When does friendship become romance?

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    Sep 08, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    This question got me thinking after what happened just recently. A guy I've known for a little over a week argued this with me. We started as friends of course, but I wanted more so I asked him out to lunch. He said okay, and it was a great time. Then I asked him out to dinner, which I then pointed out to be romantic-based.

    Well, we went into a whole argument about how there should be friendship before romance, and we haven't known each other long enough to start something. And he even said he'd rather keep our good friendship then have it become more and possibly cause drama in the future.

    Personally, I think he was over-thinking things and was overly emotional, but perhaps I've gotten better with controlling certain negative feelings. What do you all think?
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    Sep 09, 2011 5:08 AM GMT
    I think he doesn't want to hurt your feelings, but he's not interested in dating you.

    I don't see how friendships are supposed to become romantic, unless the people involved had poor timing (one person single while the other is in a relationship). If both people involved are available and interested they would date, not form friendships.
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    Sep 09, 2011 5:34 AM GMT
    Some signs of a friendship becoming a romance is when you both start giving each other cute names that are generally for boyfriends. In my case, it was "Luvy Wuvy". I stated that i loved him as a friend, but i knew it was much more than that. And I'm sure he did too. Additionally, its when you start talking to eachother so much to the degree where you cant stop thinking of eachtother. This is my opinion due to my experience.
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    Sep 09, 2011 8:32 AM GMT
    I hate it when we decide to put things on track... Sometimes leaving things orbiting and floating is better, it makes us experience a lot of different aspects and perspectives.

    Just a Thought.

    M.
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    Sep 09, 2011 11:50 AM GMT
    I believe in friendship before romance too. I had to tell the guy I'm seeing now to back off because he was getting irritated if I didn't call within 30 minutes of me getting home from work. And I'm just like, "I'm feeling you, but I don't just want to hop into a relationship, I've known you for less than two months!"

    So yeah, you can use the friendship thing if you don't want to date. But in my situation, I could see myself getting there, but I'm not rushing things either. So it could go either way.