Why doesn't he just break up with me? He could get so much better...

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    Sep 07, 2011 5:52 AM GMT
    My boyfriend.

    21
    Can drive
    Owns house
    Finished school
    Full time job
    Workaholic
    Sleeps normally
    Never cheated
    Does housework and not lazy

    Me:

    18
    Dropped out of school 3 years early
    Currently scrounging off my Mum for a place to live
    Can't drive
    Casual job in fast food
    Hate working more than anything... Like. I hate it! Makes me just feel sick going to work.
    I also don't sleep, I'm up all night playing on my laptop because I can't figure out how to fix my sleeping pattern, that and I don't want to icon_sad.gif
    Emotionally cheated once? It was online...
    Also I'm incredibly lazy and never clean...

    He hates my lifestyle, as I do too. I just don't know how to change it... But I don't know why he just doesn't leave me? Would any of you stay? I mean apart from love their really isn't much there is there?

    It baffles me... Since we've been together 3 years... And in that time it's been the same circumstances... I tried to go back to school once but it just didn't work out since I find it hard to get along with dropkick masculine fucktards who think burning shit in classrooms is funny, and that's all we offer around here.
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    Sep 07, 2011 5:54 AM GMT
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    Sep 07, 2011 6:38 AM GMT
    You don't take apologizes well do you? Gahhh.
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    Sep 07, 2011 6:41 AM GMT
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    Dude. High-five.
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    Sep 07, 2011 12:37 PM GMT
    grow up.

    he should break up with you, as you've said, you've basically nothing to offer him. So in that case, you are responsible TOWARDS him, since you are dating, to become better for him. Kick yourself in the ass, have discipline, and do shit. stop complaining, your an adult, act like one, take responsibility, don't blame others, and just have the discipline to do things.

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    Sep 07, 2011 12:52 PM GMT
    Sounds like you don't respect yourself let alone your boy friend..I wouldn't hang around.
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    Sep 07, 2011 12:53 PM GMT
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    Just....grow up!!
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    Sep 07, 2011 12:56 PM GMT
    I used to date a guy a lot like you. I ended up leaving him. In the end, it was because he was lazy about his life, and even lazy about me, and our relationship. He never made the effort to do anything, and even the little things he gave up on.

    I would suggest not wasting his time. Either get off your stupid ass and AT LEAST make sure that your relationship with him is solid gold, or just dump him and never talk to him again so he'll get over you and find someone who will. Whatever you do, make a choice, stick to it. Do it now.
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    Sep 07, 2011 12:56 PM GMT
    OMG! The gifs above are killing me. Hilarious.

    OP, since you have been kind enough to make a list of what's wrong with you then the obvious thing for you to do is to change and make things better for both you and him. Stop with this attention seeking, self loathing, pity party of one and get off your ass and do something about it.

    You know the problem now apply a solution and stick with it to get the necessary results otherwise he will leave you and you'll have no one to blame but yourself. The fact that you are wondering why he is with you at is a sure fire way that it's not gonna get any better. You should consider yourself lucky for having him at all but since you've realized a few flaws about yourself nothing says you can't fix them now and prevent him from wondering why he's with you.

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    Sep 07, 2011 12:59 PM GMT
    Mhmm, so where do you see yourself in 5 years? Housewife status?
    It seems like you lack ambition or will to change. I wonder why he's with you too.
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    Sep 07, 2011 1:05 PM GMT
    The issues with sleep patterns, under-employment, and overall view on life itself suggest you may be suffering from depression. Before you do anything, get a professional evaluation. Both you and your BF could really benefit from this.

    Good luck to you. Please let me know how you're doing.
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    Sep 07, 2011 1:11 PM GMT
    zsocerstar saidgrow up.

    he should break up with you, as you've said, you've basically nothing to offer him. So in that case, you are responsible TOWARDS him, since you are dating, to become better for him. Kick yourself in the ass, have discipline, and do shit. stop complaining, your an adult, act like one, take responsibility, don't blame others, and just have the discipline to do things.



    ^ ^ ^ my words exactly. thanks for saving me time zsocerstar
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    Sep 07, 2011 1:34 PM GMT
    You need to figure out what you want not from him. There is something that he sees in you that makes you worthy of being in his presence. He's just wating for you the figure that out. But if you don't figure that out soon you just might get your wish.

    I would suggest though you go back to school. Look in to possibly taking courses online so you do not have to deal with a class room setting.

    I have to tell you no kid of mine would have dropped out of school at 15 years old, At the very least you need a high school diploma. I would not suggest college because college is not for everyone. It would be a waste of money and resources.

    Good Luck!
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    Sep 07, 2011 1:37 PM GMT
    Maybe he likes needy guys. Or likes to "fix" people. A lot of gay men like that. My best friend is in a relationship like that. His partner is the care taker. He likes being taken care of. It works for them.

    If you were my bf. Well, you wouldnt be anymore.
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    Sep 09, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    DCTallJock saidThe issues with sleep patterns, under-employment, and overall view on life itself suggest you may be suffering from depression. Before you do anything, get a professional evaluation. Both you and your BF could really benefit from this.

    Good luck to you. Please let me know how you're doing.

    Agree, if his behavior is quite as bad as the OP makes it. Maybe he's being overly hard on himself, difficult for us to know. The fact that the BF does remain with him might suggest it's actually a bit milder than the way it might be sounding in this thread.

    But not sleeping isn't helpful, perhaps depression as you say. Other more mundane causes for it can include staying mentally active too close to bedtime, and the OP does say he's on his laptop "all night." I know the computer can act like caffeine to me.

    And speaking of which, try cutting back on caffeine, nothing after 12 noon, to include colas. And old-fashioned as it might seem, reading a mildly diverting book, nothing controversial or exciting, used to put me right to sleep even as a teen.

    Plus some of this may be more about being a teen. Yeah, the older BF is a paragon of industriousness and application, and that's great. But many teens are not, it comes with time & more maturity. I dropped out of college at 18, hated school, and fortunately since I had a little family money I spent my time having fun, lazy & spoiled, riding motorcycles, camping, traveling, and developing the most trashed bedroom human eyes ever beheld.

    It wasn't until I later spent some time in the US Army, and simply grew up on my own, that I was ready to return to college. And then suddenly it was all different, in all aspects of my life.

    So it can indeed be a matter of growing up. But I wouldn't be too harsh on the OP, because we all grow up at different rates. It doesn't mean we won't get there.
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    Sep 09, 2011 1:29 AM GMT
    ya dude seriously... ur pointing out all these problems about you, but you dont have the self-respect to change at all... hmm, sounds like a personal problem...