Why am I always the dominant one?

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    Sep 04, 2011 4:25 PM GMT
    With all the guys I've been with, even those who have said they are versatile in personality and bed, I've always been the more dominant one. I always seem to make the first move such as the first kiss and even the one saying I like them. It's so frustrating!

    Like my last "partner" (we didn't date), I led with most of the kissing, and I stayed on top of him while I was doing stuff. I wanted him to take control even though he doesn't look the type; he's quite skinny but taller than me. He said he liked what I was doing which included kissing, necking and other various things.

    I sometimes wonder what it'd be like to be with a more dominant guy. Perhaps I'm choosing mostly bottom guys, or maybe I'm too dominant in personality for my own good? I dunno.

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  • hawkeye7

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    Sep 04, 2011 5:28 PM GMT
    It happens to me too
    sometimes I just want a man to pin me down, take over and pound my ass.

    Really guys!

    Now you do have to understand that if you get away with this it will most likely happen to you. I am one strong man and I will come after your ass.
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    Sep 04, 2011 6:33 PM GMT
    hawkeye7 saidIt happens to me too
    sometimes I just want a man to pin me down, take over and pound my ass.

    Really guys!

    Now you do have to understand that if you get away with this it will most likely happen to you. I am one strong man and I will come after your ass.

    That can't be a thead-ender cuz....WOOOOOF.
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    Sep 04, 2011 6:37 PM GMT
    physically pretty much been dominant always. emotionally though i was VERY passive and introverted. been trying to change that.
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    Sep 04, 2011 6:40 PM GMT



    Because I'm such a dominate individual outside of the bedroom, I tend to be a bit more submissive when i'm being intimate with someone....

    But if it's just a hookup, i'll pin that fucker down =P

    However, I like to be versatile... icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 04, 2011 6:44 PM GMT
    I have found that for every dominate man, there are an estimated 1000 submissive ones, with only 1 or 2 who may be in the middle. But, of the 1000 submissive men, at least half of them lie about it in order to get sex.

    On a separate note, I've also found that 8 out of 10 guys are size queens. However, at least 6 out of the 8 have average or small members. But, since so many are bottoms, perhaps that's to be expected. I've also found that most would rather go without sex than have it with someone who is small, even if they themselves are small. So, there's a lot less promiscuity than you might think.
  • hawkeye7

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    Sep 04, 2011 7:51 PM GMT
    guys take care of each other

    There are two types of gay men in the world
    BOTTOMS and LIARS
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    Sep 04, 2011 8:01 PM GMT
    hawkeye7 saidguys take care of each other

    There are two types of gay men in the world
    BOTTOMS and LIARS


    Lawwwwl.

    So I guess I (total non-negotiable Dom Top) don't exist then.


    *disappears in a puff of interwebs logic*
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    Sep 04, 2011 8:05 PM GMT
    from my limited experience, for every 1 top there are like 9 bottoms. i suppose that makes your pool better if you are a top
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    Sep 04, 2011 8:13 PM GMT
    Must be a way of keeping the dating pool open. Same thing goes for vers-tops. When I'm with one and wanna go there, they aren't having so much as a finger close to their ass.
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    Sep 04, 2011 8:19 PM GMT
    kandsk saidMust be a way of keeping the dating pool open. Same thing goes for vers-tops. When I'm with one and wanna go there, they aren't having so much as a finger close to their ass.


    Most "vers-tops" I've played with are very quick to put their ass up or their legs in the air for me.

    Though I'm in agreement - there definitely seems to be more bottoms - or guys willing to bottom than strict tops like myself.

    Much to my enjoyment I might add. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 04, 2011 8:49 PM GMT
    Kell_la saidI have found that for every dominate man, there are an estimated 1000 submissive ones, with only 1 or 2 who may be in the middle. But, of the 1000 submissive men, at least half of them lie about it in order to get sex.

    On a separate note, I've also found that 8 out of 10 guys are size queens. However, at least 6 out of the 8 have average or small members. But, since so many are bottoms, perhaps that's to be expected. I've also found that most would rather go without sex than have it with someone who is small, even if they themselves are small. So, there's a lot less promiscuity than you might think.


    Interesting comment. I have a different take on this. I'd say for every "dominant" man there are 10,000 "subs" waiting to be manhandled, and more than half of those who proclaim they're "dominant" are lying through their teeth. I've found that homos generally like being thrown around, spanked,manhandled and treated like little bitchwhores that they are. Moreover, the bigger, more muscular, and more masculine they are physically, the more significant is their need to be controlled and disciplined.
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    Sep 04, 2011 8:54 PM GMT
    Can you be a dominant bottom? My personality is just dominant whether I bottom or top. Its fun being vers.
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    Sep 04, 2011 9:03 PM GMT
    Nothing hotter than than holding a guy in the air while fucking him.
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    Sep 04, 2011 10:27 PM GMT
    DOMINUS said... there are 10,000 "subs" waiting to be manhandled, and more than half of those who proclaim they're "dominant" are lying through their teeth. I've found that homos generally like being thrown around, spanked,manhandled and treated like little bitchwhores that they are. Moreover, the bigger, more muscular, and more masculine they are physically, the more significant is their need to be controlled and disciplined.


    So very true.

    A lot of the bottoms/subs I've hooked up have made a huge point of how masculine they are, and the bigger muscle boys I've fucked generally take a lot more punishment - and **WANT** to be punish-fucked more mercilessly than the lean/twink type guys I tend to be more attracted to.
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    Sep 04, 2011 11:23 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidInteresting comment. I have a different take on this. I'd say for every "dominant" man there are 10,000 "subs" waiting to be manhandled, and more than half of those who proclaim they're "dominant" are lying through their teeth. I've found that homos generally like being thrown around, spanked,manhandled and treated like little bitchwhores that they are. Moreover, the bigger, more muscular, and more masculine they are physically, the more significant is their need to be controlled and disciplined.

    hehehe OMG it's sooo true!
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    Sep 04, 2011 11:49 PM GMT
    TotalTopJock saidNothing hotter than than holding a guy in the air while fucking him.


    Care to demonstrate with me? so we can provide MuchMore Muscle with said required pics? lmao.icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 05, 2011 1:16 AM GMT
    closer85 saidfrom my limited experience, for every 1 top there are like 9 bottoms. i suppose that makes your pool better if you are a top


    That's kinda true from what I've seen. I like being dominant, don't get me wrong. I would just love if someone could reciprocate every once in a while! I love control, but I would love it as much if I lost that control to a great guy.
  • hawkeye7

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    Sep 05, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    Most "vers-tops" I've played with are very quick to put their ass up or their legs in the air for me.

    Though I'm in agreement - there definitely seems to be more bottoms - or guys willing to bottom than strict tops like myself.

    Much to my enjoyment I might add. icon_smile.gif[/quote]

    Just find the right man and try it, you don't have to do it all the time but everyonce in while a real man should get his world rocked.
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    Sep 05, 2011 3:37 PM GMT
    hawkeye7 saidguys take care of each other

    There are two types of gay men in the world
    BOTTOMS and LIARS


    hahaha,
    and so true.
    i like it both ways, but most of the time i top because , well, for the reasons already stated . i'd never say i'm a top though .
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    Sep 05, 2011 6:10 PM GMT
    Hey guys you do know you can be very dominant while you ride that cock!

    I recomend your belt on his bare ass .....just a few times
    cowboy boots, stetson hat and thin climb on and make him give you the ride you deserve
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    Sep 05, 2011 6:42 PM GMT
    Pretty aggressive myself. I've been with submissive guys and guys equally as aggressive. Passionate dominance always heats things up.