Tired of the Single's Game!

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    May 10, 2008 8:49 PM GMT
    Has anyone ever felt like they’ll be single forever or just better off alone? All the good ones are un-available, all the prospects just want to play games and everybody else just wants to get in your pants.

    They lie to your face, tell you everything you want to hear, then use and string you along until they get tired; never with the intention of developing a meaningful relationship. Honestly, I am emotionally and physically exhausted from playing the “What Next?” game with guys. I tired of it.

    The sad thing…..You either play, or live and die alone.
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    May 10, 2008 8:56 PM GMT
    Become a nun.

    Or.

    Take it a little less seriously and develop other interests apart from man hunting.
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    May 10, 2008 9:11 PM GMT
    lolcats funny cat pictures ... and your personality sucks...oh, I think I've hit on something here.
  • GQjock

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    May 11, 2008 10:15 AM GMT
    Yeah...it IS a game
    and it can be pretty tedious and annoying sometimes

    ...but the game pieces are pretty fun

    and when you hit Park Place Whoohoo!! icon_cool.gif
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    May 11, 2008 11:29 AM GMT
    The world is what you make of it. If you want more; do more. If want change; become the change. The world around will never bend to our will; we can only adapt to save ourselves.
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    May 11, 2008 12:25 PM GMT
    boiwunderkind1984 saidThe world is what you make of it. If you want more; do more. If want change; become the change.


    Sad but true story. A man I knew went to see a psychic because he wanted to become the change.

    The next morning he was turned into a handful of dimes, nickels, pennies and quarters.

    There's a lesson there somewhere.
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    May 11, 2008 12:34 PM GMT
    And because he was slutty, he was loose change!
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    May 11, 2008 3:00 PM GMT
    McGay saidAnd because he was slutty, he was loose change!

    Me asks excuse meeh??
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    May 11, 2008 3:48 PM GMT
    Don't you know the rules of gay dating?

    Single. Attractive. Mentally Stable. - pick two icon_lol.gif


    Seriously though, you need to relax. Yea it sucks when what you describe happens - but it happens. It sounds to me like you need to take a break. Stay single for a while, and just spend time on yourself. Pick up a hobby or activity that will increase your social time (away from dating!). Something that will introduce you to new friends.

    Enjoy this time, seriously - besides, you never know who you're going to meet. Every single day is a new opportunity.

    Wow, I sounded like Dr. Phil on crack on that last sentence... but it's true haha. I've met some of the best people in my life on what start out as just 'ordinary' days.

    Do I think I'll be single forever? Sometimes. Am I okay with that? Yup. Once you let go of the 'game' then you can't really be 'played'.

    I hope things get better for you!
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    May 11, 2008 4:11 PM GMT
    My friend used to tell me "Once you stop looking, you will find someone". Never made sense to me. So I played the field. I didnt want anything serious. Sure enough I found what I was looking for before.

    Go out date, have fun with it. Dont take it too serious. You can do all that without the games and BS.
  • DiverScience

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    May 11, 2008 4:26 PM GMT
    "All relationships fail... until one doesn't." - Dan Savage
  • dfrourke

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    May 11, 2008 4:47 PM GMT

    maybe it's time to get some quality friends...I'm single and I certainly don't feel alone...having quality friends also really takes the pressure off of having to look...

    - David
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    May 11, 2008 5:22 PM GMT
    If you measure the value of your life by your relationship status, you're probably bound to be upset from time to time. If, on the other hand, being in a relationship is just a happy addition to your already-full life, if it fails you don't have nearly so much to lose.
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    May 11, 2008 5:56 PM GMT
    Also, where are you looking? I'm always kind of wary when people make broad generalizations about "all the prospects" because there's such a wide range of men out there. For example, if I'm looking for something meaningful and stable, I'd be on a fool's errand to hit the West Hollywood bars every weekend. You got to use your brain and go where you're likely to succeed.
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    May 11, 2008 6:56 PM GMT
    Lazz

    You sound like you had a loser there and if might be better that you got rid of him, better now than after a year or two total committment and then out of the Blue comes we are not compatible crap.

    Like fishing do not go for the trophy fish go for the ones you will keep, and enjoy.

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    May 11, 2008 7:08 PM GMT
    innerathlete saidAlso, where are you looking?


    I always look under the sofa cushions first. That's where everything seems to turn up.
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    May 11, 2008 7:12 PM GMT
    jprichva said

    I always look under the sofa cushions first. That's where everything seems to turn up.


    I always check the closet first. If not there, an alley.
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    May 13, 2008 6:04 PM GMT
    In all honesty, each side of the dating spectrum has it's pros and cons. You just have to make the best of it. I've been single for over 6 years and have been on some 1st dates where I thought it went well, but I guess I just wasn't what the other guy was looking for. Ya sucks, but I just keep in mind that eventually there will be that guy who will see me for who I am and vice versa. Just have patience man.
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    May 13, 2008 7:13 PM GMT
    RunintheCity said

    I always check the closet first. If not there, an alley.


    [Joe hides in your alley and waits patiently to be found icon_biggrin.gif]
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    May 15, 2008 12:34 AM GMT
    Reading some of these posts I’ve realized a few assumptions about me have been made but then again I am not surprised because I purposely withheld details of the situation for a reason.

    Ironic as it might seem, I’m a trouper. I keep pushing forward no matter how hopeless or difficult it gets. All I am saying is that dating is neither easy nor fair and it takes a whole lot of work to find that person you just instantaneously click with (if that even exists). Unfortunately, along the way there are times you will get a little despondent and I think I might had hit one of those bumps when I posted this forum.

    Additionally, I know there are persons out there that feel the same way but are just not confident enough to admit or discuss it, so circuitously I was also trying to say, “You are not alone”
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    May 15, 2008 2:42 AM GMT
    If "love" were easy, it wouldn't mean so much once we do find it...
    Perhaps it's my age, but I don't spend too much time dwelling on the "bad" part of being single....I guess part of the reason I love it so much is I spent the vast majority of my adult life 21 to 40 in relationships...so, I thrive on my independence!icon_biggrin.gif
    "Patience is a virtue", right?

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    May 15, 2008 11:33 AM GMT
    smalltownboy said
    "Patience is a virtue", right?



    She was NOT!

    Patience was a virgin!
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    May 15, 2008 2:17 PM GMT
    "You'll never find what you're looking for if you shut your eyes."- Me, I think.

    I haven't been on a date or even had a one nighter in who knows how long. I fill my time with friends and work. I always hear "oh, we need to hook you up" but they never know anyone to hook me up with. lol. I like the time that I'm with someone, but it's the time beteween someones that makes life enjoyable.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    May 15, 2008 2:26 PM GMT
    When you stop looking is when you usually find him
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    May 15, 2008 2:28 PM GMT
    KissingPro said[quote][cite]Lazz said[/cite]Has anyone ever felt like they’ll be single forever or just better off alone? All the good ones are un-available, all the prospects just want to play games and everybody else just wants to get in your pants.

    They lie to your face, tell you everything you want to hear, then use and string you along until they get tired; never with the intention of developing a meaningful relationship. Honestly, I am emotionally and physically exhausted from playing the “What Next?” game with guys. I tired of it.

    The sad thing…..You either play, or live and die alone.


    Come on.....get real. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. With an attitude like that, it's hard to meet anyone.[/quote]




    I agree...and try adding a face to your profile...4 pictures, ALL headless??? Makes people wonder what you're hiding.