Will Bisexuality Be Accepted In Society Ever.?

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    Sep 02, 2011 2:39 AM GMT
    Currently, I'm debating with this guy on Twitter who decided to tweet this:

    #YouCantDateMe if you're bisexual. That's double the people you can cheat on me with.

    Now, me being an open bisexual, I did take offense to this because this isn't the first tweet of the night on my timeline that's bashing bisexuality. Another user tweeted:

    There's no such thing as "Bi". Yeah, you're gay..

    Now, honestly, why is bisexuality shunned by everybody.? Bisexual women can get off easy (with men), but of course lesbians and straight women won't easily accept them. Bisexual men might as well be invisible because men only have the option of being gay or straight. It's really hard being an open bisexual, because people often don't believe that I'm equally attracted to both men and women. Honestly, it's not about me falling for a (biological) man or woman, but the person themselves.

    Bisexuality exist. Bisexuals exist. We're part of LGBTQA for a reason. However, where are we to go when we're shunned by out LGT people and the straight community.? This has got to stop. SMH
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    Sep 02, 2011 3:59 AM GMT
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    TheLetterD saidCurrently, I'm debating with this guy on Twitter who decided to tweet this:

    #YouCantDateMe if you're bisexual. That's double the people you can cheat on me with.

    Now, me being an open bisexual, I did take offense to this because this isn't the first tweet of the night on my timeline that's bashing bisexuality. Another user tweeted:

    There's no such thing as "Bi". Yeah, you're gay..

    Now, honestly, why is bisexuality shunned by everybody.? Bisexual women can get off easy (with men), but of course lesbians and straight women won't easily accept them. Bisexual men might as well be invisible because men only have the option of being gay or straight. It's really hard being an open bisexual, because people often don't believe that I'm equally attracted to both men and women. Honestly, it's not about me falling for a (biological) man or woman, but the person themselves.

    Bisexuality exist. Bisexuals exist. We're part of LGBTQA for a reason. However, where are we to go when we're shunned by out LGT people and the straight community.? This has got to stop. SMH

    Meh

    You're 19. Whenever a teenager wants to have this discussion, I think to myself "yeah right....a few years ago you wanted to be a fireman....before that, an astronaut." icon_rolleyes.gif

    Tell me you're bi when you're 30....until then, I'm just gonna smile and nod politely "yes" even though inside I know you're just a confused youngun hedging his bets with the "I'm bi" gambit until he works up enough confidence to admit "cock is the new Jesus...let us pray."

    This was another troll thread, right? --like your "rejected fembot" thread?? LOL

    Ever since I came out at 14, I've NEVER identified as anything else but bisexual. This isn't some "phase" or "trend" like you guys see it. No. I'll be bisexual until the day I die.
  • JP85257

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    Sep 02, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    Or a tranny.
  • JP85257

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    Sep 02, 2011 4:22 AM GMT
    amoonhawk saidIn the old days bisexuals were just called swingers that frequented swingers clubs and orgies.


    Sluts.....
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    Sep 02, 2011 4:24 AM GMT
    "I'll be bisexual until the day I die."

    Damn...wish I would have had that "wisdom" when I was your age.... icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 02, 2011 6:07 AM GMT
    Bisexuals were accepted more and before us poofters, because they were rooting women, thus with hope; unlike us poofs.

    Not sure if many of the wives will ever be accepting of being used though; or the kids.
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    Sep 02, 2011 6:11 AM GMT
    I'm with you.
    I knew I was completely gay by the time I was 14, I'm guessing heterosexuals know they're completely straight by the time they're 14, what's so different in this case?
    The only explanation I can think of is that people are ignorant cunts.
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    Sep 02, 2011 6:15 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said[nods....smiles politely.]
    If somebody told you when you were 19 that you weren't gay and you didn't know what you were talking about, how would you react?
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    Sep 02, 2011 2:11 PM GMT
    Hey TheLetterD, Whoever told you this,

    "There's no such thing as "Bi". Yeah, you're gay.."

    ..is flat-out wrong.

    Google bisexual websites. You'll find scores of them, and here's one to start with:

    http://www.bicupid.com/

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    Sep 02, 2011 2:22 PM GMT
    Bisexuals have always been, and always will be accepted in society more than gays.
    ...as long as they keep a girlfriend around. Sex with her is optional.
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    Sep 02, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    It's already accepted.
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    Sep 02, 2011 2:36 PM GMT
    First, until someone mentioned your age, I thought you were in your mid 20's or 30's, because you write well and just don't seem 19!
    I don't think homosexuality or bisexuality will ever be accepted by straight society. Yes, we have made a lot of progress in legal rights, and there are many straights who have no prob with gays or bis, especially among younger folks.
    I have known guys who are bisexual. I believe in the old continuum theory, that we all exist on a sexual grade curve, if you will allow that metaphor.
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    Sep 02, 2011 2:38 PM GMT
    antelope saidFirst, until someone mentioned your age, I thought you were in your mid 20's or 30's, because you write well and just don't seem 19!
    I don't think homosexuality or bisexuality will ever be accepted by straight society. Yes, we have made a lot of progress in legal rights, and there are many straights who have no prob with gays or bis, especially among younger folks.
    I have known guys who are bisexual. I believe in the old continuum theory, that we all exist on a sexual grade curve, if you will allow that metaphor.


    I think homosexuality will be accepted in my lifetime. Bi probably not because its not really defined well. People view bi people as confused, sex addicts or other things. Since they cannot 100% commit to one gender, they are something of an anomaly. People like things that are easily defined. Bi is not easily defined.
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    Sep 02, 2011 2:44 PM GMT
    TheLetterD saidWe're part of LGBTQA for a reason.


    Fuck me, there's a Q and A now too? What the what!?

    I don't think you should ask when society will accept bisexuality. I think you should ask when will you accept society? Things like that take a long time to change. We don't even have homosexuality accepted by all societies worldwide yet.
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    Sep 02, 2011 2:48 PM GMT
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    TheLetterD saidWe're part of LGBTQA for a reason.


    Fuck me, there's a Q and A now too? What the what!?

    I don't think you should ask when society will accept bisexuality. I think you should ask when will you accept society? Things like that take a long time to change. We don't even have homosexuality accepted by all societies worldwide yet.


    It will never be accepted world wide. Too many cultures ruled by too many different rules.. and QA? What the hell. We need less initials. BDSM, HWA, MWM...ugh. its like a boggle game up in hur.
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    Sep 02, 2011 2:55 PM GMT
    I'm sure it will be accepted more eventually but thinks that homosexuality will have to be very well accepted long before that happens.

    Right now, many people who are actually gay say that they are bi to soften the blow with family/friends or just because they have a hard time dealing with it. At some point, many fully come out so folks become skeptical of any who say they're bi.

    I've met a couple people who are truly bi and it's a tough road. They're not totally accepted by many on either side. I hope it changes soon but I suspect it's going to be awhile.
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    Sep 02, 2011 7:23 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    Anduru said
    yourname2000 said[nods....smiles politely.]
    If somebody told you when you were 19 that you weren't gay and you didn't know what you were talking about, how would you react?

    ???
    I think you're mistaking acting like you're sitting on the fence (aka: "bi") with having the balls to say to a world that doesn't want to hear it: "I'm gay!"
    And more importantly, you do realise I'm trollin', right?
    ya i do but friendsrbetter isn't and i wasn't about to acknowledge his existance.
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    Sep 02, 2011 7:31 PM GMT
    TheLetterD saidCurrently, I'm debating with this guy on Twitter who decided to tweet this:

    #YouCantDateMe if you're bisexual. That's double the people you can cheat on me with.

    Now, me being an open bisexual, I did take offense to this because this isn't the first tweet of the night on my timeline that's bashing bisexuality. Another user tweeted:

    There's no such thing as "Bi". Yeah, you're gay..

    Now, honestly, why is bisexuality shunned by everybody.? Bisexual women can get off easy (with men), but of course lesbians and straight women won't easily accept them. Bisexual men might as well be invisible because men only have the option of being gay or straight. It's really hard being an open bisexual, because people often don't believe that I'm equally attracted to both men and women. Honestly, it's not about me falling for a (biological) man or woman, but the person themselves.

    Bisexuality exist. Bisexuals exist. We're part of LGBTQA for a reason. However, where are we to go when we're shunned by out LGT people and the straight community.? This has got to stop. SMH


    To answer your question...yes.
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    Sep 02, 2011 7:36 PM GMT
    A lot of people say they're bi before they are willing to admit to themselves and others that they're gay. When my mom found gay magazines in my room when I was 17, I told her I was bi (knowing full well I was gay) because I thought she could better handle. it. I finally told her the truth when I was 22. Some guys really are bi, but many use the term before they're ready to fully come out.
  • neosyllogy

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    Sep 02, 2011 7:45 PM GMT
    I haven't gotten much flak from people really.
    Though I do get more the occasional "oh, you really are bi" or "you're the only real bi I know", on account of actually sleeping with and having serious relationships with both. The occasional straight woman is put off by the whole 'gay' thing and some guys get nervous that you're just experimenting with guys and thus more likely to leave them -- but on the whole I've found people pleasantly blase about it.

    Interestingly I've met a number of "gay" guys that, when prodded admit to an awkward curiosity or attraction to the opposite sex. People are fragile and their identities are often largely based on other people's expectations and gloming on to and identifying with a group. So it's no surprise some people (like on this forum) have issues with the concept. Indeed, while I know lots of people with interest in both sexes, I personally only know one other guy who's really comfortably bi and has relationships and sex with both sexes -- most people need help defining their sexual identity -- as sexual identity becomes less and less threatening more and more people will feel comfortable defining their own, nuances and all.

    Don't sweat it. As long as you trust you're doing the right thing just confidently be yourself. ;)
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    Sep 02, 2011 7:46 PM GMT
    I just answered a post of being scared of what our nation is turning into..

    Bisexually should be accepted... its a phenomenon of nature like any! If people would stop quick making judgement on what they think and take it for what it is. . How you say being bi doesnt exist? ARE YOU BI?

    So STFU! ( to the ignorant masses) unless you are or have been there. You can't possible repudiate.

    The world needs to be more open minded and less judgemental.

    There is a thin line ! yes! between being confused and real bisexuality but there are people out there who find deep sexual attraction towards both sexes. thats Bisexuality.
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    Sep 02, 2011 7:51 PM GMT
    I kind of don't care? I see so many people screaming at the top of their lungs things like "NO YOU'RE LYING TO YOURSELF YOU'RE GAY NO SUCH THING AS BI YOU LYIN' YOU LYIN!!!!!!!!"

    I...got shit to do in my life that keeps me busy. I'm sorry but I really don't have time or interest in who you choose to fuck or how you choose to define yourself icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 02, 2011 7:51 PM GMT
    You have to consider that we all view ourselves as centers of the universe. With that said, their comments have to do with them than it has to do with you. They're shutting you down to meet their own ends. There are plenty of others who wouldn't mind your bisexuality. Just move on.
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    Sep 02, 2011 7:51 PM GMT
    I didnt read this thread, I just wanted to say stop making posts about acceptance of bisexuality.

    Some of us arent ignorant and dont care if a guy is gay, bi, or straight.

    Sweet Jebus this is annoying!
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    Sep 02, 2011 8:02 PM GMT
    YOURNAME2000, your comments are pure bigotry. You stand for nothing. This site of all places should be bigot-free.

    The bigotry against bisexuality comes mainly from the gay community, in my experience. The bigots use the same language of oppression (ie lies) that the homophobes use agains gays:
    It's just a phase you're going through.
    You can be cured of this.
    This is not your true self.
    That kind of sexuality does not exist.
    It is an aberration.
    It is unnatural.
    Stop lying to yourself.
    Pervert.
    Flake.
    Weak.
    Confused.
    Unstable.

    There is a huge pressure to remain in the closet and to pretend to be gay. If you expose yourself as bi, many people take pity as they embrace a whole range of negative stereotypes.

    What is most surprising is that it does not matter what one says or with how much the sincerity and truth of one's personal experience. The bigots simply do not believe a word. It's identical to talking to a right wing fundamentalist Christian about anything. Facts simply do not matter. All that matters is their doctrine.