Why is it so hard to wear a condom?

  • ChicagoCarl

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    Aug 30, 2011 3:34 PM GMT
    I have matured in almost every aspect of my life. I have lost approximately 80 pounds, quit smoking and head to the gym 5 or 6 times a week.

    Why is it that I can take care of myself in these aspects of my life, but when it comes to sexual health I fall short. Although alcohol is usually involved in the stupid decisions, how can I make sure I wear a condom at all times when I engage in sexual activities? When I bottom I make 100% sure they are wearing a condom, so why don't I do the same?

    Does anyone else seem to have the same issue, and if so how do you make damn sure you wrap it?
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    Aug 30, 2011 8:03 PM GMT
    ChicagoCarl saidDoes anyone else seem to have the same issue, and if so how do you make damn sure you wrap it?

    Perhaps using a better-performing wrap would remove some of your reluctance. A condom that fits snuggly along its entire length can block the friction sensation many men need, especially those who are cut and therefore already less sensitive. And frankly, a rectum doesn't grip a penis as effectively during sex as a vagina does, so can gay men can face an additional challenge.

    Here are 2 "light bulb shape" condoms that grip just the base of the shaft, but are loose around the head and upper shaft. You therefore feel movement within the loose top half of the condom, in which you place a small amount of latex-safe lube at the end. The first one pictured below is the LifeStyles Pleasure Shaped, the second the Trojan Magnum Ecstasy.

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    Aug 31, 2011 3:35 PM GMT
    You're playing with a loaded gun whenever you top or bottom without any protection.
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    Aug 31, 2011 4:00 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidYou're playing with a loaded gun whenever you top or bottom without any protection.

    More than playing, you've got the barrel to your head and your finger on the trigger.

    My present partner lost his late partner to AIDS when the guy cheated & barebacked. Fortunately he told my future partner right away that he'd tested poz and didn't infect him. But the guy did eventually develop AIDS & died.

    My late partner wasn't so lucky. His partner cheated & barebacked, but didn't tell anyone. He did infect my future partner, and then died rather quickly of AIDS, nevertheless leaving behind ruinous hospital bills that bankrupted the survivor.

    Fortunately for me my partner told me he was poz before our first meeting, arranged online and over the phone, and we always practiced safe sex. I wasn't even afraid to be the bottom with a condom. Like my current partner, I too remain negative.

    Needless to say, I get real upset when I hear a guy even contemplating barebacking with strangers and others not reliably monogamous and not having tested neg over at least a 6-month period.
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    Aug 31, 2011 4:00 PM GMT
    You admit that you are not able to make good sexual health decisions whilst you've been drinking. So you should cut down on your drinking as the first step.

    Always carry condoms with you when you're out, and have a good supply at home.

    No excuses!
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    Aug 31, 2011 7:44 PM GMT
    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HEREDoes anyone else seem to have the same issue, and if so how do you make damn sure you wrap it?


    The first step is to not make excuses for lethal laziness...

    You don't seem to be as lazy when it's your life on the line. You shouldn't let your partners be either.
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    Sep 01, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    A friend of mine was in a relationship for 9 years his partner was hiv positive from the start. Did not bother to tell my friend. 1 year into the relationship they stopped using condoms. still did not bother to tell my friend. My friend only found out during the last year of his partners life. The hospital bills bankrupted him. He went and got tested himself turned up negative. 3 months later tested again turned up negative. It's been now just over 5 years and he was lucky that he remained negative. Lesson I got from my friends experience was condoms should always be used even in what one thinks they are in long term monogamous relationship. People will hide or look you str8 in the face and lie about their status. There are guys out there that are bitter over it and will try to give it to others on purpose. Always use protection regardless..
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    Sep 01, 2011 4:40 PM GMT
    atljoe75 saidA friend of mine was in a relationship for 9 years his partner was hiv positive from the start. Did not bother to tell my friend. 1 year into the relationship they stopped using condoms. still did not bother to tell my friend. My friend only found out during the last year of his partners life. The hospital bills bankrupted him. He went and got tested himself turned up negative. 3 months later tested again turned up negative. It's been now just over 5 years and he was lucky that he remained negative. Lesson I got from my friends experience was condoms should always be used even in what one thinks they are in long term monogamous relationship. People will hide or look you str8 in the face and lie about their status. There are guys out there that are bitter over it and will try to give it to others on purpose. Always use protection regardless.

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    Sep 01, 2011 5:58 PM GMT
    atljoe75 saidA friend of mine was in a relationship for 9 years his partner was hiv positive from the start. Did not bother to tell my friend. 1 year into the relationship they stopped using condoms. still did not bother to tell my friend. My friend only found out during the last year of his partners life. The hospital bills bankrupted him. He went and got tested himself turned up negative. 3 months later tested again turned up negative. It's been now just over 5 years and he was lucky that he remained negative. Lesson I got from my friends experience was condoms should always be used even in what one thinks they are in long term monogamous relationship. People will hide or look you str8 in the face and lie about their status. There are guys out there that are bitter over it and will try to give it to others on purpose. Always use protection regardless..


    or...go get tested together?

    Thats what I would do before having sex without a condamn.
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    Sep 01, 2011 6:40 PM GMT
    I wouldn't even trust getting tested together who's to say they won't cheat down the road. Ive been cheated on twice and thank god I always used protection. At this point in my life I'm not willing to put my life in another persons hands. dealing with MS is hard enough.. plus me being a total top it shouldn't bother a bottom for me to always use a condom since they can't feel a difference.
  • Timbales

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    Sep 01, 2011 10:11 PM GMT
    IMO, when you always do something, you'll always do it - even in unusual situations. If you always use a condom no matter the circumstances, then you will as habit.
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    Sep 02, 2011 5:33 AM GMT
    Because condoms suck and are unnatural?