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    Sep 09, 2011 4:31 AM GMT
    Hypothetical Scenario:

    Two guys have been dating a while… are trying to move on to the next stage and get more serious with the whole situation. both keep their hookup sites online, but change their profiles to say they found someone, etc. but one of the two (guy #1)changes/keeps their profile to say they are still looking for sex, misc fetish, dating and keep their sexual stats up (dick size, position, etc) while the other (guy #2)removes all of that and keeps it to the bare-minimum to keep in contact with friends he met on those hookup sites and still looks for friends and has his profile set up to say just that no hidden meanings in what he wrote.

    What are the different ideas you think of that guy #1 has for having his profile like that? does guy #2 really mean what he says by having his profile match what he says? (that he is only looking for friends and to keep contact with them?)
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    Sep 09, 2011 4:34 AM GMT


    Have you two guys talked about monogamy yet, what it means to each of you and if you both want it? I think you do, but does he?

    -Doug
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    Sep 09, 2011 4:38 AM GMT
    Both persons agreed to a monogamous relationship.
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    Sep 09, 2011 4:40 AM GMT
    Both persons agreed to a monogamous relationship. Guy#2 says monogamy isnt just about sex, but about dating and intimacy with other people (holding hands, cuddling, etc), guy#1 seems to think it's strictly sex
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    Sep 09, 2011 4:46 AM GMT
    all_things saidBoth persons agreed to a monogamous relationship. Guy#2 says monogamy isnt just about sex, but about dating and intimacy with other people (holding hands, cuddling, etc), guy#1 seems to think it's strictly sex


    Well then, in my humble opinion you both need to sit down and understand this difference and the harm it can do to each of you unless you come to some agreement. You are in love with each other, right?

    -Doug

    PS are you saying guy#1 likes to have intense platonic relationships with friends and guy#2 feels that it's a violation of monogamy?
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    Sep 09, 2011 4:54 AM GMT


    [quote]Well then, in my humble opinion you both need to sit down and understand this difference and the harm it can do to each of you unless you come to some agreement. You are in love with each other, right? [/quote]

    the sit down talk has already been done, both knows the other's definition and view on the subject, yet guy#1 still has his profiles set to looking for other things


    [quote]PS are you saying guy#1 likes to have intense platonic relationships with friends and guy#2 feels that it's a violation of monogamy?[/quote]

    Guy#2 says that pda, outside of friendly hugs and like gestures are a violation of the agreed monogamy of the relationship. is cuddling not normally something reserved for partners within a relationship?
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    Sep 09, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    all_things said

    [quote]Well then, in my humble opinion you both need to sit down and understand this difference and the harm it can do to each of you unless you come to some agreement. You are in love with each other, right?


    the sit down talk has already been done, both knows the other's definition and view on the subject, yet guy#1 still has his profiles set to looking for other things


    [quote]PS are you saying guy#1 likes to have intense platonic relationships with friends and guy#2 feels that it's a violation of monogamy?[/quote]

    is cuddling not normally something reserved for partners within a relationship?[/quote]


    It depends on who is being cuddled, why, and what you both agree to.