How to get into Male Escorting

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    Sep 08, 2011 3:50 AM GMT
    Hi guys,

    I'm using an alternative account for anonymity in case my username didn't make that clear.

    Anyway, I am seriously interested in male escorting to make some extra money.

    I'm young, healthy and attractive, and I'm not poor or anything, but I figure its a good way to make some money.

    I want to know your thoughts on the situation as well and any guidance into doing this safely (I can hear the HIV fear mongering already).

    Thanks guys, I really appreciate this one.
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    Sep 08, 2011 3:53 AM GMT
    Let's just put the whole HIV thing aside for a minute and assume you'll be as safe as possible. How are you going to prevent this from harming you emotionally? You cannot sell your body and not have severe emotional damage. Self worth problems and intimacy issues just to name a couple are sure to haunt you for the rest of your life.
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    Sep 08, 2011 3:56 AM GMT
    You really think all of the Victorian Ladies around here are going to endorse and guide you into escorting? Shit stirrer.
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    Sep 08, 2011 3:59 AM GMT
    Really? Then why post at all, why did you feel like your opinion is so important that you needed to tell me that you are withholding it from me? Get off your high horse and either contribute something constructive or not at all.

    There is nothing wrong with wanting anonymity, and making an account like this shouldn't be bashed against if its the easiest way to do it.

    And to unfounded, I'm really not trying to cause trouble, I just want some people's opinions because there really isn't that much out there on the topic.
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    Sep 08, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    Become an SM dominant. You don't have to have sex with your clients for them to "get off". Part of your scene could be to deny them any sexual contact with you.

    Charge $250-400/hour.

    Be ready to invest in some significant leather and other "toys".

    Oh, and get the cash up front.
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    Sep 08, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    I don't have a problem with someone using a sock account as long as they're upfront about it....and he is. And it's not the type of subject most people would want to be associated with on their real account. Hmmm......maybe that's your answer right there. If you have to create a sock account to speak of it, is that really what you want to do with your life?
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    Sep 08, 2011 4:05 AM GMT
    Your clients pick you & not the other way around...remember that LOL
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    Sep 08, 2011 4:06 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidI don't have a problem with someone using a sock account as long as they're upfront about it....and he is. And it's not the type of subject most people would want to be associated with on their real account. Hmmm......maybe that's your answer right there. If you have to create a sock account to speak of it, is that really what you want to do with your life?


    That's the thing, I'm completely confident and don't really find anything morally wrong with this, everyone is consenting, everyone is benefiting. The only thing is the stigma of it being some horrible thing that I don't want society associating with me. In all honesty, if I told anyone close to me that I was even considering it, they would be shocked because that's how out of character it would seem.

    And I'm not too concerned with emotional harm. I have and amazingly secure and happy life, am extremely proud of who I am and don't associate this with as being degrading or desperate.
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    Sep 08, 2011 5:26 AM GMT
    I think I can tell from the typography (w)ho this is...
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    Sep 08, 2011 5:59 AM GMT
    I would suggest becoming a male stripper, see where that leads...


    (It would be like dipping your toes in the water, just to get a feel of what you want to do with yourself...and i assume it's easy money. And besides, you don't need to be hung like a horse, as some of the strippers I've seen in my bar frequenting days weren't)
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    Sep 08, 2011 6:48 AM GMT
    FrostedFlakes saidI think I can tell from the typography (w)ho this is...


    Does it start with an M, that's my guess...
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    Sep 08, 2011 7:24 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    FrostedFlakes saidI think I can tell from the typography (w)ho this is...


    Does it start with an M, that's my guess...


    plus he sounds so timid- I bet your pimp beats you up kid. You're not street smart enough to handle it.
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    Sep 08, 2011 7:56 AM GMT
    Hmmm, in Amsterdam I guess you could do it.. they have offices for that sort of thing... I did consider it myself a long time ago....
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    Sep 08, 2011 2:42 PM GMT
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    Scruffypup saidI don't have a problem with someone using a sock account as long as they're upfront about it....and he is. And it's not the type of subject most people would want to be associated with on their real account. Hmmm......maybe that's your answer right there. If you have to create a sock account to speak of it, is that really what you want to do with your life?


    That's the thing, I'm completely confident and don't really find anything morally wrong with this, everyone is consenting, everyone is benefiting. The only thing is the stigma of it being some horrible thing that I don't want society associating with me. In all honesty, if I told anyone close to me that I was even considering it, they would be shocked because that's how out of character it would seem.

    And I'm not too concerned with emotional harm. I have and amazingly secure and happy life, am extremely proud of who I am and don't associate this with as being degrading or desperate.



    When I speak of emotional damage, I'm not talking about morality at all. Prostitutes must totally revamp their personalities to have sex with people they're not attracted to. Very thick walls must be put up to endure this. The problem is, these walls don't just come down as easily as you might think. As someone mentioned above, your clients pick you, not the other way around. And you will seldom have a hot guy seek out your services. You can't buy happiness and you can't buy mental health, so if you're happy and emotionally healthy, I wouldn't fuck with it.
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    Sep 08, 2011 5:50 PM GMT
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    Scruffypup saidI don't have a problem with someone using a sock account as long as they're upfront about it....and he is. And it's not the type of subject most people would want to be associated with on their real account. Hmmm......maybe that's your answer right there. If you have to create a sock account to speak of it, is that really what you want to do with your life?


    That's the thing, I'm completely confident and don't really find anything morally wrong with this, everyone is consenting, everyone is benefiting. The only thing is the stigma of it being some horrible thing that I don't want society associating with me. In all honesty, if I told anyone close to me that I was even considering it, they would be shocked because that's how out of character it would seem.

    And I'm not too concerned with emotional harm. I have and amazingly secure and happy life, am extremely proud of who I am and don't associate this with as being degrading or desperate.



    When I speak of emotional damage, I'm not talking about morality at all. Prostitutes must totally revamp their personalities to have sex with people they're not attracted to. Very thick walls must be put up to endure this. The problem is, these walls don't just come down as easily as you might think. As someone mentioned above, your clients pick you, not the other way around. And you will seldom have a hot guy seek out your services. You can't buy happiness and you can't buy mental health, so if you're happy and emotionally healthy, I wouldn't fuck with it.



    No, not necessarily at all.

    It all boils down to each person's individual emotional make-up. Some people are quite adept at the ability for emotional dissonance and or intellectualizing interpersonal relations in general and will have no problems in this factor, whilst others not so much.

    Some people will find escorting much less emotionally taxing and self-affecting than hooking-up or serial monogamy as they are performing a relatively quick task for an objective. For them it is not a harrowing betrayal of the 'self', the sex inconsequential, it does not come from a place of emotional or sexual longing. It for them is akin math. Some people detest math, some people feel secure in it, some people are excellent at it. Some are not.

    Hollywood hooker movie over-simplified pseudo psychologicical health assumptions are about as valid as Michele Bachman's Politics.

    Just sayin'
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    Sep 08, 2011 6:35 PM GMT
    Thanks for the feedback boys.

    You talked about some of the risks I'm not considering, I think that's true. The herpes thing is really deterring lol.

    What other risks would be involved do you think?
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    Sep 08, 2011 6:55 PM GMT
    okay ive known guys who do it. some do very well close to 80 grand or more year some do far less. here's what I know. advertising. men4rentnow rentboy
    stay away from adam4adam or the craiglist. be safe. always use condoms regardless of what any client says. Get tested regular. no drugs. this isn't just limited to escorting drugs are bad news and don't belong in a business period.
    know a good lawyer just in case you are arrested. when it comes to booking a session. a unblocked phone number. do not take any clients by email or any other way without finalizing the appointment on the phone from their unblocked number. like someone else said the clients pick you, you dont pick them. most are married. some are very good looking but just dont want to bother looking for free hookups or dates. some are ugly as shit and couldn't get laid in a gay prison. you will get calls from both and both expect a equally good time.lol. pics take good pics not cell phone pic. somethings that will stand out more. its A + if you are masculine, white and a big dick top guys tend too make more money. like someone else said. hiv aside it could have some type of emotional cost. friends family could find out, it causes you to put up walls and could effect how to have sex with someone down the road you actually care about.. a prostitution arrest can have a huge effect on finding a future job. I personally agree with gamrican on the sm stuff.
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    Sep 08, 2011 7:53 PM GMT
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    No, not necessarily at all.

    It all boils down to each person's individual emotional make-up. Some people are quite adept at the ability for emotional dissonance and or intellectualizing interpersonal relations in general and will have no problems in this factor, whilst others not so much.

    Some people will find escorting much less emotionally taxing and self-affecting than hooking-up or serial monogamy as they are performing a relatively quick task for an objective. For them it is not a harrowing betrayal of the 'self', the sex inconsequential, it does not come from a place of emotional or sexual longing. It for them is akin math. Some people detest math, some people feel secure in it, some people are excellent at it. Some are not.




    The thing is it isn't one of those things where you sit down and say to yourself "OK, I'm going to be an escort. Let's see...will it affect me emotionally and psychologically? Processing.....Processing...Nope! It won't! All systems go!" The damage could come after the first time you exchange sex for money....maybe a week later....maybe 4 years later. Maybe never. You can't know how and if it will affect you. You could wake up one day after having done it for a few years and put a bullet in your head without suspecting it. Or not. It's an emotional and mental gamble.
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    Sep 08, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    I find it odd how gay men blindly accept anything and everything as okay. Want to do drugs? "Oh sure, nothing wrong with that. Everybody does it Sweetie." Want to deal drugs? "Oh yeah, I know lots of drug dealers and they're all really nice guys."

    You guys are on here encouraging this dude to do something illegal, even telling him where to advertise and how to market himself, not to mention pretending that he can come out of this unscarred. And anyone who disagrees with you, are automatically associated with the likes of Michelle Bachmann! It boggles my mind really.
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    Sep 09, 2011 12:18 PM GMT
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    No, not necessarily at all.

    It all boils down to each person's individual emotional make-up. Some people are quite adept at the ability for emotional dissonance and or intellectualizing interpersonal relations in general and will have no problems in this factor, whilst others not so much.

    Some people will find escorting much less emotionally taxing and self-affecting than hooking-up or serial monogamy as they are performing a relatively quick task for an objective. For them it is not a harrowing betrayal of the 'self', the sex inconsequential, it does not come from a place of emotional or sexual longing. It for them is akin math. Some people detest math, some people feel secure in it, some people are excellent at it. Some are not.




    The thing is it isn't one of those things where you sit down and say to yourself "OK, I'm going to be an escort. Let's see...will it affect me emotionally and psychologically? Processing.....Processing...Nope! It won't! All systems go!" The damage could come after the first time you exchange sex for money....maybe a week later....maybe 4 years later. Maybe never. You can't know how and if it will affect you. You could wake up one day after having done it for a few years and put a bullet in your head without suspecting it. Or not. It's an emotional and mental gamble.



    Aside from the bullet in the head hyperbole, I can see your point. However, if a person is disgusted with the idea of self-prostitution under any or all conditions a priori, they can safely assume it is not for them and to go against their personal beliefs would cause them to suffer. Some people don't really know how they feel about it, those are the ones taking a gamble (and even if they started escorting, they could stop the moment they realised it is not for them). Then there are the ones who are secure in the self-knowledge that they aren't emotionally vulnerable to it. They are likely to be the same people who can objectively look at other personal situations that most people would feel vulnerable to. It's a calculated gamble based upon personal characteristics and behavioral history. As is any job or type of relationship a person commits themself to, if they find it no longer works for them, change it, or risk emotional damage.



    @ scruffypup: I'm not encouraging him to do it at all. On the same token, I'm not going to offer blanket morally absolute value judgements in attempts to prove that deciding to do it, regardless of precuations/personal character/set boundaries etc, will result in a disasterous foregone conclusion.

    I prefer to use logic as opposed to emotion to decide my views and opinions, but that shouldn't suggest I am pro-everything, becuase I'm not. I just refuse to over-simplify complex issues.

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    Sep 13, 2011 4:30 AM GMT
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    Scruffypup saidI don't have a problem with someone using a sock account as long as they're upfront about it....and he is. And it's not the type of subject most people would want to be associated with on their real account. Hmmm......maybe that's your answer right there. If you have to create a sock account to speak of it, is that really what you want to do with your life?


    That's the thing, I'm completely confident and don't really find anything morally wrong with this, everyone is consenting, everyone is benefiting. The only thing is the stigma of it being some horrible thing that I don't want society associating with me. In all honesty, if I told anyone close to me that I was even considering it, they would be shocked because that's how out of character it would seem.

    And I'm not too concerned with emotional harm. I have and amazingly secure and happy life, am extremely proud of who I am and don't associate this with as being degrading or desperate.



    When I speak of emotional damage, I'm not talking about morality at all. Prostitutes must totally revamp their personalities to have sex with people they're not attracted to. Very thick walls must be put up to endure this. The problem is, these walls don't just come down as easily as you might think. As someone mentioned above, your clients pick you, not the other way around. And you will seldom have a hot guy seek out your services. You can't buy happiness and you can't buy mental health, so if you're happy and emotionally healthy, I wouldn't fuck with it.


    Those are some staggeringly sweeping generalizations you're making. Having lived in San Francisco for seven years, I knew a lot of guys who escorted and weren't scarred by the experience, went on to have serious relationships, etc.

    To be sure, I knew guys who were clearly damaged by their time in the profession, particularly those who got caught up in substance abuse. But part timers especially seemed to handle it pretty well; they more readily set boundaries and rejected clients they didn't feel comfortable seeing since they were just trying to make extra cash. I knew a couple guys who put themselves through school and a few others who paid off their credit card debt and god knows how many artists/musicians/writers who subsidised what piddling income they made off their creative work with escorting.

    And no, they didn't have to totally revamp their personalities to have sex with people they weren't attracted to because the fact they were getting paid was a turn-on. (I did know guys who used Cialis or Viagra, though.)

    Nobody should go into escorting blindly, but it's simply not true that everyone who does is traumatized by the experience.
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    Sep 13, 2011 4:39 AM GMT
    Ask DancerJack. He is on here and has been around that block and knows the ropes.
  • RupCadell

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    Sep 14, 2011 11:08 AM GMT
    It's not a good idea in the long-term. In the end, you'll wish you had never done it.
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    Sep 14, 2011 2:01 PM GMT
    Having pics might help.
  • janu88

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    Sep 14, 2011 3:46 PM GMT
    you could try doing webcam modeling or something...
    makes you about 2000-4000 a month , if your good. icon_rolleyes.gificon_lol.gif