Anyone else feel the hardships of raising a daughter?

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    Aug 31, 2011 6:03 AM GMT
    I've never joined a forum before, so I apologize if my writing seems a bit shoddy. icon_wink.gif

    I was just wondering if my worries about my daughter are normal for a gay man. I have a 17 year old daughter that I adopted when she was just an itty bitty baby. I always thought it would not be a big deal to me when she started to go out with boys because not being heterosexual, I don't really know what goes on in men's heads when they see women. But now she wants to go out with a guy and my defenses are on the rise, I am SO paranoid! I freak out when she leaves the house with a boy even if I meet him first! I'm acting like a stereotypical angry dad. Is this normal? What am I to worry about? AHH! Well it probably is normal, I'm just overreacting. Does anyone else here feel the pain of raising a daughter? It's hard for me. icon_redface.gif


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    Aug 31, 2011 12:35 PM GMT
    Your reaction is normal for anyone thats an involved & responsible parent. You love her & want the best for her. Unfortunately its harder having girls because if she were to get pregnate it falls on her & the family if the guy involved isnt responsible.

    I have 2 sons & a daughter. I would have 10 more boys before id have another daughter. I love my daughter so very much but raising all of them I had no problem beating the boys ass when a problem came up but I never could with my daughter.

    She went thru a wild phase but she is 20 now, engaged to her bf & has a beautiful 1 yr old son. She calls me & wants to see me, we had dinner together last nite. As she gets older we are becoming the best of friends.

    Keep communicating with your daughter, always let her know your there for her& always will be. For fathers daughters start out to be rough, we pull our hair out & worry ourselves to death.....but in the end she will grow into a beautiful, loving woman who will be ur best friend.
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    Aug 31, 2011 12:40 PM GMT
    Father of a boy and girl here. The father - daughter dynamic is much harder. Always listen closely to her - not just what she says but what she does not say, and look for subtle clues. Girls just don't communicate thoughts and feelings the same way as boys, so always be mindful she instinctively uses different communication strategies and cues.