Coping Mechanisms and you!

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    Aug 31, 2011 5:07 AM GMT
    Today I was having a conversation with a few people about coping mechanisms and how we generally cope with things whether it be loneliness, death, depression, confusion, love...etc.

    How do you "generally" cope with things. Curious because I was amazed at how different all 3 of us answered.

    Personally I cope by distancing myself from people and rationalizing all the behavior and emotions until I'm satisfied with the reasons why I've chosen to feel that way.

    One of my buddies said he tries to control everything. For instance his spouse was hospitalized and he sat by his side for the entire year he was there. He asked the nurse to show him how everything worked from changing his fluids, tests, and bodily tubes that were in him. Granted he couldn't actually do it himself but he felt more comfortable in knowing he had "control" over it, although indirectly.

    The other one surrounds himself by as many people as possible as to avoid brooding over the situation and creating irrational thoughts.


    So what is your mechanism?
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    Aug 31, 2011 5:10 AM GMT
    Odd that "defense" is your screen name. icon_wink.gif

    Mine is food. Luckily I have a metabolism that keeps me from getting the size of a house, but it's the first thing I reach for.
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    Aug 31, 2011 5:10 AM GMT
    Talk to somebody about what I'm feeling, and if there's nobody to talk to I play music that suits my mood until I settle down.
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    Aug 31, 2011 11:09 AM GMT
    Try to control it. Take the bull by the horns and solve it.
  • danisnotstr8

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    Aug 31, 2011 11:11 AM GMT
    I just keep jerking off at the OP's pics until the depression goes away.
  • Trauts

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    Aug 31, 2011 11:23 AM GMT
    I think being Asian is a coping mechanism all by itself. I was always taught to suppress everything and just keep things to myself. Its really a miracle how I haven't had an aneurism yet icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 31, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    Manhattans or Martinis
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    Aug 31, 2011 2:53 PM GMT
    I try to surround myself with people I care about so I don't start thinking irrational thoughts. I also like to talk it out.
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    Aug 31, 2011 3:04 PM GMT
    I don't cope. I just beat the crap out of everyone that offends me.
  • cookingitswee...

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    Aug 31, 2011 3:46 PM GMT
    I suround myself with loving friend and family and open up to them.

    Food an exercise lol

    Sometimes drink...
  • sonnet129

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    Aug 31, 2011 4:13 PM GMT
    I may distract myself for a short time (TV, internet, drinking, working out, masturbation.)
    If I really want to tackle it and get over it I fall back on cognitive therapy techniques I learned. At my best I'll write about it or talk it out.
    One thing that helps me out of negative moods is listening to the Threepenny Opera or irreverent comedy.
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    Aug 31, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
    I have to say I was an emotional turtle up till about a year ago. I just felt the need to keep everything to myself not "burden" anyone else with my problems and it was a very lonely existence. From the smallest of things to stuff that would keep me up at night, I would just crawl into my shell. i just couldn't get myself to talk about it even with family. Comes from the south asian descent I guess. I had to be a MAN and solve my own problems. But I've become a lot more open now and it feels great.

    So my new coping mechanism I guess is to surround myself with good friends and family and talk/ask for advice. If there are really deep emotions involved then I really find it helpful to put my thoughts down on paper. It forces me to clearly think through my emotions.
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    Aug 31, 2011 4:34 PM GMT
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  • sonnet129

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    Aug 31, 2011 4:37 PM GMT
    Ariodante, YES! Thanks for the reminder, bro.
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    Aug 31, 2011 6:07 PM GMT
    Introspection, logic, rationalisation, isolation/hibernation
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    Aug 31, 2011 8:29 PM GMT
    sonnet129 saidAriodante, YES! Thanks for the reminder, bro.
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