Sep 05, 2011 9:18 PM GMT
This is more an observation on gay social culture than me being emo. Its just sort of a conundrum to me. But since all of you only know me online. And many of you probably have no idea who I am because I am somewhat new, you will have the least knowledge to answer this question. So, it can just be for fun.
So....I am social in the sense I like to go out. I like to meet people. Not looking to get laid or anything. Just being social.
Up until the last few years, I would have no problem meeting people out and about. Granted, I am not type A and am not proactive. And I am ok with that. I can go out and not talk to a soul and be totally fine. I like to people watch, listen to music, etc. The conundrum is that no one ever comes up to me. Not so long ago, I could go out and meet people easily. I would even come home and find a phone number stuffed in my pocket sometimes!
Fast forward to about two years ago...In most cases...no one ever talks to me. Even in situations where it would be more natural. I get in a bar there may not be someone there who is looking to chat. But I have been in situations where zero people have talked to me. A few examples. I went on a gay cruise. 3,000 homos on a boat for 7 days. No one even said Hi. A week in Cancun on an Atlantis vacation. One super fat dude chatted with me but he was looking to get laid. Last night, I went to a circuit party. Hundreds of sweaty men all on extacy. No one even touched me. NOT EVEN THE CRACKED OUT ASIANS. And they LOVE older white guys like me. I have gone to a few sex parties, like one last saturday. (I dont participate. Just observe. Everyone barebacks and it weirds me out). Went out in weho in the early part of last night. The only guy to hit on me was a drunk 21 year old who was WITH HIS WIFE!. She didnt know he liked guys. When she asked him why he was rubbing my back under my shirt his replay was "Oh, I have always been curious and slept with a guy before". I would love to be in their house this morning.
I thought it might be that I was a bit chubby. So I hit the gym beginning last december. Dropped 20 lbs and put on at least SOME muscle...as undefined as it is. (I didnt join the gym to get people to talk to me. I was really unhappy with how I looked. The body is just for me)
I get hit up on grindr and scruff all the time with thinks like 'you're cute" or "you're hot". However, this doesnt translate to real life. I dont think I am stand offish. And I certainly dont have looks that would intimidate anyone. I am nice, really funny (I actually did stand up for a while when I was kid), have a great job and a baller car. Just weird that even in situations where people are half naked.
So, since none of you ever met me and dont know me....figure it out!
So....I am social in the sense I like to go out. I like to meet people. Not looking to get laid or anything. Just being social.
Up until the last few years, I would have no problem meeting people out and about. Granted, I am not type A and am not proactive. And I am ok with that. I can go out and not talk to a soul and be totally fine. I like to people watch, listen to music, etc. The conundrum is that no one ever comes up to me. Not so long ago, I could go out and meet people easily. I would even come home and find a phone number stuffed in my pocket sometimes!
Fast forward to about two years ago...In most cases...no one ever talks to me. Even in situations where it would be more natural. I get in a bar there may not be someone there who is looking to chat. But I have been in situations where zero people have talked to me. A few examples. I went on a gay cruise. 3,000 homos on a boat for 7 days. No one even said Hi. A week in Cancun on an Atlantis vacation. One super fat dude chatted with me but he was looking to get laid. Last night, I went to a circuit party. Hundreds of sweaty men all on extacy. No one even touched me. NOT EVEN THE CRACKED OUT ASIANS. And they LOVE older white guys like me. I have gone to a few sex parties, like one last saturday. (I dont participate. Just observe. Everyone barebacks and it weirds me out). Went out in weho in the early part of last night. The only guy to hit on me was a drunk 21 year old who was WITH HIS WIFE!. She didnt know he liked guys. When she asked him why he was rubbing my back under my shirt his replay was "Oh, I have always been curious and slept with a guy before". I would love to be in their house this morning.
I thought it might be that I was a bit chubby. So I hit the gym beginning last december. Dropped 20 lbs and put on at least SOME muscle...as undefined as it is. (I didnt join the gym to get people to talk to me. I was really unhappy with how I looked. The body is just for me)
I get hit up on grindr and scruff all the time with thinks like 'you're cute" or "you're hot". However, this doesnt translate to real life. I dont think I am stand offish. And I certainly dont have looks that would intimidate anyone. I am nice, really funny (I actually did stand up for a while when I was kid), have a great job and a baller car. Just weird that even in situations where people are half naked.
So, since none of you ever met me and dont know me....figure it out!