More into him, need advice

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    Sep 05, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    So I have been talking to this guy on grindr for a while and 4 days ago we met for the first time. Beforehand we were very honest with each other and he told me he was also talking to other people. I told him I wanted an actual relationship, not a fling, and he wanted the same. So after our first date, we got caught up in the moment and had sex. Then the next night did the same the same thing. So last night was our 3rd date and we went to see a movie with 2 of his friends. Well during this, a guy he used to talk to texted him and asked him if he was talking/seeing anyone. He made a noise that could be interpreted as not or sort of, which kind of stung a little. Once the two of us got back to his house we began kissing and such. Before anything got to intense I told him I was scared he would only me as a fuck buddy. He told me if I were that to him, he wouldn't have invited me to hang out with his best friends. I just feel like I am more into him then he is into me. Am I over reacting?
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    Sep 05, 2011 4:54 PM GMT
    You're not overreacting.

    Grindr is mainly used for hooking up and is geared to guys who want to hookup. A lot of times guys who are looking to hookup will say they want to date when in fact they're really looking for a a hookup partner.

    Don't use Grindr if you want to date. Try an online dating site or something where other guys are actually looking to date and have long term relationships- not one night flings. Sex on the first date means it's not a date.

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    Sep 05, 2011 4:59 PM GMT
    Three dates is hardly a reason to tell people you are seeing someone, not least someone you met online and have had sex with every time.

    You are a sex date. If you don't want to meet guys for sex dates, then don't have sex on the first date because you kind of set the expectation, whatever you might say about it.