Giving credit to older guys where it's due...

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    Sep 07, 2011 7:48 PM GMT
    Some of you may feel that I've been somewhat snobbish towards the older guys in a couple of my previous threads LOL. But...

    Well recently I met someone who's athletic, lives solo, has a good body, and is fun to be around. And he doesn't come with lame excuses after the 1st date whenever it's time to meet up. "Oh you were in the hospital? For what? Oh I sent that text 2 days ago and still no answer?"

    And he's a bit older, but not like some of these wanna be 20 year old guys in their 30s and 40s who live at bars and adam4adam and have all this X-husband drama that I've been meeting relentlessly for the past few months. And it's not like some of these kids my age who don't know what the fuck they want, have a different boyfriend every week...and pretty much just want attention from someone else; and don't have much going on in their life. They can't plan dates, don't show for dates, have no communication skills...I don't have time for that.

    It's good to have a nice, fit, older guy with his own creature comforts to get me out of this dating merry-go-round for a change icon_razz.gif
  • hawkeye7

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    Sep 07, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    Just keep in mind ...........I am worth the effort.
    Over 40 means I know who I am.
  • great_scott

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    Sep 07, 2011 8:35 PM GMT
    I like the 40+ crowd. I think I get along better with them too. They usually don't have as many hang-ups and issues, more fun to be around.
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    Sep 07, 2011 8:46 PM GMT
    MochaMuscle said 'Some of you may feel that I've been somewhat snobbish towards the older guys in a couple of my previous threads LOL. But...'

    Can't really say I noticed - nor give a rat's ass what you think ....attracted mainly to guys 35+ as a lot of guys in the 40s are....and a lot of very young guys are annoyingly persistent...

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    Sep 07, 2011 8:49 PM GMT
    great_scott saidI like the 40+ crowd. I think I get along better with them too. They usually don't have as many hang-ups and issues, more fun to be around.


    Right...but they have to be the right ones though. There's some older ones with just as many issues if not more LOL.

    I think I've mentioned in the past some feel like 'leftovers'. They've been 'married' 3 times already and just getting out of another relationship. Luckily, this guy doesn't seem that way. And I know because I visit him at home so I know he's not sneaking out...Or had a fight with the BF and wants to go clubbing to feel young again icon_rolleyes.gif

    ozmuscle2 said
    Can't really say I noticed - nor give a rat's ass what you think ....attracted mainly to guys 35+ as a lot of guys in the 40s are....and a lot of very young guys are annoyingly persistent...



    OMG, give me a break dude! Don't be so pretentious. FYI, I'm not very young. So needn't apply. Very young is like under 21, lives with parents, etc.

    And FYIx2....Older guys like me because they feel I'm mature enough.
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    Sep 07, 2011 9:01 PM GMT
    MochaMuscle saidSome of you may feel that I've been somewhat snobbish towards the older guys in a couple of my previous threads LOL. But...

    It's good to have a nice, fit, older guy with his own creature comforts to get me out of this dating merry-go-round for a change icon_razz.gif


    I'm trying to find the LOL about being snobbish toward older guys. I'll be 50 in less than a year and proud to get there.

    I know the type of guys you are referring to and I totally get it. I agree. There are creepy guys with many different issues in any age group. If you are able just open your mind a little, like it seems you have, you may be pleasantly surprised to find that there are some pretty decent guys in this older guy category that I find myself in.

    I am happy for you that you have found someone who seems to be a good fit for you. I wish you the best and I hope it works out for you. :-)
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    Sep 07, 2011 9:10 PM GMT
    Older men rock my fucking socks. I will go for a hot 35 something who dresses like a 35 something over a 20 year old hottie any day of the week.

    Thank god those men like young boys, because otherwise I would be hopeless!
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    Sep 07, 2011 9:11 PM GMT
    I've dated older men, and I sometimes actually wish that I were about 10 years older so it might be a bit more societally acceptable. My problem was that I couldn't get over the age difference. When I would be hitting middle age, he would be near retirement. When I would be retiring, he'd be senior citizen, etc. Assuming that we stayed together that long of course.

    There is certainly a stability and self-knowledge that I have always appreciated about men older than myself. There's also a ton of older men that are incredibly sexy (makinmyway is a perfect example icon_biggrin.gif ) and - they also are usually very good in the sack. Experience is a good thing.
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    Sep 07, 2011 9:56 PM GMT
    Indeed !! u r right ... Older guys r mature ... can take u to the best .. i might choose an older guy as a bf ...
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    Sep 07, 2011 10:10 PM GMT
    wait. In the other thread I was told that at 48 I was invisible to guys. You people need to make up your minds. Are you taking me home or taking me to the nursing home?
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    Sep 07, 2011 10:11 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidwait. In the other thread I was told that at 48 I was invisible to guys. You people need to make up your minds. Are you taking me home or taking me to the nursing home?


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    Sep 07, 2011 10:12 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidwait. In the other thread I was told that at 48 I was invisible to guys. You people need to make up your minds. Are you taking me home or taking me to the nursing home?


    I would take you home.
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    Sep 07, 2011 10:40 PM GMT
    MochaMuscle saidSome of you may feel that I've been somewhat snobbish towards the older guys in a couple of my previous threads LOL. But...

    Well recently I met someone who's athletic, lives solo, has a good body, and is fun to be around. And he doesn't come with lame excuses after the 1st date whenever it's time to meet up. "Oh you were in the hospital? For what? Oh I sent that text 2 days ago and still no answer?"

    And he's a bit older, but not like some of these wanna be 20 year old guys in their 30s and 40s who live at bars and adam4adam and have all this X-husband drama that I've been meeting relentlessly for the past few months. And it's not like some of these kids my age who don't know what the fuck they want, have a different boyfriend every week...and pretty much just want attention from someone else; and don't have much going on in their life. They can't plan dates, don't show for dates, have no communication skills...I don't have time for that.

    It's good to have a nice, fit, older guy with his own creature comforts to get me out of this dating merry-go-round for a change icon_razz.gif


    Aren't you the same guy who did that group thing over the internet and meet these random people and were the youngest guy in the crowd and complained that because they were all in their 30 and 40's and that you had nothing in common with them. Just thought I'd point that out and just because you changed your name, Fit4FitinDenver, doesn't mean we forgot about your issues and topics. You are a weekly subscription. LOL. I love how you date an elder guy and all of sudden you're a genius on the matter. Too funny.

    How many older people have you dated to come to this conclusion? I'm curious and I'm gonna guess not many (if any) and it's funny how you compare yourself to those of your age because you were pretty much doing the EXACT same thing hence your posts and your past life in MIA. Get real and make up your mind already.

    FYI, you're an ego boost for your older male friend until something younger and better comes along or when he gets tired of playing daddy. Have fun with that thought. Also if they could see someone of the stuff you've written on here they'd quickly change their stance on maturity with you. Just sayin. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 07, 2011 11:39 PM GMT
    dancedancekj saidMy problem was that I couldn't get over the age difference. When I would be hitting middle age, he would be near retirement. When I would be retiring, he'd be senior citizen, etc. Assuming that we stayed together that long of course.


    I don't think that far ahead LOL.

    I mean, most gay relationships (and even straight ones) don't last longer than a year. And if it just last 3 or 4 months...well that's 3 or 4 months that I didn't have to spend every night of the week alone, learned about a new person and even had a great time. Even then, it's just dating. Most older guys don't really take us younger ones all THAT seriously anyway and realize the age difference, but they enjoy it for what it is.

    When you look at anything as if it's forever...you start thinking of all sorts of stuff LOL. I just try to take things as they go along.
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    Sep 07, 2011 11:47 PM GMT
    Guy101 said

    How many older people have you dated to come to this conclusion? I'm curious and I'm gonna guess not many (if any) and it's funny how you compare yourself to those of your age because you were pretty much doing the EXACT same thing hence your posts and your past life in MIA. Get real and make up your mind already.

    FYI, you're an ego boost for your older male friend until something younger and better comes along or when he gets tired of playing daddy. Have fun with that thought. Also if they could see someone of the stuff you've written on here they'd quickly change their stance on maturity with you. Just sayin. icon_biggrin.gif


    Now why you gotta be hating. Dang, Black folks always trying to bring us down. Why can't we just be happy for each other for once icon_rolleyes.gif

    I was complaining that the random internet meeting was of people not younger than 50 or 60 years old. And non were in even close the shape as the guy I'm referring to in his 40s.

    For one..there are actually guys out there who genuinely prefer the company of younger guys not just until something better comes along. And 2...I have dated several older guys and I'm speaking from a general standpoint. There's nothing wrong with that.

    For example: I am happier to date a guy who is 10 or 20 years older than I...than to date a guy my age who has no car (thus using me to pick up friends, pick up drugs, party, drive to work, etc. which I have had happen more times than I care to mention) , lives with a bunch of roommates, puts friends over the person they are dating (nice meeting you, gotta find my friends!) and some of the other issues that arise dealing with younger gay men.

    But on the rare case I do meet a guy who is not like that but is my age, I'm happy to date him and won't judge by age. Unfortunately it's rare...
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    Sep 07, 2011 11:55 PM GMT
    And I'm sick of this shit about what I write on the forum. Not everyone's life revolves around realjock much less internet. Some people judge based on personality in person, in the flesh. Quality of time together. Not what someone writes on their blog, forum, or journal.
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    Sep 07, 2011 11:58 PM GMT
    MochaMuscle said
    Guy101 said

    How many older people have you dated to come to this conclusion? I'm curious and I'm gonna guess not many (if any) and it's funny how you compare yourself to those of your age because you were pretty much doing the EXACT same thing hence your posts and your past life in MIA. Get real and make up your mind already.

    FYI, you're an ego boost for your older male friend until something younger and better comes along or when he gets tired of playing daddy. Have fun with that thought. Also if they could see someone of the stuff you've written on here they'd quickly change their stance on maturity with you. Just sayin. icon_biggrin.gif


    Now why you gotta be hating. Dang, Black folks always trying to bring us down. Why can't we just be happy for each other for once icon_rolleyes.gif

    I was complaining that the random internet meeting was of people not younger than 50 or 60 years old. And non were in even close the shape as the guy I'm referring to in his 40s.

    For one..there are actually guys out there who genuinely prefer the company of younger guys not just until something better comes along. And 2...I have dated several older guys and I'm speaking from a general standpoint. There's nothing wrong with that.

    For example: I am happier to date a guy who is 10 or 20 years older than I...than to date a guy my age who has no car (thus using me to pick up friends, pick up drugs, party, drive to work, etc. which I have had happen more times than I care to mention) , lives with a bunch of roommates, puts friends over the person they are dating (nice meeting you, gotta find my friends!) and some of the other issues that arise dealing with younger gay men.

    But on the rare case I do meet a guy who is not like that but is my age, I'm happy to date him and won't judge by age. Unfortunately it's rare...


    LOL.I'm not hating and you do a good enough job of keeping yourself down without my assistance. I'm just a having a bit fun but I notice you didn't say I was wrong icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 07, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    MochaMuscle saidAnd I'm sick of this shit about what I write on the forum. Not everyone's life revolves around realjock much less internet. Some people judge based on personality in person, in the flesh. Quality of time together. Not what someone writes on their blog, forum, or journal.


    We are all sick of this shit you write.

    Seriously man are you ok? IS everything working up there? I mean this is like cray cray right now...
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    Sep 08, 2011 12:01 AM GMT
    Hella cray cray. LOL.

    If it ain't the gym then it's about the people and the flip flops to the absent club scene they have up there to the lack of diversity and everything else. The list goes on based on what you put up and if you don't think people judge based on what they read and write then I invite you to tell and show your dating buddy this site and to specifically read what you've written. Balls in your court now, stud. Again hella cray cray. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 08, 2011 12:03 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidHella cray cray. LOL.

    If it ain't the gym, then it's about the people and the flip flops to the absent club scene they have up there to lack of diversity and everything else. Again hella cray cray. icon_biggrin.gif


    I think my favorite one of these posts has to be when he was at the club, someone approached him, asked if he wanted to dance, he said no, so the someone who approached him walked away, and this guy was pissed because he had to "chase."

    Dude, someone approached you, you turned them down, and then your upset? LOLOLOLOL!
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    Sep 08, 2011 12:04 AM GMT
    Whatever, this thread wasn't made to impress you 2 ANY way. This is for older men 40+. I'm not going to waste my energy debating with you 2 clowns

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    Sep 08, 2011 12:07 AM GMT
    LOL. You couldn't impress me if you had a map, a compass and easy to read directions that had a giant ""X" marks the spot" in giant gold glittering letters with a stick figure doing jazz handsicon_biggrin.gif

    However, you are welcomed to try and I do find your wishy washy and flip flopping posts entertaining so the only clown here would be you as this post and previous posts suggest. "Honk Honk"

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    Sep 08, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    I respect and admire older guys on a more friendship/buddy basis but i got love for them. When i look at my father that is who i know i will end up being in 40 years
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    Sep 08, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    MochaMuscle saidWaah waah wahh Im a dirty tramp



    Fixed it for ya.
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    Sep 08, 2011 12:12 AM GMT
    Told ya so, but you would not even grab a drink with me.