Am I a loser if I've never bottomed before?

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 02, 2011 6:35 PM GMT
    Sometimes I get insecure about this topic. It's not that I don't want to bottom, I've wanted my bf to do it before but the two times he tried he went limp, blamed the condom for being too tight, etc.---it was all his nerves I think because he knew I'd never bottomed before. So it's still never happened. My bf and I do other sexual things and enjoy it, so is that enough? The other (embarassing) problem is that I occasionally have hemorrhoids so it's not like I'm all gun-ho to be bottomed all the time either. (My bf doesn't know that part.) There's no pressure from my bf, and I'm not necessarily craving bottoming, but I sometimes feel like I'm a loser because I'm gay and have never bottomed before, not even once, and I'm 30 years old.
  • Timbales

    Posts: 13993

    Sep 02, 2011 6:39 PM GMT
    No, you're not a loser. You are potentially missing out on a pleasurable experience, but that doesn't make you a loser.

    Sometime if you aren't having issues down there, have your bf pit amcondom on his finger, lube it good and play with your ass while blowing you.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 02, 2011 6:48 PM GMT
    Dude, you make it sound like bottoming is some sort of requirement to be gay.

    Lots of guys never bottom.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 02, 2011 7:05 PM GMT
    yourname2000 saidThere is no "right way to be gay".


    Wrong, the only way to be gay is like me, and that is taking an average of 3 cocks up your ass a day.

    The guys who top me? They arent real gays, they are straight.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 02, 2011 7:22 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    Chainers said
    yourname2000 saidThere is no "right way to be gay".


    Wrong, the only way to be gay is like me, and that is taking an average of 3 cocks up your ass a day.

    The guys who top me? They arent real gays, they are straight.

    blah blah blah. icon_razz.gif

    Been around the RJ block enough to know:
      1. you don't get laid nearly as much as you say
      2. you won't take anything up your butt larger than 6"
      3. you're a total cuddle whore
      4. you only go for older guys in their 30s and 40s
      5. you actually like 'em pudgy (like the muscle guy you were calling fat in the "30 yos" thread)
      6. you don't believe any guy who has sex with guys could ever possibly be straight...automatically, they're bi at best, because you can't fathom a straight guy wanting to use a human fleshjack (albeit, a male one) to get himself off.

    Did I cover it all? icon_lol.gif

    Face it: you're all talk. And you talk so bloody much you have no secrets left anymore, lol! icon_razz.gif Butch it up all ya want, you're just a fast talking teddy bear.

    teddy_ruxpin.jpg


    lol well yea, Im what they call a grade A tease.

    And no the guy in the 30s thread is fat, not packing a little weight.

    I like guys with a little belly not a barrel, there is a difference.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 02, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
    I never bottom and I doubt anyone would call me a loser. Maybe a "winner," but certainly not a "loser."