Ignoring, avoiding, or down right being rude?

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    May 11, 2008 1:50 AM GMT
    I've noticed allot of the guys I send private messages/emails to on here 90% of the time don't respond. Is it because I'm so revolting you can't waste your time or what? I mean, I'm not looking for a quickie or sex, or anything like that. Well, maybe a local gym buddy, but that's it. I have (in the past under an old nick I since forgot) and currently send emails/messages to guys who are my height, 73 inches, about weight training, dieting, and so forth. I'm a total newbie when it comes to the gym. And I'm looking for advice, pointers, and just general help. Yet, for some reason, I hardly ever get a response back. Am I threatening? Do I repulse you? Or am I not good enough to even bother, or be seen with because I'm not a "jock" like you? These kinds of things trouble me about people today. Why are people so rude? I mean, god, at least you could do is click reply and say no thanks, not interested, or god forbid, "sorry, i just don't have time at the moment". I mean come on, why do we down right ignore people, delete messages or so forth from those we don't like for WHATEVER reason? I at least have the balls to tell someone, hey, thanks, but I'm not interested in that. I've had some blacks, asians, etc. send me chats/emails wanting more than a casual chat and I tell them no thanks, I'm not into your race. I tell them its not a racial thing, just personal preference. Why go after chocolate when I want vanilla? Am I the only one that gets frustrated at this sort of thing or am I just over reacting?

    ...and yes, it does piss me off being "blown off" like this. You wouldn't do it to a person in a bar or such, you'd actually say something...anything.
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    May 11, 2008 2:16 AM GMT

    lolcats funny cat pictures ... You're overreacting.

    I think I've read two postings by you and both were whiny. You might want to stop that before you get a reputation. Just a suggestion.

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    May 11, 2008 2:26 AM GMT
    Sorry if I come off as "whiny". Don't mean to, its just when send messages out to people asking about their routine, pointers, advice and such; and no one responds, kind of leaves me hanging and a tad upset. Oh well. At least one person replied to this post after 15 people viewed it...still think I'm overreacting?

    Oh well, now I remember why I'm on my diet/workout routine.
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    May 11, 2008 2:43 AM GMT
    Try starting a thread on some silly subject...like, do you roll your sleeves up inside or outside? You will be surprised what the guys on here will respond to. Personally, I stay out of it all that nonsense.
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    May 11, 2008 2:48 AM GMT
    Your profile seems to lack confidence and positivity. And your racial comments might be turning guys off. Word gets around.
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 11, 2008 3:08 AM GMT
    I think we all have things that we consider as negative online behavior. Remember, you may be messaging someone that may not even be there. Be patient. Some are merely online, but will check later.
    Don't automatically assume it is just you.
  • ShawnTX

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    May 11, 2008 3:11 AM GMT
    If you'll notice, all threads have way more views than responses. Just because someone reads you post doesn't mean they're obligated to post. Besides, you're OP is whiny and most guys on here are turned off by that and choose not to respond.

    As for the emails you send out to people. It's very much different than talking face-to-face. Sending someone and email is in no way similar to walking up to someone and starting a conversation. It's an unsolicited email, and if certain guys are not interested in starting a correspondence with you regarding workout tips, or not interesting in finding a gym buddy, they'll view it much like spam emails and just delete it.

    I don't think that type of response is rude. If someone called me on the phone asking me for workout tips or if I wanted a gym buddy, hanging up on them would be the niceset response I'd give.
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    May 11, 2008 3:17 AM GMT
    Kansan, true, and try to think things like that.

    BGP, I try to be not racist. But when a guy asks me for online j/o or in person or things of that nature, and I tell them sorry, no thank, I'm not into ____ guys, and he retaliates with "your a pussy white boy something something. Can't really remember. Actually happened to me here on this site. Sorry, but I am not "easy". I may be picky, but I'm not easy. And as far as the lack of confidence and positivity, would like to know what you think isn't. I just put who I am in my profile, some people may like it, some may not. To be honest, I always could careless what people think of me physically and personally. Be it my weight, what I say, etc. (and yes, I am blunt and to the point. I don't believe in playing politics at work or in my life or beating around the proverbal bush, yet I don't use tact either. Which is one of my downfalls, but I am working on it and do what I can. But I'm a honest person and expect the same).

    Anyway, for you two and Caslon, thank you for responding.
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    May 11, 2008 3:54 AM GMT
    Mine was the best response, tho.
  • ShawnTX

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    May 11, 2008 3:56 AM GMT
    yawn!
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    May 11, 2008 4:00 AM GMT
    Well, like I said, didn't mean to sound whiny. I'm just curious why people don't respond. Guess I've gotten my answers. Thanks.
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    May 11, 2008 4:10 AM GMT
    ShawnTO saidyawn!
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    As my grandmother used to tell me...some people cant be jealous without showing it! ahem!
  • ShawnTX

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    May 11, 2008 4:11 AM GMT
    ROFL
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    May 11, 2008 4:14 AM GMT
    jockboyslv2b saidWell, like I said, didn't mean to sound whiny. I'm just curious why people don't respond. Guess I've gotten my answers. Thanks.


    Well, you must be lucky. Normally, we would tear a person like you apart and hang the pieces out as a warning.

    lolcats funny cat pictures

    There must be a Good Mood Moon out tonight.

    Dont push your luck!
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    May 11, 2008 4:25 AM GMT
    jockboyslv2b saidWell, like I said, didn't mean to sound whiny. I'm just curious why people don't respond. Guess I've gotten my answers. Thanks.


    Shawn and Caslon are right. Take a look at any thread...way more views than replies. Sometimes, I read a post and don't have anything meaningful to contribute (I know, right???). Sometimes, it's early in the morning and I don't feel capable of stringing together a coherent reply, or one that's carefully-enough considered for the subject or question at hand. Sometimes, I'm in a smartass mood and the flippant reply I'd surely supply wouldn't be appropriate. And sometimes, my boyfriend comes up, wraps his arms around me, whispers naughty nothings in my ear, and I get totally distracted from my reply.

    Same goes for emails. I'm often at work when I check my mail and RJ, and hey - like it or not, work does have to come first. I know I don't reply to all emails the moment I read them, and every now and then one might slip through the cracks. I don't mean to, but it's probably inevitable.

    In other words, it's rarely anything personal. Unless Caslon's boycotting a poster... icon_wink.gif

    And by the way, the original post does sound a little...inflammatory.
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    May 11, 2008 4:31 AM GMT
    Got it, thanks guys.

    ...not sure how to delete a forum post, if that's possible, but like I said, I got my answers and I appreciate those of you who have responded.
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    May 11, 2008 4:34 AM GMT
    jockboyslv2b saidGot it, thanks guys.

    ...not sure how to delete a forum post, if that's possible, but like I said, I got my answers and I appreciate those of you who have responded.


    Other than delete the contents of the original posting, there is no way to delete a whole thread. You might write the cust. serv. and see if they will delete it for you.

    Otherwise, once you post it, it is out there....and takes on a life of its own. .... icon_eek.gif
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    May 11, 2008 4:39 AM GMT
    Indeed...jockboyslv2b, sometimes the lives these threads take on are wayyyy more hilarious and amazingly absurd than they start out. And don't worry...RealJock threads have an acquired taste that isn't for everyone. You'll get used to the culture around here soon enough. After nearly a thousand posts, I'm almost not shocked when Shawn shows his nipples or Caslon has a mood swing. icon_razz.gif
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    May 11, 2008 4:42 AM GMT
    I'm seeing that from the ones I've read/responded to.
  • ShawnTX

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    May 11, 2008 4:43 AM GMT
    When am I not showing my nipples?
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    May 11, 2008 4:48 AM GMT
    ShawnTO saidWhen am I not showing my nipples?


    RealJock wouldn't be the same without them, doncha know?
  • ShawnTX

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    May 11, 2008 4:51 AM GMT
    Nipples and butterflies keeps this place running.
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    May 11, 2008 4:54 AM GMT
    zdrew said...or Caslon has a mood swing. icon_razz.gif


    Mood swings??? .... icon_eek.gif .... what mood swings? ...You listen to me, Plump Pecs, I do not have mood swings!!! .... icon_evil.gif .... the very idea.... some people have some nerve, that's all I gotta say.
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    May 11, 2008 5:09 AM GMT
    ShawnTO saidNipples and butterflies keeps this place running.


    Don't you mean nipples and fairies?
    I saw a few on the way to this post icon_confused.gif

    Back on the topic: Many people just are too tired to answer sometimes and they don't feel obligated to answer back.

    And yes, you are overreacting, don't worry if someone doesn't answer.icon_cool.gif

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    May 11, 2008 5:10 AM GMT
    caslon said
    lolcats funny cat pictures ... You're overreacting.

    I think I've read two postings by you and both were whiny. You might want to stop that before you get a reputation. Just a suggestion.



    BTW I loved this cat, is it madonna's queen cat?