I was talking to my dad about being gay

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    May 11, 2008 10:59 AM GMT
    and he was asking me why gay people all stick together. I hadn't really thought about it like that and I kinda think that's true in a way. Anyway, my dad is dead cool and I think he's great. My mum can't grasp gayness. "Why should being gay mean you can find a woman to marry? Lots of girls find you attractive, Malcolm."

    Yes, mum. sigh. There is no point to this thread apart from I'm stuck at my parents and have read the newspapers.
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    May 11, 2008 11:07 AM GMT
    well for lesbians they're fuzzy felt sticks to the pool table and try as you might you cant get them off.

    gay men? well I think its cos we're are all horny all the time and if one of them drops we can jump on them as soon as possible, at least in our heads anyway!!!!!
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    May 11, 2008 12:00 PM GMT
    Answer: natural attraction, and you dont have to explain all the jokes and innuendos.
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    May 11, 2008 12:03 PM GMT
    I like the fuzzy felt observation.

    I think it is because we have many things in common, the struggles to come out, being a minority, acceptance, sex, etc. It is also easier, and I think, being in a gay group so you don't have the pressures and sometimes annoyances of straight society. I live in Palm Springs area, so very gay and very "normal". I am going on an all gay cruise this summer, I have been on both gay and straight cruises, and much prefer the gay ones, as a lot more fun.
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    May 11, 2008 1:00 PM GMT
    bfg1. you are a bad boy. come to see me after school.
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    May 11, 2008 1:03 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidbfg1. you are a bad boy. come to see me after school.


    I'll come see ya now ya big stud xxxxxx right I am offski there is a sunny world out tehre waiting to be embraced icon_cool.gif
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    May 11, 2008 1:05 PM GMT
    did he ask you if you were a top or bottom?
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    May 11, 2008 1:05 PM GMT
    I think we all know the answer to that one.
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    May 11, 2008 1:07 PM GMT
    total arse slut and a cock jockey!
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    May 11, 2008 1:18 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidI think we all know the answer to that one.


    I dont know the answer. It seems like it might be a bit too personal, even for a father to ask. You dont go asking him his techniques with your mom, do you? "So, tell me dad, does mom take it up the ass?" ... icon_eek.gif
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    May 11, 2008 3:46 PM GMT
    My mom asked me if i was a bottom. didn't even wait for the answer before throwing condoms at me and telling me to make sure my doc does an anal pap at my physical. Ah to be the son of a nurse practitioner... sometimes I feel like she's too cool with me being gay haha
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    May 11, 2008 4:58 PM GMT
    Sometimes I think that it just nice to be around people that aren't questioning why you'd kiss a man. And when you're in a group and your bf is there, you can hold his hand or give him a kiss in passing with everyone rolling thier eyes.
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    May 11, 2008 7:26 PM GMT
    Maybe it's just because I am from an earlier generation, but I get tired sometimes of feeling like an oddity, even among my straight and accepting friends. Being around other gay people means not having to explain yourself, and not being considered interestingly different.

    That said, most of my friends are straight. I think that's why I choose to live in the second-gayest village in the entire country.
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    May 11, 2008 7:53 PM GMT
    Well, no, my dad didn't ask whether i was top or bottom. But 20-odd years ago my mum did send me lots of newspaper cuttings about HIV and AIDS and how to prevent getting infected so I think she had a fair idea about what gays get up to. She's a bit dotty these days. icon_sad.gif
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    May 13, 2008 12:03 AM GMT
    Parent say and do the darndest things. I know mine really believe there's some sort of GAY AGENDA in which we're all evil co-conspirators.
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    May 13, 2008 12:07 AM GMT
    RunintheCity saidParent say and do the darndest things. I know mine really believe there's some sort of GAY AGENDA in which we're all evil co-conspirators.


    Um, there is. We meet on Wednesday nights. Now I know why you haven't been attending.
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    May 13, 2008 12:49 AM GMT
    jprichva saidMaybe it's just because I am from an earlier generation, but I get tired sometimes of feeling like an oddity, even among my straight and accepting friends. Being around other gay people means not having to explain yourself, and not being considered interestingly different.


    I like being around other gays because you dont have to explain the jokes...and you can even make jokes. Straight people, even family, dont understand.

  • May 13, 2008 2:27 AM GMT
    My gay agenda goes something like this...

    Get up, roll out of bed to the snap crackle and pop of my hip... Take a handful of Ibuprofen, hobble to the bathroom for the morning shower, maybe actually make it to the gym like I'm supposed to...

    Go to my soul-sucking job, work for a few hours for shitty money...

    Come home, fantasize about getting a real job, look online and find that all that seems to be out there is factory work and sales, neither of which allow me to use the degree I spent $55,000 and 8 years of my life getting...

    Then I either waste a hell of a lot of time on the computer, or watch a little food network, or go into my kitchen and bake, which I'll probably end up giving most of away because I shouldn't be eating it...

    Go to bed and start over again..

    You know, this sounds an awful lot like my mothers, my brother's and my dad's agenda as well... Funny how my homosexual agenda looks a hell of a lot like my straight family's....
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    Jul 02, 2012 4:50 PM GMT
    isn't the gay agenda short hand for the san francisco brand of heavy taxes, (pinko-communism) and especially (above all) ACLU anti-(traditional) culture soldiers?

    Anyway, that's the most coherent of the generally incoherent answers I get out of my parents whenever i press them on this subject... which is rarely. and it doesn;t seem too farfetched to me, I mean, I know people who fit this role, and generally have the attitude of having an agenda, i guess. And the aclu...

    please correct me if you know better, as i want to know better...
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    Jul 02, 2012 5:15 PM GMT
    Afterwards saidisn't the gay agenda short hand for the san francisco brand of heavy taxes, (pinko-communism) and especially (above all) ACLU anti-(traditional) culture soldiers?

    Anyway, that's the most coherent of the generally incoherent answers I get out of my parents whenever i press them on this subject... which is rarely. and it doesn;t seem too farfetched to me, I mean, I know people who fit this role, and generally have the attitude of having an agenda, i guess. And the aclu...

    please correct me if you know better, as i want to know better...


    way to necro a thread from 4 years ago...
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    Jul 02, 2012 5:24 PM GMT
    ahaha, i was reading it, and i didnt even look at the date.

    what's done is done.
    xD