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Do you guys think vanity is helpful or harmful?

TOFUSTUD saidDo you guys think vanity is helpful or harmful?

Well, vanity Is more of thing that is percived by the human mind. Its the want to continualisly keep your appearance good, or better than needed. Though people tend to gravitate toward people who take care of them selfs and there looks. There is the fact that, yes it can get in the way, Thinking about the way you look when your better suted to be thinking about a situation, and cause problems. It can be a distraction, and make you appear, to value your self then the that of others. In one word, self centerd.
You can still be vain, But its good to know when to put that stuff aside, and focus on other issues.

An observation of mine, is that people who focus on there looks more than needed, tend to get them selfs into situations that they would normaly want to avoid.
Not only because they are thinking about them selfs and there appearance, but because they were distracted and could not anticipate anything that was about to happen.

hope this was help full, But maby our other memeber have more of an insite?

Oh, I thought you were trying to get my attention by calling me by my name. Carry on.

TOFUSTUD saidDo you guys think vanity is helpful or harmful?

There's a big difference between being vain and being proud. Most people think a proud guy is vain. Lots of people think being proud of the way you look ( and working to keep things that way) is somehow vain.

Most people want to look great.

People who don't care how they look is boring.

People who are intimidated by others who are proud of the way they look are boring.

Boy do I ever have things to say about this topic, but I don't want to bore you too much with my self righteous thinking... however; in a nut shell I think that beauty, beautiful things, and the possession of those things should be appreciated and not be taken for granted or exploited, lest they should lose their value. Vanity could also be destructive if gone unchecked and if it all possible avoided. Material things have their use, attraction and sometimes flair, but what they provide shouldn't be more important than how they function. I'd like to note bimbos for example. Sure they could some of the most beautiful physically and have a pleasant personality, but with nothing behind the perkiness what's there that's so worthwhile?

Vanity helps me care enough to wipe the eye boogers away when i wake up in the morning, wear body appropriate clothing and not eat deep fried cheese sticks for every meal.

boiwunderkind1984 saidBoy do I ever have things to say about this topic, but I don't want to bore you too much with my self righteous thinking... however; in a nut shell I think that beauty, beautiful things, and the possession of those things should be appreciated and not be taken for granted or exploited, lest they should lose their value. Vanity could also be destructive if gone unchecked and if it all possible avoided. Material things have their use, attraction and sometimes flair, but what they provide shouldn't be more important than how they function. I'd like to note bimbos for example. Sure they could some of the most beautiful physically and have a pleasant personality, but with nothing behind the perkiness what's there that's so worthwhile?

As someone said here...beauty may only be skin deep but ugliness goes right to the core. I've met some not so attractive guys who had personalities to match. Bimbo people do not have a monopoly on folks empty perkiness, and folks who are not hotties don't automatically qualify as intelligent or nice.

Vanity I would have to surmise is harmful. As one gets older, it's harder to get through life without a personality.

We all have to lose the vanity card to some degree even if we do go the way of the Kenny Rogers brow lift. Mother nature will always win over the knife.

I say, when you're young be vain. It's so cute for the 3, 4, 5 years you're actually pretty enough to get away with it. You'll have plenty of time to become a bitter old bitch with a charming personality.

KissingPro said[quote][cite]TOFUSTUD said[/cite]Do you guys think vanity is helpful or harmful?

There's a big difference between being vain and being proud. Most people think a proud guy is vain. Lots of people think being proud of the way you look ( and working to keep things that way) is somehow vain.

Most people want to look great.

People who don't care how they look is boring.

People who are intimidated by others who are proud of the way they look are boring.

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That's a very, very good point, and I agree. If one can be proud of one's own looks and motivate oneself to stay as attractive as one would expect of others, then I say it's a good thing. But if vanity means that one has to bring others down in order for one to ensure that one is in higher standing than another, then vanity bites!

And constantly using the first-person singular 'one' makes me seem reeeeeally pretentious, jeez.

What is this "fried cheese stick" you speak of? I have a vague culinary awareness of cheese in it's low fat form, though I seldom see the obese version.

RBY71 saidVanity helps me care enough to wipe the eye boogers away when i wake up in the morning, wear body appropriate clothing and not eat deep fried cheese sticks for every meal.

Auryn saidOh, I thought you were trying to get my attention by calling me by my name. Carry on.

ROFL!

Vanity with no grounds is delusion, too much vanity is narcissism, not enough vanity is to be smelly , just enough is confidence.

I think it's a good thing

keeps you wanting to be as healthy as possible
looking the best you can

where it goes wrong is where people make bad choices
like with plastic surgery and/or taking drugs to look good
it usually backfires though

GQjock saidI think it's a good thing

keeps you wanting to be as healthy as possible
looking the best you can

where it goes wrong is where people make bad choices
like with plastic surgery and/or taking drugs to look good
it usually backfires though

Exactly!

There is nothing wrong with making yourself look better by using normal healthy ways. Just steer away from plastic surgery... there are enough screwed up Italian celebrities who now look worse than before! Haha!

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I think its fine to a point, but taking it too far can become an unhealthy and destructive thing....

Look at Michael Jackson.

Sedative said[quote][cite]Auryn said[/cite]Oh, I thought you were trying to get my attention by calling me by my name. Carry on.

ROFL!

Vanity with no grounds is delusion, too much vanity is narcissism, not enough vanity is to be smelly , just enough is confidence.[/quote]


All I have to say to that is...



*edit.... for some reason the picture I had of Vanity Smurf isn't showing anymore. I'll have to find another one I suppose.