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How important is that your better half have a muscular body type?

what I meant to say is, i have seen plenty men that the first thing that cares to make an approach to others are muscles. i know that looking good is a great thing but, what happens when you cross with a guy that is not a big muscles guy?

this comes because its so frustrating to be a skinny guy, besides of that i think (and other people do) I am good looking...


well, I dont know... just want to see what do you think.

big muscles are not what are important to me. Not being fat is. A thin guy is good enough for me.

Some guys would prefer to be the hot one.

Some men would prefer to have the hot one.

Others realize that attraction can be categorized, planned, fetishized, particularlized, and more...only to have it whack you upside the head in a way you least expect.

if the fella is hot, hes hot, muscle wont do it.

The only thing muscle will do for me is to leave me secure in the knowledge that he'll be able to effectively take out the garbage without hurting him self and wrestle with me

lilTanker said

The only thing muscle will do for me is to leave me secure in the knowledge that he'll be able to effectively take out the garbage without hurting him self and wrestle with me

thanks lilTanker, that one really cheers me up!

The thing that usually triggers it for me is the face/eyes and the way a person acts nice, sweet, confident etc.. Sometimes I am indifferent to a guy and then when I get to know him, he actually BECOMES more attractive to me.

When it comes to just sexual attraction, without the distractions of, well, you know---character, humor, personality, etc.--then frankly I love the skinny, defined guy way more than the muscle freak.

But it's all a matter of taste, and speaking of which, you look pretty tasty yourself.

Face is most important. After that, I like fitness, and for my partner not to look like a disaster victim or like they'd snap as soon as I fucked them. Do they have to be hugely muscled? Heck no. Can it be a plus? Sure. Can it be a turnoff? Sure.

It's not really a muscle, but I'm more concerned with the size of the... brain.

As for looks (and I am a "lookist"), I much prefer a well toned body than big, unnatural looking (to me), muscles.

Face and eyes, though are the first things I check out.

On a scale of 1 to 10, I would say about 76. (Just kidding)

Seriously though, you have to be able to stop traffic. I can't stop it all by myself.


[Actually thoughts: Appearance doesn't really play a major factor. If there's chemistry we are good to go]

I tend to notice the guy's face first anyway, its the first thing you normally see anyway, unless your watching porn eh?

I could begin dating a guy that looks like Antonio Sabàto, Jr. in his prime and @ some point, I'm gonna get bored looking at him....therefore, I've never chosen my partners soley on "looks" or "body-type"...if there is no emotional connection, I'd rather masterbate or even better, eat a brownie with some ice cream.

Some guys are smarter, prettier or buffer than everyone around them and are still such insufferable assholes I'd rather screw Karl Rove without a blindfold in broad daylight than spend five minutes in the same room as them. I've always ended up with guys that have a great sense of humor and warm and caring personality over the aberzombies and body nazis.

If someone has really low body fat, I'll definitely look twice, doesn't matter how big they are. I've a whole lot of other criteria that need to be met as well though.

RBY71 saidSome guys are smarter, prettier or buffer than everyone around them and are still such insufferable assholes I'd rather screw Karl Rove without a blindfold in broad daylight than spend five minutes in the same room as them. I've always ended up with guys that have a great sense of humor and warm and caring personality over the aberzombies and body nazis.

Haha true that. And not all guys who wear Abercrombie are asshole I just don't care to dress up too much. I know blue jeans and a t-shit go together lol. I'll admit the brand has douche bag appeal thou.

I think the face and eyes do it for me to. I don'r mind a stocky guy either with some meat on his bones but within reason.

powerbart saidHow important is that your better half have a muscular body type?

what I meant to say is, i have seen plenty men that the first thing that cares to make an approach to others are muscles. i know that looking good is a great thing but, what happens when you cross with a guy that is not a big muscles guy?

this comes because its so frustrating to be a skinny guy, besides of that i think (and other people do) I am good looking...


well, I dont know... just want to see what do you think.

You should be proud who you are, skinny, fat or muscular. Not everybody can be muscular or skinny. I know lot of fat people want to be skinny and I know skinny people want to be muscular or just fit. I know a lot of skinny guys don't like when someone call them "skinny."

totally with yuo on that phx. Im only interested in:

1) is that person happy and confident in who they are if not
2) Is that person commited enough that if they are not happy they are making a change

there are plenty of excuses why people are not where they want to be with their bodies but seldom are there real reasons why they are not there

Well as long as he is not Fat its ok with me and at the moment my other half is useing the University Gym and the last time I saw him in the flesh, December he looked real toned and still slim! oh to be 21 again? Not really I am happy and I do sport every day in small doses!

"hot" is strictly in the eyes of the one judging.
To many of us muscles are NOT what we look for.
Often personality traits trump the physical ones. Please know that muscles are NOT what turns on everyone.

Powerbart, you're into SOCCER. This means you have a great ass, awesome endurance, and you like to have fun. Forget guys looking for muscle guys. You want to look for the ones who appreciate your lean strong build and your soccer butt.

(Was that my outside voice?)

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Muscular is not very important, but being fit and active is. Generally the face attracts me first, and the bum second.

Muscles aren't the important thing....
in fact I don't go for the brawny muscle guys at all
healthy athletic guys are what I like and it's more of a lifestyle than anything else

Umm... 5

At least I'm attracted to bigger/taller guys more. It doesn't even have to be muscle. LOL

I tend to fantasize about regular to slightly stocky body types LOL and not really muscular ones.

Muscle attracts (though not exclusively.)
but
Heart, mind, and personality is what holds.

You will be lonely and miserable your whole life because nobody will ever be attracted to a skinny guy like you.

Come on, get real. You don't want a shallow guy who is only into your appearance. If you're really concerned about this you need to work more on your self confidence than on your muscles.

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Fitness is far more important than muscles. If someone lives an active health & fitness-minded lifestyle, it usually shows --- and that's attractive. Like GQjock said...it's a lifestyle.

well, im sorry for not answer your replies before, i wasnt able untill now...

most of you guys are right, i do think that the muscles are not the first thing to define who is better... that is complex mix of personality and attitude along with the phisical aspect.

about me, i feel great being who i am, i just wanted to know what do you think about the phisical aspect when it comes to decide who is hot and who is not.

PhxAriz08 said

You should be proud who you are, skinny, fat or muscular. Not everybody can be muscular or skinny. I know lot of fat people want to be skinny and I know skinny people want to be muscular or just fit. I know a lot of skinny guys don't like when someone call them "skinny."

thats the thing that most botter me, i hate labels because make people think just about "that thing"... stop labels! ....lol

RBY71 said

Some guys are smarter, prettier or buffer than everyone around them and are still such insufferable assholes I'd rather screw Karl Rove without a blindfold in broad daylight than spend five minutes in the same room as them. I've always ended up with guys that have a great sense of humor and warm and caring personality over the aberzombies and body nazis.

well i thank to God for not spread the abercrombie desease amoung us in my country.... that would be a mess around here, men here already quite pretencius.... imagine when they discover abercrombie!

NOOOOO!!!! hehehehe

A 5/10.

Well at the saying goes, "Don't judge a book by it's cover." A man that has muscles doesn't necessarily make him god's gift, but I'm sure most of you already know that. I've met guys that are drop dead gorgeous with the looks and body, but once they open their mouths to speak, a whole different picture is painted. It's either they sound very uneducated or so cocky and narcissistic that they are oblivious to other people and their feelings exist. A man should have balance, good looks, body, intelligence, heart, and compassion. Now that's something worth searching for.

In my slut period I liked hot muscular guys. Then I met Walt and something about him just clicked in me. He has the body of Fred Flintstone, a heart of gold, smart as a whip, and hung like a horse. The clicking part came before I met his cock by the way.

So, body type isn't a major factor with me, although I do have Walt going to the gym three times a week now.

It's a "1" for me. I really couldn't care less. My boyfriend doesn't work out at all and I think he's extremely hot. The more I get to know him the more attracted I am to him. I think I will try to get him to do some form of exercising only because he gets tired more quickly than I do.

I wouldn't pick someone just for looks or just for his body and I wouldn't be with someone who did that to me. I've gained a few pounds lately and it doesn't seem to matter to my boyfriend at all, which is nice. I'm working to get toned again, but it's not a priority for our relationship to work.

So, just make sure you date someone who appreciates you for who you are as a person, not as an object (or else you'll wind up being dumped for someone better).

fwhore
i wanna be with a man capable of lifting me while he's busy in and out of me

First my preferences is for bears, not the CT definition of bear either. All different shapes and sizes, except the chub queens that seem to frequent the bear events here in CT.

My husband is working on loosing some weight but as long as he can wrestle, take out the trash, and help with the landscape Im fine. I wont let him get like the obese a'holes that visit vegas or disney world. We all know the ones. They ride the little scooters and weigh 400lbs and dont care if they hit someone with the scooter and think because they are fat they should get head of the line privileges but thats another topic.

Guys I date now, or guys I have been in relationships with have all been athletic, trim, in good shape and living a clean life. They usually aren't too muscular, but lean, cut, defined is great with me. I mean, if I work hard to live well, be intelligent and keep myself in good shape, why shouldn't any guy I date be into living that way as well?

I myself have never been really attracted to muscle guys, give me a really Tall Thin guy anyday!!!!

7 and ¾.

powerbart saidHow important is that your better half have a muscular body type?

what I meant to say is, i have seen plenty men that the first thing that cares to make an approach to others are muscles. i know that looking good is a great thing but, what happens when you cross with a guy that is not a big muscles guy?

this comes because its so frustrating to be a skinny guy, besides of that i think (and other people do) I am good looking...


well, I dont know... just want to see what do you think.

Well..I prefer skinny, slim guys.....
i guess its a personal preferance.

I really just look for a great guy, that is capable of showing love both to me and himself. And part of showing love to himself is to take care of himself. He doesn't need to have the perfectly buff muscle head. If he needs to loose a few pounds, it's no big deal. But being a slob is definately a deal breaker.

makes no difference to me...if i like their face...the rest is totally negotiable!