My Business Networking group refused to renew me for another year after 3 years there and it pissed me off

  • chgobuzz1

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    Sep 03, 2011 4:54 AM GMT
    Im in this business group with about 18 people. Each of us in a category of business that would allow all of us to refer clients to each other. Im in finance, there is an attorney, insurance agent, real estate agent, plumber, home inspector etc. Was invited to join 3 years ago by the attorney who I was already networking with. Note I am the only gay person there but that never was an issue. I send me $365.00 for another year of membership but the VP calls saying the Membership Committee declined to renew me and I am out of the group, voted out by 3 on the membership comm. with no doubt influence by the new President who always refused to refer business to me. I enjoy the group, learn new ideas at our weekly meetings and regularly refer my clients to the insurance guy, home inspector and attorney. I have not received much in referrals this past 9 or 10 months but I enjoyed and learned from the group anyway. I suspect the homophobic President who is new, wants to give my spot to one of his friends. The issue is that a couple people in the group have emailed saying they will be happy to accept my referrals still. I like these guys actually but I can think of no good reason to refer them business now that their leader has declined to renew me and want to tell them that. Am I being petty , unreasonable or should I still give them business into their group even though their leader apparently finds no value in these referrals I give ? (BTW the reason I was dropped as I was told by the VP is that I was not receiving enough referrals and should not be there, even though I was giving them referrals). I was really hurt by all this because I like the group and like learning what they do at each weekly meeting in their own businesses.( I met a guy who built my website and a guy who videos my clients giving testimonials about me I have on my website. The group helped me a lot so I liked being there.) What to do ?
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    Sep 03, 2011 5:53 AM GMT
    This sounds like a pyramid scheme. Business networking shouldn't require a membership fee.
  • chgobuzz1

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    Sep 03, 2011 6:39 AM GMT
    Thanks Youename2000. Yes Im sure there are unseen politics to the group. I tried just a couple weeks ago to meet with the Presdident but he brushed me off and I lost interest in wasting my time with him knowing he refers his finance business to a friend outside the group I suspect gives him kickbacks.

    The main issue from your last paragraph is that these 3 who reached out to me have not referred me any clients in almost a year yet have accepted clients from me they have made money off of recently. Now that I am out of the group, where they were not giving me clients anyway, why should I still feed them clients ? Isnt that rewarding bad politics of a leader they helped install ? How do I know they will ever send me clients while being pressured themselves to send their clients to my successor in the group lest they should be deinied their own membership renewals for not producing clients into the group ?
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    Sep 03, 2011 6:51 AM GMT
    Join a bigger and better group.
    Start your own.
    Sans fee.
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    Sep 03, 2011 7:43 AM GMT
    Tl; dr

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    Sep 03, 2011 3:59 PM GMT
    Yes well, for starters these guys are douche bags and not professionals.

    No do not refer to people who do not refer to me. I am in the same industry and if I send referrals and do not get them, I stop sending referrals. Any professional relationship is built on reciprocity, and nothing else.

    Go get another group, like I said, these guys are douches.
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    Sep 03, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    Forget them. Network with those of your own choosing. There doesn't need to be an organization to do this. Now or sometime down the road, if there is a group you are comfortable with, suggest a get together at lunch just to meet. That could lead to something more organized, but it wouldn't have to.