat homosexual and the life and the friends that you have now won't mix at all? I mean when I decide to leave the closet this fall, I know it's going to turn my whole world upside down, but I'm mainly stressing since I don't know if it's going to effect my professional life as well. I awoke this morning with the worst thoughts on my mind, so bad it made me not go to the morning workout session with my platoon. Also, I'm wondering if going to my first gay bar had anything to do with these feelings. Sorry if I'm rambling on about nothing, just sitting here on my iPhone with a million negative thoughts running through my mind..icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 29, 2011 2:41 PM GMT
    I have recently come out of the closet and I can give you some insight that may help you.

    1. Yes, it is difficult, but the weight of decades of repression and shame being evaporated from my life was completely worth it. I am living a much more authentic and robust life. I really like me now in a way I didn't before.

    2. "Coming out" is not an event. It is a process that can be as long and as short as you need it to be. I started with those closest to me. And when I would come out to someone, I let BOTH of us get used to it before I moved on. You do NOT have to be in the closet vs. fully out... it is an organic process... go slow and when it is overwhelming, slow down (or stop) until your brain/emotions can catch up.

    3. This is the hardest one to understand... for me it took months... but even though I thought about myself differently, I realized that I WASNT any different. Being straight, being gay... it doesn't matter. You are still you. Your faults, talents, fears and strengths are all there and remain just as valid.

    Dude, dont lose yourself in the process,.... DISCOVER yourself in the process!! It is a GOOD thing... dont be afraid!
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    Aug 29, 2011 4:22 PM GMT
    You've got my ph#. Feel free to use it if you need to talk.
  • calibro

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    Aug 29, 2011 9:52 PM GMT
    but just remember... a bitch aint one
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    Aug 29, 2011 10:04 PM GMT
    calibro saidbut just remember... a bitch aint one

    My thoughts exactly...