Gay-Friendly Cities on the East Coast

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    Aug 31, 2011 4:04 AM GMT
    I'm a college student about to graduate, and I'm looking for gay-friendly places to move towards to the Northeast. So far, I've thought of Boston, Pittsburgh, Philadelphia, and Providence. I've even looked at Columbus, Ohio even though that's technically the Midwest.

    Any ideas which cities have vibrant gay scenes? I want to avoid NYC and other overly expensive cities in general.
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    Aug 31, 2011 10:48 PM GMT
    Buffalo is quite a gay friendly city. The cost of living is very reasonable and the quality of life is quite stress free. Buffalo has great architecture, diverse neighborhoods, friendly people and a wonderful four season climate. Come and check out Buffalo and Western New York.
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    Aug 31, 2011 11:18 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob saidBuffalo is quite a gay friendly city. The cost of living is very reasonable and the quality of life is quite stress free. Buffalo has great architecture, diverse neighborhoods, friendly people and a wonderful four season climate. Come and check out Buffalo and Western New York.


    Ew, really? Haha sorry I just have a bad view of Buffalo. My dad is from shithole Dunkirk, NY just a little west of Buffalo.
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    Aug 31, 2011 11:28 PM GMT
    KSUOWL said
    roadbikeRob saidBuffalo is quite a gay friendly city. The cost of living is very reasonable and the quality of life is quite stress free. Buffalo has great architecture, diverse neighborhoods, friendly people and a wonderful four season climate. Come and check out Buffalo and Western New York.


    Ew, really? Haha sorry I just have a bad view of Buffalo. My dad is from shithole Dunkirk, NY just a little west of Buffalo.


    Lol! Was thinking the same thing.
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    Aug 31, 2011 11:36 PM GMT
    Ft. Lauderdale is about as gay friendly as you're gonna get.
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    Aug 31, 2011 11:39 PM GMT
    Providence is a great city. With Brown, Rhode Island School of Design, Providence College, URI, Roger Williams, and Johnson and Wales, there are a lot of students and interesting college/grad related activity. It is architecturally interesting, great restaurants and a decent cultural scene, and only 30-45 minutes from Boston and 3 hours from NY by train if you need another fix. And there is a VERY active gay scene.
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    Aug 31, 2011 11:46 PM GMT
    KSUOWL said
    roadbikeRob saidBuffalo is quite a gay friendly city. The cost of living is very reasonable and the quality of life is quite stress free. Buffalo has great architecture, diverse neighborhoods, friendly people and a wonderful four season climate. Come and check out Buffalo and Western New York.


    Ew, really? Haha sorry I just have a bad view of Buffalo. My dad is from shithole Dunkirk, NY just a little west of Buffalo.


    Yeah. My family lives in North Tonawanda. Cant say I am a fan. But Buffalo is the "Queen City" so it must be gay friendly.
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    Aug 31, 2011 11:54 PM GMT
    You forgot Washington DC. Big gay scene... the whole damn city is gay. Lots of fun bars, great restaurants and neighborhoods...... smart, driven people.... not too trashy.... haha.

    Aw. I miss it!
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    Sep 01, 2011 12:05 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidFt. Lauderdale is about as gay friendly as you're gonna get.

    I think the OP said he favors the Northeast. BTW, did you hear where Wilton Manors is now the 2nd gayest city in the US, based on population percentage?
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    Sep 01, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    Columbus has a pretty hoppin' gay scene, but they are full of themselves. It's not ANYTHING like the East Coast... AT ALL. It's a new-construction cookie-cutter new-money pop-up city, and it has all the old values that you would expect from a gay community whose growth spurt was a result of Abercrombie's decision to set up camp there.

    East Coast: well, I come from the real "East Coast." You know-- places that are right by the Atlantic Ocean. ANY mid-sized to large city is going to be gay friendly there.

    Boston (expensive and snotty),

    Providence (Quite small but nice),

    NYC (duh),

    Philadelphia (still a great deal and full of culture and fun),

    Baltimore (shitty and dangerous but gay friendly),

    DC (Fuck you, government queers... you are not good looking enough to have that attitude),

    Charleston (Recently ranked one of the best looking cities in America)

    Savannah (See Charleston)

    All of Florida (GAY)

    BTW, Buffalo is not an East Coast City. It's only an hour from Toronto, though, and Toronto is FANTASTIC.
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    Sep 01, 2011 12:24 AM GMT
    KSUOWL said
    roadbikeRob said

    Ew, really? Haha sorry I just have a bad view of Buffalo. My dad is from shithole Dunkirk, NY just a little west of Buffalo.



    Ha, so is mine! Polish, I imagine?
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    Sep 01, 2011 3:24 AM GMT
    danisnotstr8 said

    Charleston (Recently ranked one of the best looking cities in America)



    I agree, it was without a doubt the prettiest city I have seen north of Latin-America....

    But i did not know it was gay friendly... are you sure? It seemed very segregated to me... but def a nice place, I'm gonna spend at least a few months there in the future with my family, whom mostly moved down there for the weather compared to the north
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    Sep 01, 2011 3:28 AM GMT
    When I was at Washington DC it had some really nice gay scene out there. I dunno how cruisey it was because I was with friends. But based on the convo with my friends who were out with me, he thinks the guys out at DC, especially in the Duponts area, are pretty friendly. But then again he pretty much grew up in Brooklyn and is very accustomed to the NYC attitude, so maybe all gay guys are friendly compared to the bitchiness attitude in NYC.

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    Sep 01, 2011 3:42 AM GMT
    The job scene is good in many fields in DC., and the economy is healthy overall. Don't believe the old "DC Gays are snobby" canard.
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    Sep 01, 2011 3:45 AM GMT
    laxdude25 saidProvidence is a great city. With Brown, Rhode Island School of Design, Providence College, URI, Roger Williams, and Johnson and Wales, there are a lot of students and interesting college/grad related activity. It is architecturally interesting, great restaurants and a decent cultural scene, and only 30-45 minutes from Boston and 3 hours from NY by train if you need another fix. And there is a VERY active gay scene.


    Of course there is nothing else to do outside of those 4 blocks of downtown Providence...ew...

    I'm so not an East Coast person.
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    Sep 01, 2011 3:47 AM GMT
    Cityaznguy saidmaybe all gay guys are friendly compared to the bitchiness attitude in NYC.

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    Huh? I dont think you guys are bitchy at all! lol...
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    Sep 01, 2011 3:50 AM GMT
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    laxdude25 saidProvidence is a great city. With Brown, Rhode Island School of Design, Providence College, URI, Roger Williams, and Johnson and Wales, there are a lot of students and interesting college/grad related activity. It is architecturally interesting, great restaurants and a decent cultural scene, and only 30-45 minutes from Boston and 3 hours from NY by train if you need another fix. And there is a VERY active gay scene.


    Of course there is nothing else to do outside of those 4 blocks of downtown Providence...ew...

    I'm so not an East Coast person.


    wait what? Your not an East Coast person??????? icon_sad.gificon_sad.gificon_sad.gif Our marriage will be long-distance forever.... *sob*

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    Sep 01, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    ZbmwM5 saidYou forgot Washington DC. Big gay scene... the whole damn city is gay. Lots of fun bars, great restaurants and neighborhoods...... smart, driven people.... not too trashy.... haha.

    Aw. I miss it!


    As much as that would work for me in terms of politics (because that's my area of study), the city is way too expensive! At least according to various sources I've looked up. And I don't have too much desire to go out there.

    I'm kind of inclined towards Pittsburgh as weird as that sounds. Its cost of living is similar to Iowa, where I'm from. And it's close enough to all the other East Coast cities that I could easily check out. I still have to look at other cities seriously though.
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    ZbmwM5 saidYou forgot Washington DC. Big gay scene... the whole damn city is gay. Lots of fun bars, great restaurants and neighborhoods...... smart, driven people.... not too trashy.... haha.

    Aw. I miss it!


    As much as that would work for me in terms of politics (because that's my area of study), the city is way too expensive! At least according to various sources I've looked up. And I don't have too much desire to go out there.

    I'm kind of inclined towards Pittsburgh as weird as that sounds. Its cost of living is similar to Iowa, where I'm from. And it's close enough to all the other East Coast cities that I could easily check out. I still have to look at other cities seriously though.
    Keep in mind that the cost of living in various cities is proportional to the rate of pay at most jobs there.
    The lower the cost of living, the less salary you're likely to earn.
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    ZbmwM5 saidYou forgot Washington DC. Big gay scene... the whole damn city is gay. Lots of fun bars, great restaurants and neighborhoods...... smart, driven people.... not too trashy.... haha.

    Aw. I miss it!


    As much as that would work for me in terms of politics (because that's my area of study), the city is way too expensive! At least according to various sources I've looked up. And I don't have too much desire to go out there.

    I'm kind of inclined towards Pittsburgh as weird as that sounds. Its cost of living is similar to Iowa, where I'm from. And it's close enough to all the other East Coast cities that I could easily check out. I still have to look at other cities seriously though.

    You are doing the right thing by avoiding overpriced, overrated DC. I lived for over five years. It is a fun city to be in for a summer, maybe a year--in other words, for the duration of an internship, in your early 20s, fresh out of school. But beyond that, you'll find that is a cold, sterile, unfriendly little town with the attitude and arrogance of a world class city. And the holier-than-thou (in some cases gayer-than-thou) attitude of the DC queens gets old after about 15 minutes.
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    Sep 01, 2011 10:10 AM GMT
    I know you said you want to avoid NYC because it's too expensive, but NYC is more than just Manhattan. Brooklyn and maybe also Queens in particular have a lot to offer and overall they are not as expensive as Manhattan to find a comfortable living space. I've heard/know of plenty of people who moved out of Manhattan and into Brooklyn or Queens for this very reason.
    Plus, if you ever do want to head down into "the city" (Manhattan), it's only a subway ride away and you can easily escape back to one of the outer boroughs.

    Lastly, I wouldn't recommend the Bronx or Staten Island because the former is the most poverty stricken and run down of the 5 boroughs while the latter is simply very boring and suburban.
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    AlwaysDreaming11 said
    ZbmwM5 saidYou forgot Washington DC. Big gay scene... the whole damn city is gay. Lots of fun bars, great restaurants and neighborhoods...... smart, driven people.... not too trashy.... haha.

    Aw. I miss it!


    As much as that would work for me in terms of politics (because that's my area of study), the city is way too expensive! At least according to various sources I've looked up. And I don't have too much desire to go out there.

    I'm kind of inclined towards Pittsburgh as weird as that sounds. Its cost of living is similar to Iowa, where I'm from. And it's close enough to all the other East Coast cities that I could easily check out. I still have to look at other cities seriously though.

    You are doing the right thing by avoiding overpriced, overrated DC. I lived for over five years. It is a fun city to be in for a summer, maybe a year--in other words, for the duration of an internship, in your early 20s, fresh out of school. But beyond that, you'll find that is a cold, sterile, unfriendly little town with the attitude and arrogance of a world class city. And the holier-than-thou (in some cases gayer-than-thou) attitude of the DC queens gets old after about 15 minutes.



    Hey hey! Not all of us are so terrible! Although I technically grew up in the DC suburbs (far edges of the suburbs for that matter) rather than in DC proper icon_cool.gif

    The vasty majority of people in the DC metro area are from somewhere else though. You'll be hard pressed to meet many people who are native locals. I know I've met very few people who were born and raised in the area despite having lived most of my life here. Everybody always seems to be from somewhere else and moved for school or work.
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    roadbikeRob saidBuffalo is quite a gay friendly city. The cost of living is very reasonable and the quality of life is quite stress free. Buffalo has great architecture, diverse neighborhoods, friendly people and a wonderful four season climate. Come and check out Buffalo and Western New York.

    Buffalo is also so 1930s
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    19c79 said
    AlwaysDreaming11 said
    ZbmwM5 saidYou forgot Washington DC. Big gay scene... the whole damn city is gay. Lots of fun bars, great restaurants and neighborhoods...... smart, driven people.... not too trashy.... haha.

    Aw. I miss it!


    As much as that would work for me in terms of politics (because that's my area of study), the city is way too expensive! At least according to various sources I've looked up. And I don't have too much desire to go out there.

    I'm kind of inclined towards Pittsburgh as weird as that sounds. Its cost of living is similar to Iowa, where I'm from. And it's close enough to all the other East Coast cities that I could easily check out. I still have to look at other cities seriously though.

    You are doing the right thing by avoiding overpriced, overrated DC. I lived for over five years. It is a fun city to be in for a summer, maybe a year--in other words, for the duration of an internship, in your early 20s, fresh out of school. But beyond that, you'll find that is a cold, sterile, unfriendly little town with the attitude and arrogance of a world class city. And the holier-than-thou (in some cases gayer-than-thou) attitude of the DC queens gets old after about 15 minutes.



    Hey hey! Not all of us are so terrible! Although I technically grew up in the DC suburbs (far edges of the suburbs for that matter) rather than in DC proper icon_cool.gif

    The vasty majority of people in the DC metro area are from somewhere else though. You'll be hard pressed to meet many people who are native locals. I know I've met very few people who were born and raised in the area despite having lived most of my life here. Everybody always seems to be from somewhere else and moved for school or work.

    But you are terrible icon_razz.gif I mean rascal icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 01, 2011 2:41 PM GMT
    Cardinal724 saidI know you said you want to avoid NYC because it's too expensive, but NYC is more than just Manhattan. Brooklyn and maybe also Queens in particular have a lot to offer and overall they are not as expensive as Manhattan to find a comfortable living space. I've heard/know of plenty of people who moved out of Manhattan and into Brooklyn or Queens for this very reason.
    Plus, if you ever do want to head down into "the city" (Manhattan), it's only a subway ride away and you can easily escape back to one of the outer boroughs.


    Yeah, I've considered NYC for the longest time. I'm really torn between it and other cities. But overall, don't you think the city is expensive, overcrowded and the like? I would love to visit, maybe even spend a few days there. But living there? The traffic must be horrible! I want to keep my car.

    But yes, Brooklyn and Queens wouldn't be too bad. But if I had the money, Manhattan is where I'd be.

    Overall though, I'm looking at other East Coast cities more seriously because they are less big and expensive I think, and I hope a city is close enough I could drive out to the Big Apple from time to time. Maybe catch a Broadway show or two. icon_biggrin.gif