Intimidating?!

  • swimmer8671

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    Sep 07, 2011 4:05 PM GMT
    So i went to my first gay club ever last night with a bunch of friends and i had an awesome time and i danced with a few guys,

    BUT

    Guys would end up dancing with my friends and saying wow is that guy with you, he is so hot ( i was dancing with my shirt off) and they said that it was really INTIMIDATING to approach me! So many people asked my friends to bring me over to introduce me because they couldn't approach me themselves!

    Do you find guys at the club intimidating if they are dancing shirtless?
    And do you have any advice to maybe be less intimidating haha
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    Sep 07, 2011 4:11 PM GMT
    Braggart.
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    Sep 07, 2011 4:36 PM GMT

    "And do you have any advice to maybe be less intimidating haha"

    Give others a wave and a smile as in waving hello. Kids do this. Kids can be pretty smart. The gesture is impossible to misread. icon_wink.gif


    How's that?
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    Sep 07, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    Brag

    Brag brag brag brag brag.
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    Sep 07, 2011 5:23 PM GMT
    Try clothes.
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    Sep 07, 2011 5:24 PM GMT
    Ok, first of all this topic is not about bragging, and if you got that from this then i'm sorry. Secondly i found it odd that people wouldn't want to approach you, and thirdly it wasn't out of desperation it was because it was fucking HOT! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 07, 2011 5:28 PM GMT
    If you're dancing and feeling the music by yourself, zoning out, in your own little dance world, people will pick up on that. Engage the people around you with a lot of eye contact and smiles, they'll pick up on that as well.

    That or dance with a shirt on.
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    Sep 07, 2011 5:32 PM GMT
    Tazo995 saidTry clothes.

    Excellent advice. I think it's even worse for tall guys. I wear loose fitting clothes to try and come across as less intimidating, but still doesn't help much. Only other thing I can suggest is to make eye contact, nod, say hi, whatever. For me it's still a problem, though.
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    Sep 07, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    What's with this recent influx of postings from attractive guys complaining about how hot they are? This has to be the 3rd in as many days.
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    Sep 07, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    Just flirt your butt off. Dancing shirtless garners a lot of attention. Some will be intimidated but if you use that spotlight and flirt you'll be approached.
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    Sep 07, 2011 5:35 PM GMT
    Saber170 saidIf you're dancing and feeling the music by yourself, zoning out, in your own little dance world, people will pick up on that. Engage the people around you with lots of eye contact and smiles, they'll pick up on that as well.


    THIS.

    ONLY take your shirt off if youre actually feeling physically hot and sweaty. Or if your friends have their shirts off too. Theres strength in numbers. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 07, 2011 5:37 PM GMT
    Part of it is the fact that when they approach you with your shirt off, it looks very obvious that they're hitting on you. All eyes are on them to see if they get rejected, so it makes the approach much more scary.

    I see the same thing when a rare hottie rides the bus and no one sits next to them. If they did, it would look like they chose that seat because they want a piece of that ass.
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    Sep 07, 2011 5:42 PM GMT
    swimmer8671 saidSo i went to my first gay club ever last night with a bunch of friends and i had an awesome time and i danced with a few guys,

    BUT

    Guys would end up dancing with my friends and saying wow is that guy with you, he is so hot ( i was dancing with my shirt off) and they said that it was really INTIMIDATING to approach me! So many people asked my friends to bring me over to introduce me because they couldn't approach me themselves!

    Do you find guys at the club intimidating if they are dancing shirtless?
    And do you have any advice to maybe be less intimidating haha


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    Sep 07, 2011 5:44 PM GMT
    There is HUGE truth in what SkinnyBitch says ( man, if I could give you an avatar name it would something a lot more truthfully flattering icon_wink.gif )

    Here it is again, "Part of it is the fact that when they approach you with your shirt off, it looks very obvious that they're hitting on you. All eyes are on them to see if they get rejected, so it makes the approach much more scary."

    -Doug
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    Sep 07, 2011 5:46 PM GMT
    haha just smile ad laugh with ur friends more I guess. Maybe u look mean and angry!
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    Sep 07, 2011 5:56 PM GMT
    I wouldn't have approached you if you were shirtless. No offense because you are a really nice guy, but I find that people who did that simply want the attention of 'Ooo look at my torso its soo sexy'

    Plus I wouldn't never get any chance to say hi to you because you will be too busy chatting up with other guys or other guys fighting for your attention.

    Of course I haven't been to night club in ages so my above statement could simply be dated lol
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    Sep 07, 2011 5:56 PM GMT
    Now go to a circuit party and see if you can pull it off again (pun intended) icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 07, 2011 6:02 PM GMT
    swimmer8671 saidOk, first of all this topic is not about bragging, and if you got that from this then i'm sorry. Secondly i found it odd that people wouldn't want to approach you, and thirdly it wasn't out of desperation it was because it was fucking HOT! icon_rolleyes.gif


    Brag.
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    Sep 07, 2011 6:03 PM GMT
    Aww cmon let's be nice, he's young and it was his first time at a gay club! Can't we wait to corrupt him into the ways of bitterness and endless strings of loveless hookups?
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    Sep 07, 2011 6:05 PM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidPart of it is the fact that when they approach you with your shirt off, it looks very obvious that they're hitting on you. All eyes are on them to see if they get rejected, so it makes the approach much more scary.

    I see the same thing when a rare hottie rides the bus and no one sits next to them. If they did, it would look like they chose that seat because they want a piece of that ass.

    Ha! I always go sit RIGHT next to the super hottie on the bus. How else are you gonna have sex with him?
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    Sep 07, 2011 6:33 PM GMT
    meninlove said There is HUGE truth in what SkinnyBitch says ( man, if I could give you an avatar name it would something a lot more truthfully flattering icon_wink.gif )



    And I was already thinking "bitch" was flattering enough, but thanks!

    FivealiveI wouldn't have approached you if you were shirtless. No offense because you are a really nice guy, but I find that people who did that simply want the attention of 'Ooo look at my torso its soo sexy'

    Plus I wouldn't never get any chance to say hi to you because you will be too busy chatting up with other guys or other guys fighting for your attention.

    Of course I haven't been to night club in ages so my above statement could simply be dated lol


    Allz-a-this is true for me too. If I read this months in the future with no author next to it, I'd swear I wrote it.
  • gsh1964

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    Sep 07, 2011 8:54 PM GMT
    Myself, being 6'4", I get the same thing... too intimidating.

    I say, Stay intimidating. It's called natural selection and the survial of the fittest.

    One of the most annoying things is for some guy to walk up to me and tell me that his friend thinks I'm hot/cute. Then proceeds to tell me that he wants me to go talk to him. I usually say, No, he needs to come talk to me, because he wants to talk to me more than I want to talk to him and now that he is a big old pussy, Then I for sure don't want to talk to him.

    If a guy isn't man enough to approach me, he isn't worth my time.
    I don't have the time nor the patience for homos and their childish games.
    Just weeds out the pussys.
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    Sep 07, 2011 9:53 PM GMT
    Most people are intimidated by the ones they find attractive for ANY reason. Its a human thing based in rejection phobias.
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    Sep 07, 2011 10:03 PM GMT
    Hi, swimmer8671, I will just try to be as objective as I can and I do not want to be offensive, rude. I am going to the point and as sharp as you are in your profile. According to your pictures and what you wrote, you are handsome, young, intelligent, and successful. You also said that you are sarcastic and with the way that you show yourself in your profile, I can add arrogant! You are too busy showing yourself from your pedestal so why do the normal, regular, not too attractive and less perfect guys who are the majority on earth have to be submissive to your requirements no matter how perfect, hot, smart and successful you believe you are? In my imperfect, stupid unattractive and modest opinion, you should evaluate the way you present yourself. Regards and good luck!
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    Sep 07, 2011 10:20 PM GMT
    swimmer8671 saidDo you find guys at the club intimidating if they are dancing shirtless?
    And do you have any advice to maybe be less intimidating haha

    From reading your profile, you sound like a confident guy. These guys who are too intimidated to approach you are lacking in confidence, and as SkinnyBitch pointed out, afraid of rejection. You may want to ask yourself if you believe you're compatible with guys who are too afraid to approach you. If you think that you are compatible with them, you'll probably have to accept that fact that you'll be the one to approach the guys you're interested in. Or, keep your shirt on. Smiling at guys you find attractive can also be of assistance.