First time at a gay club... Erhhhh. I loved it but hated it just as much...

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    Sep 07, 2011 7:10 PM GMT
    So went gay clubbing. Was so scared at first, but finally went in... My first thought? WHY IS EVERYONE SO TALL!!! All my friends are girls and shorter than me... So yeah... But being 5'4... It was terrible icon_sad.gif I was pretty much the shortest guy there, I felt fat and old because of my hairline. (That's the first thing I check out on a guy, good hairline, means you're young n sexy) My hairline is terrible soo... go figure. But yeah, I had a guy sit next to me and nudge me, and another one trying to dance with me I think... He made eye contact and did this weird hand thing expression twice... But he was really cute, around my height too. But I have a partner and plan on keeping it that way so yeah.. And another really drunk guy asked to take my photo... And I think that was it? We got there pretty late, my friend kind of hated it... and it cleared out by 2 am. Whilst I loved the music... and the little bit of attention I got... I felt like a little kid due to my height. And that every single guy was out of my league even if I was looking due to my height.

    However I felt so comfortable in the atmosphere. But like I shouldn't of been there because I wasn't pretty enough to fit in like the rest of them. It kinda felt like high school again actually lol. And seeing those perfect bodied 6'1 guys macking on with other hot guys was really saddening. Knowing I'll never have that kind of feeling... It sucked. Just wish I was taller. But oh well. Good night out. Probably do it again soon hopefully icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 07, 2011 7:27 PM GMT
    You are only truly out of their league if you believe that you are.

    I think it'll become a self-fulfilling prophecy at that point. You need to believe in yourself, sir!
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    Sep 07, 2011 7:33 PM GMT
    The only guy the same height as me was an asian boy... He looked 50. Fml icon_sad.gif I'm even the shortest guy on grindr in my town icon_sad.gif
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    Sep 07, 2011 7:37 PM GMT
    ^^^ @Soulasphyxi: Agreed.

    It's not your height, it's your attitude.

    I'm 5'4 and I have never had a problem meeting sexy guys.

    There will always be someone who doesn't want a short guy, but that attitude alone should make you realize they're not worth your time.

    Like RuPaul says "If you don't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else?"
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    Sep 07, 2011 7:41 PM GMT
    Another one of your "glass half empty" threads. Why not look at the positive -- like you're in a relationship with someone who cares about YOU -- than always choosing to look at the negative, many of which are things you have no control over or cannot change. Sometimes I wonder if you really are in a relationship. Where was HE last night?
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    Sep 07, 2011 9:57 PM GMT
    I hate to use this gif twice in the same day but....

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    Sep 07, 2011 10:02 PM GMT
    Kristoff saidBut being 5'4... It was terrible icon_sad.gif I was pretty much the shortest guy there


    Newsflash 5'4 is short. You are always going to be "pretty much the shortest guy." Quit harping on your insecurities for attention.
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    Sep 07, 2011 10:03 PM GMT
    You had a lousy time because your self-esteem is so low. Like someone else said, you're only out of someone's league if you believe so. The first time I saw a really hot guy at a gay bar, I was newly out and thought him too good-looking to give me the time of day. Turns out, he was intimidated by me.

    Plus, you have a partner. Not exactly gonna have a great time if you're worried about cheating on him with the loads of good-looking gays at the club.
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    Sep 07, 2011 10:05 PM GMT
    aww congratz and happy that u liked it .. hope i do the same as u and post my story at gay club like u icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 07, 2011 10:06 PM GMT
    You just need to recognize that everyone has a legit wheelbarrow of insecurities when they go out clubbing...that's just how it is haha.
    What's important is how well you can overcome them; like having a perfect body or tan: never gonna happen.