Do you have fat friends? Do you avoid fat people? Do you judge them?

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    May 09, 2008 11:48 PM GMT
    Sometimes I look around the bus or subway and everyone is SO overweight. What's going on?
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    May 09, 2008 11:53 PM GMT
    its terrifying isn't it.

    My family is over weight, some of my friends are on the larger side.

    I wouldn't say I have fat friends, I do have mates who consider them selfs bears/cubs (to put a label of there choosing on it) but I love them all the same.

    At the end of the day, I accept there choices in life, what they choose, I've talked to them about there weight and they have assured me there happy just the way they are so I wont hold it against them!

    On the other hand, I don't know anyone I'd call fat, I see some people in shopping centers laboring under there own weight, struggling just to do stuff, thats terrifying!
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    May 09, 2008 11:59 PM GMT
    Oh! I love the Aussie Simplified English. Why have "there," "their," and "they're," when you can just use "there" for everything! Brillant! They may be hanging upside down, but they are not a stupid bunch!

    Does this mean I don't get my kit pic? ... icon_lol.gif

    Oh and yes I do judge and avoid lard asses every opportunity I get.
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    May 10, 2008 12:02 AM GMT
    Wow, if only Chucky was here.........icon_lol.gif
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    May 10, 2008 12:03 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidits terrifying isn't it.

    My family is over weight, some of my friends are on the larger side.

    I wouldn't say I have fat friends, I do have mates who consider them selfs bears/cubs (to put a label of there choosing on it) but I love them all the same.

    At the end of the day, I accept there choices in life, what they choose, I've talked to them about there weight and they have assured me there happy just the way they are so I wont hold it against them!

    On the other hand, I don't know anyone I'd call fat, I see some people in shopping centers laboring under there own weight, struggling just to do stuff, thats terrifying!


    that was a very thoughtful and intelligent post my friend....right on topic without silly useless banter about spelling.
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    May 10, 2008 12:13 AM GMT
    Sumbuddy's showing there luv for Aussies. And simplifide inglish. But, don't forget the grate US-Canada wars over farts...these ishyoos can get out of hand quickly.
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    May 10, 2008 12:27 AM GMT
    But on topic: I have a few chubby friends.

    I'm a little prejudiced, though, I must admit.

    I don't talk about my weight issues to them, and I don't pester them about their weight (I meant to say "thare wate", Cas...oops).

    If the topic starts wending that direction, I won't put up with any B.S., as in, "Oh, you're so lucky you're not fat like me!" (Caslon translation: "Oh, your so lucky your not fat like me!") Which I can't bear to hear. As if my workouts have to do with luck.
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    May 10, 2008 12:31 AM GMT
    RBY71 saidWow, if only Chucky was here.........icon_lol.gif



    ...were here

    subjunctive

    you are talking about an imaginary situation

    hahahaha...stop me before I correct again! hahahaha
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    May 10, 2008 12:43 AM GMT
    caslon said
    ...were here

    subjunctive

    you are talking about an imaginary situation

    hahahaha...stop me before I correct again! hahahaha

    Irregardless, kilts are dangerous. The progression naturally leads to bagpipes, then haggis... Do you see the slippery slope?
  • kjm1990

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    May 10, 2008 12:49 AM GMT
    well in not thin,im not fat im in the middle so do i count
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    May 10, 2008 12:52 AM GMT
    Buckwheet said[quote][cite]caslon said[/cite]
    ...were here

    subjunctive

    you are talking about an imaginary situation

    hahahaha...stop me before I correct again! hahahaha

    Irregardless, kilts are dangerous. The progression naturally leads to bagpipes, then haggis... Do you see the slippery slope?


    (I will overlook "irregardless" as I think you are just baiting me. ...tsk!)

    Maybe I can see the slippery slope if he lifts that kilt.
  • SFTraveler

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    May 10, 2008 12:58 AM GMT
    In the American culture, it's impossible not to have overweight friends.
    Their weight doesn't bother me at all; it's what is inside that matters to me.
    If they want help losing weight, I'm glad to offer advice or direct them to good resources. If they are comfortable with their weight, that's fine with me. I worry only if I see that their weight is damaging their health.
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    May 10, 2008 12:59 AM GMT
    RBY71 saidWow, if only Chucky was here.........icon_lol.gif



    caslon said...were here

    subjunctive

    you are talking about an imaginary situation

    hahahaha...stop me before I correct again! hahahaha


    I'm not entirely sure you all aren't figments of my imagination anyway.icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 10, 2008 1:02 AM GMT
    commodoreboi saidwell in not thin,im not fat im in the middle so do i count


    evrybody counts......that's what I heard.
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    May 10, 2008 1:04 AM GMT
    Well, I have to admit I'm impatient with some of the fat people I've known or seen - especially when they take so much time telling me all about how they're going to lose the weight - the new trainer, the new diet, ad nauseam. When I see them again they're often fatter than ever. The often pay lip service to the problem but will not get going with a weight loss program and stick with it.

    Sorry to rant - just so tired of their taking my time - getting my support and then - nothing.
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    May 10, 2008 1:05 AM GMT
    I'm NOT(I left this out in the original reply icon_sad.gif ) judgemental towards the overweight people I know. I assume the know the error in their ways and have comes to terms with that. In fact, I know some people proud to be overweight; though they know it's also unhealthy. Then there are those whom are in a constant cycle of gaining and losing and all the while feeling guilty for wanting sweets, but still going for another fad diet. I feel sorry for them, since I think it's the media//manipulative commercials that have got them all wound up like that.

    I have plenty of overweight friends. Some whom have become overweight since high school, others always in between, and those whom have gone from overweight to slender and sexy. They're some of my most favorite people. They've got a good feel for life and are fun to be around; even though they sometimes have to deal with a**holes whom make small minded rude remarks because of their own insecurities.

    It's just another card in the deck: like race, sexuality, religion, and whatever else fits the bill. I won't call someone on something they may be able to control, but lack the will power and/or ability to do so. Hell, my roommate/ex partner, even went through and "overweight" phase, but I loved the guy so much that I never noticed until I look back some pictures from 2 years before.

    Anywhichway, no I don't judge people for being fat. It does't affect me, so it's irrelevant. I give them advice when they start to go into depression cycles concerning fad diets and looking like some perfect physical beauty achitype that is both rare and nearly impossible expectation for any person to expect to acheive for themselves by will power alone.
  • MattyC0709

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    May 10, 2008 1:08 AM GMT
    There were two fat guys together at the gym today using the pec deck / concentration curl machine and they spent more time talking rather than doing anything on it. I managed to do 3 sets of 3 different excercises each until I finally got to use it! icon_evil.gif

    Actually 4 exercises, coz while I did the 3rd exercise they got off, and a normal well built guy went on it! icon_biggrin.gificon_lol.gificon_razz.gificon_wink.gif
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    May 10, 2008 1:08 AM GMT
    I just mentioned the same thing to a friend. Fit people are a minority. I don't think many people have the discipline for fitness. I have heavy friends and they usually complain about their weight and make fun of my commitment to being fit. I am glad about my decision and its funny how much all the fit guys on this site motivate me.

    My mom just turned 60 and she gets up at 4:30 am to go to the gym. Discipline discipline discipline!
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    May 10, 2008 1:33 AM GMT
    You know, this is one of the reasons I broke up with the last boyfriend (albeit a minor reason).

    He really loathed fat people. I have some very fit friends and some heavy ones, and many in-between. But what unites them as (to me) interesting people has nothing to do with their waistlines. These are people who can do things, even if they don't go to a gym. They have accomplished much in the arts, in journalism, in business, and since I have no plans whatever to fuck any of 'em, I really don't even see their weight.

    And I mean that. I don't even SEE it, because that's not what draws me to them.

    He was derisive of them; he avoided their company, and their LEFT PINKIES were worth ten of him (and probably weighed more too).

    This subject pisses me off big time. I choose to be fit, because I like the way I look.

    THAT IS NOT EVERYONE'S CHOICE.

    Those who disagree me can go look up my ex-bf and hang out with him in his bitter misery. Have a sparkling water for me, I won't be there.
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    May 10, 2008 1:43 AM GMT
    I don't judge "fat" people simply because I don't know the reason(s) why they are fat. My two dearest friends in the world are both over 300lbs a piece. One only eats about 1800 calories a day, but has many health related problems that cause her to keep her weight as well has zap her energy so that she doesn't feel like or can't do much exercising.

    Someone could be over weight from just being lazy, but they could also have medical issues, emotional issues, etc. Never judge a man till you've walked in his shoes.

    I spent my entire life thinking I looked like "Shrek" thanks to an emotionally abusive dad and now at age 36 I am just getting over it.

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    May 10, 2008 2:05 AM GMT
    My brother and parents are overweight, but as far as friends go.. to be honest I have two 'real' friends. Known them since childhood (last week icon_razz.gif), they went through the Army and are now coppers in surrounding counties. They're both scrawny, like jack rabbits.

    I don't deal with people much, so no basis for avoiding them. I avoid people all together. People talk to much, I like to laugh, talking; not so much.

    Judge 'em? If they are morbidly obese and waddling towards McDonalds, damn right I do. See the same person trying to change: there is no limit to the amount of respect I have for them; those whom have the will to change.

    I used to be overweight, but I got my ass in gear and changed. People thought I had cancer. Used bowflex, 32oz water bottle and lots of saying No thanks. Lost like 70lbs in 6 weeks.
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    May 10, 2008 2:26 AM GMT
    Buckwheet said
    Irregardless, kilts are dangerous. The progression naturally leads to bagpipes, then haggis... Do you see the slippery slope?


    But... I look good in a kilt. And I love fresh haggis!
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    May 10, 2008 2:27 AM GMT
    One of my best friends at work is morbidly obese. Must be close to 400 lbs.. Her health suffers because of it but there is nothing you can do.
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    May 10, 2008 2:33 AM GMT
    DiverScience said[quote][cite]Buckwheet said[/cite]
    Irregardless, kilts are dangerous. The progression naturally leads to bagpipes, then haggis... Do you see the slippery slope?


    But... I look good in a kilt. And I love fresh haggis![/quote]

    You look good in a kilt? ...naaaah! ...You have to show us
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    May 10, 2008 3:34 AM GMT
    caslon saidOh! I love the Aussie Simplified English. Why have "there," "their," and "they're," when you can just use "there" for everything! Brillant! They may be hanging upside down, but they are not a stupid bunch!

    Does this mean I don't get my kit pic? ... icon_lol.gif

    Oh and yes I do judge and avoid lard asses every opportunity I get.


    I got it all wrong, whoo is me, for shame on I, I should go chuck my self off a bridge for I can not keep up with all those who spell far greater then I... My life is over, it has run its course.

    Blow me sweet heart! hmmm, that doesn't have the same sort of effect in a gay forum!

    *goes and reads the chapters on anal retentive spelling*