Israeli rabbi pairs gays to lesbians

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    Sep 03, 2011 11:58 PM GMT
    SHILO, West Bank (AP) — Rabbi Arele Harel offers an unconventional solution for Orthodox Jewish gay men who want to raise a conventional family: He fixes them up with Orthodox lesbians.

    His matchmaking service, which has just gone online, has met criticism on opposing fronts. Orthodox Jewish rabbis say Harel should be doing more to encourage gays and lesbians to try to change their sexual orientation. Liberal religious gay groups see Harel's approach as a ploy to suppress homosexuality.

    The matchmaking presents an array of challenges. The relationship may be loveless. The partners may be tempted to seek sexual satisfaction outside the marriage. And the couple may need assistance to get pregnant. But Harel insists he just wants to help people have children, an important commandment of Jewish law.

    "The main aspiration here is parenthood," said Harel, 36, from his home in the Jewish West Bank settlement of Shilo. "It allows them to become parents in a way that is permitted by religious Jewish law and prevents a conflict between their religious world and their sexual world."

    Most rabbis encourage gays to suppress their attractions, abstain from gay sex or undergo therapy to try to go straight. Harel believes some gays can alter their sexual orientation through therapy, and insists many do. The American Psychological Association has declared no solid evidence exists that such change is likely.

    Harel said his method is meant for those who can't change, yet want to remain observant and have children.

    Harel began matching lesbians and gay men six years ago, he said, because he recognized a "deep distress" among people "facing a dead end road."

    More recently, Kamoha, a religious gay group, began receiving inquiries from gay men and lesbian women about this approach. Kamoha linked up with Harel and last month began publicizing the initiative on its Web site.

    Harel says he has wed 12 couples, and several have had children. More than 80 people expressed interest in the matchmaking service when it was publicized by word-of-mouth, and since it went online two weeks ago, Harel says he has received dozens of emails.

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    Sep 04, 2011 4:30 AM GMT
    This is prime example of how religion tries to solve crazy (homosexuality is wrong) with more crazy (lets marry a gay man & lesbian) so they can produce even more crazy (childern born to a loveless marriage).

    Love spirituality, fucken hate religion.
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    Sep 04, 2011 4:34 AM GMT
    She'll build the house, he'll decorate it and keep it clean. No pesky kids! Dinner parties ahoy!
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    Sep 04, 2011 4:35 AM GMT
    TriAthInCA saidThis is prime example of how religion tries to solve crazy (homosexuality is wrong) with more crazy (lets marry a gay man & lesbian) so they can produce even more crazy (childern born to a loveless marriage).

    Love spirituality, fucken hate religion.
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    Sep 04, 2011 4:54 AM GMT
    Reform Judaism is very open to homosexuality. My synagogue is very welcoming of me and is actually actively working to engage the Jewish Gay community. Every religion has its nut jobs...religion is not the problem but rather people. Human beings tend to be rather limited in perspective regardless of creed...