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    Sep 05, 2011 1:36 PM GMT
    I've been on this site for a minute and from the moment that i have stepped onto the scene i have received some hate from others but i would keep it moving and act like it doesn't bother me. Lately I have been accused of racism just because i am attracted to black man from some member that i have got into it with on more than one occasion. I had a friend on here that wanted to be more than just that and when i told him i wasn't interested he got upset and started insulting me and never responds to my messages. I still want to be his friend but can't since he continues to be an ass for unknown reasons. Mostly everyone here view me as being a problem to others because i speak my mind, have a blunt personality, and don't back down from them. Although i don't want to change who i am as a person i would like to know a solution to the problems that i have here on this site? icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 05, 2011 2:04 PM GMT
    November will be here soon enough.
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    Sep 05, 2011 2:07 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 saidYou will find that gays (in general) and many of the RJ members are the most hateful, intolerant, judgmental people out there. Heaven forbid you don't conform to all the gay stereotypes... they'll come after you like a pack of angry hens. I know right couldn't agree more

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    Edward22 saidI've been on this site for a minute and from the moment that i have stepped onto the scene i have received some hate from others but i would keep it moving and act like it doesn't bother me. Lately I have been accused of racism just because i am attracted to black man from some member that i have got into it with on more than one occasion. I had a friend on here that wanted to be more than just that and when i told him i wasn't interested he got upset and started insulting me and never responds to my messages. I still want to be his friend but can't since he continues to be an ass for unknown reasons. Mostly everyone here view me as being a problem to others because i speak my mind, have a blunt personality, and don't back down from them. Although i don't want to change who i am as a person i would like to know a solution to the problems that i have here on this site? icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 05, 2011 3:37 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 saidYou will find that gays (in general) and many of the RJ members are the most hateful, intolerant, judgmental people out there. Heaven forbid you don't conform to all the gay stereotypes... they'll come after you like a pack of angry hens.

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    Reminds me of this

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    Sep 05, 2011 3:37 PM GMT
    Edward: you have a lot of good qualities. Sometimes these get overlooked by people who need to oversimplify the random people they meet into one dimensional stereotypes, which means your complexity is never going to be appreciated. You have a very strong defense mechanism in place. Which is obvious, especially in the Mean Girls thread. My advice to you on RJ specifically and in life generally, pick your battles. Its okay to let some things go.. if someone says something rude or ugly to you, try not responding. Go send a compliment to someone else about something entirely unrelated. And look at these emoticons over here -------> especially the smiley face. Try to write more posts that include that one. You have a lot of good qualities, let more people discover them icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 05, 2011 3:39 PM GMT
    spaghettimonster saidEdward: you have a lot of good qualities. Sometimes these get overlooked by people who need to oversimplify the random people they meet into one dimensional stereotypes, which means your complexity is never going to be appreciated. You have a very strong defense mechanism in place. Which is obvious, especially in the Mean Girls thread. My advice to you on RJ specifically and in life generally, pick your battles. Its okay to let some things go.. if someone says something rude or ugly to you, try not responding. Go send a compliment to someone else about something entirely unrelated. And look at these emoticons over here -------> especially the smiley face. Try to write more posts that include that one. You have a lot of good qualities, let more people discover them icon_smile.gif
    Thanks man i appreciate that icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 05, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    Well, if I'm being totally honest, I'm sure you're not totally innocent in all of your actions, Edward. I mean, I'm pretty sure you bring at least some of this on yourself.

    But now that you've been effectively been downgraded to a class A social pariah on this board, if you'd like to salvage your reputation, you should probably let people get to know you better. If your board rep matters to you, send messages, ask people how they're doing, make legitimate friends who just want that - friendship and camaraderie. Trust me, there are people who judge based on how you act and the man you are, not how you look.

    Your friend deki brought up a lot of good points in the Mean Girls thread and it made me re-evaluate my thoughts on your mentality. You do have a defense mechanism, and while I think it's necessary, it's going to be disarming to people. So you have one of two choices. You can let the wall down and put yourself out there, which should endear you to most people. Conversely, you can keep the wall up and not give a fuck what people think.

    And lastly, Spaghetti brought up a good point - you have to pick and choose your battles.
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    Sep 05, 2011 4:46 PM GMT
    closer85 saidWell, if I'm being totally honest, I'm sure you're not totally innocent in all of your actions, Edward. I mean, I'm pretty sure you bring at least some of this on yourself.

    But now that you've been effectively been downgraded to a class A social pariah on this board, if you'd like to salvage your reputation, you should probably let people get to know you better. If your board rep matters to you, send messages, ask people how they're doing, make legitimate friends who just want that - friendship and camaraderie. Trust me, there are people who judge based on how you act and the man you are, not how you look.

    Your friend deki brought up a lot of good points in the Mean Girls thread and it made me re-evaluate my thoughts on your mentality. You do have a defense mechanism, and while I think it's necessary, it's going to be disarming to people. So you have one of two choices. You can let the wall down and put yourself out there, which should endear you to most people. Conversely, you can keep the wall up and not give a fuck what people think.

    And lastly, Spaghetti brought up a good point - you have to pick and choose your battles.
    Thanks man I'll keep that in mind
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    Sep 05, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    Edward now I feel bad icon_sad.gif

    I apologize if I ever hurt you