What do you do when you're lonely?

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  Aug 29, 2011 10:22 PM GMT

  so i am really lonely lately. i turned down a guy a while ago because i wasn't ready and we have still been messing around. now that i am ready he isnt ready. i told him that i love him and he says he has strong feelings for me and stuff but he isn't sure anymore...
  
  i am just having a hard time with the fact that our little fling could be ending soon. i am a great guy who loves to laugh and have fun. lately however i just haven't been in the mood to laugh because of the fact that i know things may be ending for me.
  
  so to cheer me up.... out of the kindness of your hearts please! (some of u will be mean ) what is it that you do when you are lonely? i have been working out and running more than usual. i tried drinking the feelings away but that definitely didn't help haha ive been hanging out with friends to distract myself but sometimes their drama and antics get to be old and i would rather stay at home.
  
  i haven't been like this for almost 4 years.... before i came out of the closet! ha help!

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  Aug 29, 2011 10:31 PM GMT

  Okay since I"m suppose to be nice!
  
  I go do something I enjoy.
  
  So yesterday I was feeling a little down.
  
  So I went and did hundreds at the gym.
  
  100 squats or 100 seconds, so each squat is 1 you do as many as you can and how ever far away from 100 you are is your rest so you do 90 squats you get 10 seconds break
  
  It's sooooo much fun
  
  Except for ma break I did military press.
  
  after 5 sets and a good vomit later I was totally UP... like UP UP I am in an awesome mood!

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  Aug 30, 2011 12:04 AM GMT

  Dude running and working out is the best medicine when I have shit on my mind and/or feeling lonely. Definitely try and be as active as possible. Have you tried joining a social club like flag football, volleyball, etc.

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:07 AM GMT

  you know what I can lock myself away in my garden for weeks at a time, and only seeing the person at the post office and milk bar. Yet I never ever feel lonely.

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:08 AM GMT

  MASTURBATE

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:10 AM GMT

  Supermann saidMASTURBATE

  
  
  +1, or playing video games if i am lonely at home ..

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:11 AM GMT

  Dude, that sucks. But, you have plenty of company.
  
  Get a copy of "My Guy. A Gay Man's Guide to a Lasting Relationship" by Martin Kantor, M.D.
  
  http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1704660,00.html
  

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:13 AM GMT

  blast music and play games here.
  
  

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:15 AM GMT

  Whenever I'm feeling down because of a guy I just tell myself "No guy is worth being depressed over" and I just snap out of it, I tell myself "You're hot, you're young" That works for me and I'm very lucky because whenever I feel down, I receive a lot of compliments even from strangers, so that cheers me up. It's all in the attitude, if you're moping and crying and w/e you get depressed, you gotta be in a positive mindset.

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:21 AM GMT

  Sometimes I feel a little lonely after my partner leaves on Monday evening and we have a great weekend together... but the thing to do is crank it up and get busy! Sometimes chatting with a friend by phone helps or do something fun, like walking the beagles.
  
  I used to get my quarter horse out and I'd jump up on his back without a saddle and fly the the parkway by the lakes at a dead run. That'd snap me out of it!
  
  

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:23 AM GMT

  Definitely don't expect alcohol to make you feel better. Sure, it might help for a few hours, but you'll feel worse later on.
  
  Do you have a good circle of friends to hang out with? Tell them you're down and do things with them to pass the time, bond, etc.
  
  Maybe join a sports team as someone said, or try a new hobby- start cooking, spending more time with family (if that's fun), or volunteer for something. I was really down this past winter and got a great lift from volunteering. It was pretty amazing actually.

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:27 AM GMT

  Supermann saidMASTURBATE

  
  +3
  
  and if there is time left over...
  
  I run, hit the gym hard, dive into the gardens, cook. I have found that the running and the workouts I do when I'm feeling lonely are by far the most productive.

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:28 AM GMT

  I'm never lonely!
  
  
  
  
  I'm so happy 'cause today
  I found my friends
  They're in my head
  I'm so ugly, that's okay
  'Cause so are you
  Broke our mirrors
  Sunday morning is everyday
  For all I care
  And I'm not scared
  Light my candles, in a daze....
  
  
  
  
  
  

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:29 AM GMT

  What do I do when I'm lonely? I look at various problems that people have on RJ.
  
  I like laughing so comedy tends to do the trick. Just go youtube and find for some funny clips or those that makes you mouth the word, "OMG". (I don't know why the sound doesn't leave my mouth unless I'm watching it with friends)

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:29 AM GMT

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  Hypnotico saidWhenever I'm feeling down because of a guy I just tell myself "No guy is worth being depressed over" and I just snap out of it, I tell myself "You're hot, you're young" That works for me and I'm very lucky because whenever I feel down, I receive a lot of compliments even from strangers, so that cheers me up. It's all in the attitude, if you're moping and crying and w/e you get depressed, you gotta be in a positive mindset.

  
  well i'm sorry but i really find this hard to believe. But if it does work for you you are really lucky. When I am down over a guy I get depressed and feel like shit if it's not working...I just can't look in the mirror and say 'snap out of it'. The only treatment for me is to let time pass...if i'm in love with a guy who isn't right for me it takes time for me to realize it and move on.

  
  
  I said it works for me, not for everyone Everyone's different

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:29 AM GMT

  When i m lonely or have any other negative thought,
  I try and remember to be happy for what I have,
  instead of dwelling on what I don' t have and
  it usually turns out that the glass is half full,
  not half empty.

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:32 AM GMT

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  Supermann saidMASTURBATE

  
  +3
  
  and if there is time left over...
  
  

  
  
  +4!!
  
  Yes, that, and I've been running a lot lately and working out like a fiend and watching my nutrition like crazy. I've been working on me.
  
  And it seems there is a book I need to buy and read too....

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:33 AM GMT

  thanks guys im putting on a strong face for sure. this is where i was just being a little vulnerable here is all. yea i definitely know what you mean about the glass half full... at least i have him for a friend and hes not completely out of my life. feeling better. just comes in waves. ive been dealing with this stuff for about a month and a half now

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:46 AM GMT

  GVJoe90 saidthanks guys im putting on a strong face for sure. this is where i was just being a little vulnerable here is all. yea i definitely know what you mean about the glass half full... at least i have him for a friend and hes not completely out of my life. feeling better. just comes in waves. ive been dealing with this stuff for about a month and a half now

  
  
  ride the waves with your head held high.

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:47 AM GMT

  I read, usually. Or watch TV. Usually read, though. I love books.

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:51 AM GMT

  mtlswim saidWhen i m lonely or have any other negative thought,
  I try and remember to be happy for what I have,
  instead of dwelling on what I don' t have and
  it usually turns out that the glass is half full,
  not half empty.

  
  
  ...total agreement. Going through same thing myself at the moment. Remember...just as you found that guy there is another one out there waiting for you...attitude and confidence are really attractive traits.

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  Aug 30, 2011 1:54 AM GMT

  There are 2 things that I do when I feel like you do now:
  
  1. Remind myself that these things are only temporary and they ALWAYS work themselves out. At 19 you may not realize that yet, but you will.
  
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  2. Go to the gym. Mostly cardio gets me out of a funk, but sometimes weights do too.

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  Aug 30, 2011 2:00 AM GMT

  im 21 haha but thanks

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  Aug 30, 2011 2:02 AM GMT

  I blast music while singing very loud lol

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  Aug 30, 2011 2:25 AM GMT

  I usually throw in my earbuds and listen to my ipod and blog

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