Sep 02, 2011 6:35 PM GMT
Sometimes I get insecure about this topic. It's not that I don't want to bottom, I've wanted my bf to do it before but the two times he tried he went limp, blamed the condom for being too tight, etc.---it was all his nerves I think because he knew I'd never bottomed before. So it's still never happened. My bf and I do other sexual things and enjoy it, so is that enough? The other (embarassing) problem is that I occasionally have hemorrhoids so it's not like I'm all gun-ho to be bottomed all the time either. (My bf doesn't know that part.) There's no pressure from my bf, and I'm not necessarily craving bottoming, but I sometimes feel like I'm a loser because I'm gay and have never bottomed before, not even once, and I'm 30 years old.