When your conversations with your buddies are getting too personal or too frequent

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    Aug 29, 2011 11:21 PM GMT
    ...how do you tell them to back off and leave you alone? Do you just ignore their messages like a douche? Or you just take them off your buddylist like a bigger douche?

    On the other side, what do you do if you are the one who's being ignored? Do you take your douche "buddy" off your buddylist? So what do you do when you are being ignored by your buddies?

    How often do you guys talk to your buddies? Just curious.


    Sorry to be using this sock account again, but since this is clearly a sensitive topic for my main account especially when I do not have an extensive buddylist, I thought it's best to post this under a sock puppet account.
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    Aug 29, 2011 11:39 PM GMT
    I tell them they are over stepping the line.

    Usually if someones doing it they work out pretty quickly that they are pushing into unwanted grounds cause I go weird but sometimes a guy doesn't pick up on it and that's okay, then I let them know they are pushing a little to much.

    I don't just ignore someone.
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    Aug 29, 2011 11:41 PM GMT
    and what happens if you are being ignored?
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    Aug 29, 2011 11:47 PM GMT
    klarepup saidand what happens if you are being ignored?

    Be greatful that I've found out they are a prick.
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    Aug 29, 2011 11:52 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    klarepup saidand what happens if you are being ignored?

    Be grateful that I've found out they are a prick.

    You know, I never talked to you before and I only know you by your posts, and even then we have very little interaction. But I will definitely start to pay a lot more attention to you have to say now. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 30, 2011 1:07 AM GMT
    if you don't have the balls to post under your real account because you're afraid of upsetting people you already have a problem with, then the chip is on your shoulder.
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    Aug 30, 2011 1:15 AM GMT
    calibro saidif you don't have the balls to post under your real account because you're afraid of upsetting people you already have a problem with, then the chip is on your shoulder.

    There's no need to be a bigger douche than you already are.
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    Aug 30, 2011 1:32 AM GMT
    I don't talk to most of my buddies with any regularity...like at all. I just use it as a way to like...indicate that we had a chat and I'm cool with that person. A lot of my buddies check in and I like that...but it's not like a big deal or anything (to me anyway).
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    Aug 30, 2011 1:53 AM GMT
    klarepup said
    calibro saidif you don't have the balls to post under your real account because you're afraid of upsetting people you already have a problem with, then the chip is on your shoulder.

    There's no need to be a bigger douche than you already are.


    douche or not, at least i have to balls to say something to your face and don't need a sock account to call someone on their shit. you don't have to like my opinion, but don't get your thong in a knot because the advice someone gives you isn't what you're fishing for. if you have a problem with what i say. you can ignore it. the fact that your means of reverting to ad hominem attacks in the face confrontation versus logic speaks to your emotional intelligence and maturity in the matter. furthermore, i'm not the one butt hurt on a thread i started with a sock account for a problem anyone with some balls and intelligence could handle in minutes. so again, it seems like the chip is on you.
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    Aug 30, 2011 1:59 AM GMT
    calibro said
    klarepup said
    calibro saidif you don't have the balls to post under your real account because you're afraid of upsetting people you already have a problem with, then the chip is on your shoulder.

    There's no need to be a bigger douche than you already are.


    douche or not, at least i have to balls to say something to your face and don't need a sock account to call someone on their shit. you don't have to like my opinion, but don't get your thong in a knot because the advice someone gives you isn't what you're fishing for. if you have a problem with what i say. you can ignore it. the fact that your means of reverting to ad hominem attacks in the face confrontation versus logic speaks to your emotional intelligence and maturity in the matter. furthermore, i'm not the one butt hurt on a thread i started with a sock account for a problem anyone with some balls and intelligence could handle in minutes. so again, it seems like the chip is on you.


    You gave me advice in your first response in this thread?! Where?

    All you were doing was being a judgmental bitch.
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    Aug 30, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    klarepup said
    calibro said
    klarepup said
    calibro saidif you don't have the balls to post under your real account because you're afraid of upsetting people you already have a problem with, then the chip is on your shoulder.

    There's no need to be a bigger douche than you already are.


    douche or not, at least i have to balls to say something to your face and don't need a sock account to call someone on their shit. you don't have to like my opinion, but don't get your thong in a knot because the advice someone gives you isn't what you're fishing for. if you have a problem with what i say. you can ignore it. the fact that your means of reverting to ad hominem attacks in the face confrontation versus logic speaks to your emotional intelligence and maturity in the matter. furthermore, i'm not the one butt hurt on a thread i started with a sock account for a problem anyone with some balls and intelligence could handle in minutes. so again, it seems like the chip is on you.


    You gave me advice in your first response in this thread?! Where?

    All you were doing was being a judgmental bitch.


    try reading between the lines because ad hominem attacks are really for the plebeian, don't you think? the advice is to grow a pair and if you have a problem with your buddies tell them. don't be five and create a sock account to figure out a problem you're running away from. someone says something that upsets you, then tell them honestly and politely like an adult as in "hey klarepup, i find your inability to have a conversation with someone who calls you on your shit (without resorting to ad hominem attacks) to be really immature and tasteless. as such, i don''t think we can be friends anymore and i'd appreciate you not continuing a relationship with me. i know this might upset you, but i wanted to be honest as i thought that was better than ignoring you... or even worse, dragging it out in a dramatic fashion on a sock account for all of rj to see. could you believe it if i were that immature to do that!"
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    Aug 30, 2011 2:20 AM GMT
    calibro said
    klarepup said
    calibro said
    klarepup said
    calibro saidif you don't have the balls to post under your real account because you're afraid of upsetting people you already have a problem with, then the chip is on your shoulder.

    There's no need to be a bigger douche than you already are.


    douche or not, at least i have to balls to say something to your face and don't need a sock account to call someone on their shit. you don't have to like my opinion, but don't get your thong in a knot because the advice someone gives you isn't what you're fishing for. if you have a problem with what i say. you can ignore it. the fact that your means of reverting to ad hominem attacks in the face confrontation versus logic speaks to your emotional intelligence and maturity in the matter. furthermore, i'm not the one butt hurt on a thread i started with a sock account for a problem anyone with some balls and intelligence could handle in minutes. so again, it seems like the chip is on you.


    You gave me advice in your first response in this thread?! Where?

    All you were doing was being a judgmental bitch.


    try reading between the lines because ad hominem attacks are really for the plebeian, don't you think? the advice is to grow a pair and if you have a problem with your buddies tell them. don't be five and create a sock account to figure out a problem you're running away from. someone says something that upsets you, then tell them honestly and politely like an adult as in "hey klarepup, i find your inability to have a conversation with someone who calls you on your shit (without resorting to ad hominem attacks) to be really immature and tasteless. as such, i don''t think we can be friends anymore and i'd appreciate you not continuing a relationship with me. i know this might upset you, but i wanted to be honest as i thought that was better than ignoring you... or even worse, dragging it out in a dramatic fashion on a sock account for all of rj to see. could you believe it if i were that immature to do that!"


    Hey calibro, I find your posts to be completely unintelligent, extremely judgmental, and really just full of horsecrap...as such. I don't think I can view your posts anymore and I'd appreciate you not continuing to post crappy stuff on RJ. I know this might upset you, but I wanted to be honest as I thought that it is the best thing to be ignoring your posts from now on.

    Theeeeeere, how's that for "maturity"? Hope your satisfied. Thank you for advice by the way. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 30, 2011 2:22 AM GMT
    I would just be funny and joke with them with a serious undertone. That's what I do sometimes.
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    Aug 30, 2011 2:34 AM GMT
    Socks? What is this thread even talking about?
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    Aug 30, 2011 2:40 AM GMT
    certainly saidSocks? What is this thread even talking about?


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    Aug 30, 2011 2:50 AM GMT
    FrostedFlakes said
    certainly saidSocks? What is this thread even talking about?


    lrn2internet


    Learn to pick up on condescension.
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    Aug 30, 2011 2:53 AM GMT
    certainly saidSocks? What is this thread even talking about?


    socks = sockpuppet account = additional account(s) made by epic fail trolls (see also: Stewie The Reaper, BELLOO, etc. ) or attention whores or butthurt people too concerned that they might sully the character of their primary account when digging at someone else on the same site.
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    Aug 30, 2011 2:54 AM GMT
    Sock account? Are you say_van and/or CHIdude????????
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    Aug 30, 2011 2:56 AM GMT
    certainly said
    FrostedFlakes said
    certainly saidSocks? What is this thread even talking about?

    lrn2internet

    Learn to pick up on condescension.

    To certainly: sock accounts refer to people such as you, who has a real account with pictures, goes and creates another account for the purpose of asking question anonymously like the OP. *edit: I like what alphatrigger said better.

    To OP: If he doesn't write back he's probably busy, or he's a douche. Shoot him up again in a month or two to check in, and if he still doesn't write back (after reading your msg) feel free to delete him from your buddylist. He obviously doesn't give a shit about you. But honestly there are some buddies that I haven't talked to in like over two months....I should check in with them. icon_neutral.gif Thanks for reminding me ^_^

    If the conversation is getting too close for comfort, just tell them straight flat out. I mean, you should tell them nicely that "I am sorry but I prefer not to talk about that topic because it makes me feel vulnerable". It's not that complicated. Hopefully he'll understand where you're coming from. If not, oh well...

    images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQBXFNKybpH7vE9ioAXiEZ<-- Push here
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    Aug 30, 2011 2:57 AM GMT
    alphatrigger said
    certainly saidSocks? What is this thread even talking about?


    socks = sockpuppet account = additional account(s) made by epic fail trolls (see also: Stewie The Reaper, BELLOO, etc. ) or attention whores or butthurt people too concerned that they might sully the character of their primary account when digging at someone else on the same site.


    Right, but I thought this was an 18+ site.
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    Aug 30, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    Just say, "hey man, you seem like a good guy, I just want to go a little slower/less personal until I'm ready if that's cool. Just being honest and didn't want to play games like a lot of guys do. Cool?"

    "Buddy" is a relative term. When it comes to the internet, it is so hard to tell who is a potential friend and who is a potential nightmare. I've learned that if you're nice and respectful, you can get away with being brutally honest without causing an issue. I want the same. And 90% of the guys I deal with are appreciative of not being ignored. The lack of feedback is what drives a lot of the dramatic behavior in the first place.
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    Aug 30, 2011 3:28 AM GMT
    No one obligated to answer questions, no one is forced to share info. Decline courteously. If they have an ounce of decent upbringing they will stop. Silent treatment also does wonders.

    This is America, dont't let anyone winkle info out of you.
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    Aug 30, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    "How will I make new hot muscle friends in school this semester?" haha
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    Aug 30, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    NOthing is to personal for me. I will talk to anyone about anything.
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    Aug 30, 2011 3:45 AM GMT
    football122 saidSock account? Are you say_van and/or CHIdude????????



    Funny that this accusation was made less than an hour ago and the person making it has already deleted his account.