should i stay or should i go?? Need some advice??

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    Sep 05, 2011 5:28 AM GMT
    so im in an open relationship been together over 9 years. i still love him and care for him but i feel like the relationship has ran its course. I can't seem to leave because he keeps holding on to me and wont let me go. Things are not bad but it just seems like we are just friends at this point. When i tell him about my hook ups he gets jealous and gets quiet. He has gained weight and feels insecure about himself so he has not hooked up as much as me and i tend to get alot of attention and boys wanting to hook up and at this point it seems to be an issue. I dont know what i should do keep on working at it since we have been together so long or i call it off ??? I need any advice u guys can give? If u have any other questions let me know??
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    Sep 05, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    Go. You have one foot out the door.

    But with respect to your nine years, be honest and frank. Make sure your leaving causes him zero impacts other than emotional (financial, for instance) so that you can go with a clear conscience.

    A lot of guys compete in relationships and when one loses they lose their way for a while. He'll get it back, probably much quicker without you around.

    Good luck.
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    Sep 05, 2011 5:51 PM GMT
    I would say '' Stay'' and give the relationship another chance ... from ur words he seems that he is still in love with u
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    Sep 05, 2011 5:57 PM GMT
    That's kind of why I don't understand how open relationships work. It would seem like the hookups would cause tension no matter how much you think you are fine with them. But it does seem like your partner loves you if it bothers him so much. If you don't feel the same way about him then at least try to minimize the impact of the breakup. 9 years is a really long time to just end suddenly.
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    Sep 06, 2011 12:19 AM GMT
    If you go there will be trouble?
    If you stay will it be double?