Getting fixed up by friends....

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    Sep 09, 2011 12:44 PM GMT
    Okay, so whenever I am fixed up by friends, it is a disaster. They fix me up with some guy with whom I have ZERO chemistry or interest.

    But my friends with good taste... the hot ones with hot friends?? Yeah, they NEVER introduce me to anyone. They never think about it.

    Why are gay guys so inept at this? Anyone have any interesting/funny stories about a fix-up?
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    Sep 09, 2011 1:11 PM GMT
    Tell the hot friends you want intros to their hot friends. And tell the ones who get it wrong WHAT you are looking for specifically. Just them being gay too is not having something in common!
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    Sep 09, 2011 1:49 PM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle saidOkay, so whenever I am fixed up by friends, it is a disaster. They fix me up with some guy with whom I have ZERO chemistry or interest.

    But my friends with good taste... the hot ones with hot friends?? Yeah, they NEVER introduce me to anyone. They never think about it.

    Why are gay guys so inept at this? Anyone have any interesting/funny stories about a fix-up?



    Not trying to be mean-spirited or sound hurt (this time.LOL).

    It's because they think you are hot and probably think you don't need or want their assistance. Also it's not really their responsibility to try and set you up with anyone. Friends setting friends up is a delicate thing and it has its pros as well as its cons.

    If you ask them to do help then that's one thing but you shouldn't expect them to be so gracious and want to help you especially if they don't really see a problem.

    That's just my opinion.
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:00 PM GMT
    Even hot guys need assistance, besides , hot is pure objective.... so thus, everyone can use a helping hand.

    As for the getting fixed up with "eugh", its because those friends are nagging them and they don't want to hear about it, so since you're single... you get dibs.
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:09 PM GMT
    Its always a disaster with me too. My friends are like 'Hey! I know another gay guy! You two should meet.' And then when we do, the only thing we have in common is that we're gay. No chemistry whatsoever.
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:10 PM GMT
    If they are hot then why would they need assistance?
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:12 PM GMT
    Guy101 saidIf they are hot then why would they need assistance?


    B.c. people are often intimidated because they feel they are not good enough for said Hot person
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:14 PM GMT
    Hahah I tend to have a lot of attractive females around me, but very few times I've let my male buddies ask one any of them out...My harem of females are smart bitches! icon_lol.gif

    I was tried to be set up once...Turns out I already knew the dude and he is an asshole...But we did fuck twice beforehand....icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:17 PM GMT
    Fivealive saidHahah I tend to have a lot of attractive females around me, but very few times I've let my male buddies ask one any of them out...My harem of females are smart bitches! icon_lol.gif

    I was tried to be set up once...Turns out I already knew the dude and he is an asshole...But we did fuck twice beforehand....icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif


    Guess it didn't matter that he was an asshole then since you hit twice or was that a sex joke with him being an asshole? LOL.
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:19 PM GMT
    Is getting fixed up by friends the same as a friend hooking you up to score easy?
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:20 PM GMT
    MrPolish said
    Guy101 saidIf they are hot then why would they need assistance?


    B.c. people are often intimidated because they feel they are not good enough for said Hot person


    You said even hot guys need assistance. I replied if they are hot then why would they need assistance.

    Do you see where I'm going with this?
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:26 PM GMT
    Guy101 said
    MrPolish said
    Guy101 saidIf they are hot then why would they need assistance?


    B.c. people are often intimidated because they feel they are not good enough for said Hot person


    You said even hot guys need assistance. I replied if they are hot then why would they need assistance.

    Do you see where I'm going with this?



    There a million reasons why guys need assistance, hot or not:

    1. They are shy and the personal introduction breaks the ice.
    2. They are intimidating and people won't walk up them.
    3. They dont want a hookup, they want someone they would enjoy talking with.
    4. They live in an area with a very small gay community and dont have the opportunity to meet other guys where they live.
    5. They work in a field that limits their ability to meet other nice gay guys.

    Every circumstance is different.
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
    MrPolish saidEven hot guys need assistance, besides , hot is pure objective.... so thus, everyone can use a helping hand.

    As for the getting fixed up with "eugh", its because those friends are nagging them and they don't want to hear about it, so since you're single... you get dibs.


    ^^^ this
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
    FernRock saidIts always a disaster with me too. My friends are like 'Hey! I know another gay guy! You two should meet.' And then when we do, the only thing we have in common is that we're gay. No chemistry whatsoever.



    ^^^ this, too!
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:28 PM GMT
    Guy101 said
    MrPolish said
    Guy101 saidIf they are hot then why would they need assistance?


    B.c. people are often intimidated because they feel they are not good enough for said Hot person


    You said even hot guys need assistance. I replied if they are hot then why would they need assistance.

    Do you see where I'm going with this?



    A fair number of guys considered by many to be hot have the intimidation factor going against them. Others are afraid to approach them out of fear of rejection. So yes, they could use a match making friend, too.

    ...and yes, I have experiences with this; I lost my patience with two such men that had been warily eyeing each other in the clubs for months (I knew them both) and so one night I walked (or rather mock-angrily strode) over to one of them, grabbed him, said, 'Follow me' in my best Vincent Price imitation and dragged him over to my other friend and introduced them, then ordered them both to 'stay HERE' and went to get them drinks.

    To my delight they fell pretty hard for each other and a few years later when Bill and got together we saw them! They were going to visit one of their Dads in the gulf islands.

    -Doug
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:29 PM GMT
    I guess. Seems a bit weird, complicated and just silly to me.
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:31 PM GMT
    I like to fix my friends up, and of the 11 folks I fixed up, 10 have had long-term relationships come from it. But number 11 was so damned bad it's been years since I have fixed anyone up--who knew that the one guy I introduced was a stalker with a bi-polar persoality disorder? I never once saw him carrying around a knife! ;-)
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    Sep 09, 2011 2:54 PM GMT
    Guy101 said
    Fivealive saidHahah I tend to have a lot of attractive females around me, but very few times I've let my male buddies ask one any of them out...My harem of females are smart bitches! icon_lol.gif

    I was tried to be set up once...Turns out I already knew the dude and he is an asshole...But we did fuck twice beforehand....icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif


    Guess it didn't matter that he was an asshole then since you hit twice or was that a sex joke with him being an asshole? LOL.


    In this case I knew his personality off the bat. I wasn't after him romantically and neither was he. We just wanted to fuck each other and that we did.
    Angry sex is good once in a blue moon lol
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    Sep 09, 2011 3:55 PM GMT
    Guy101 saidI guess. Seems a bit weird, complicated and just silly to me.



    **facepalm**
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    Sep 09, 2011 4:26 PM GMT
    i stay FAR away from that stuff. the way i see it, if i can't meet people on my own then i'm probably not interesting/sociable/etc. enough to keep them around anyway.
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    Sep 10, 2011 12:48 AM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle said
    Guy101 saidI guess. Seems a bit weird, complicated and just silly to me.



    **facepalm**


    Says the guy needing help to get set up by his friends. Hilarious. Did you ever think that maybe your hot friends facepalm'd you which is why they choose not to assist you? Bet that didn't cross your mind did it?

    ***OWNAGE***

    Most friends don't like hooking other friends up because of the awkwardness and because they don't want to take responsibility for something that really doesn't concern them all. Hard Fact but true.

    Those who do partake in such events see it as charity and a past time and that's kinda insulting to you because it's pretty much saying that you can't get anyone without help. Have fun wrapping your head around that one.
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    Sep 10, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    Guy101 said
    Alpha_Muscle said
    Guy101 saidI guess. Seems a bit weird, complicated and just silly to me.



    **facepalm**


    Says the guy needing help to get set up by his friends. Hilarious. Did you ever thing that maybe your hot friends facepalm'd you which is why they choose not to assist you? Bet that didn't cross your mind did it?

    ***OWNAGE***

    Most friends don't like hooking other friends up because of the awkwardness and because they don't want to take responsibility for something that really doesn't concern them all. Hard Fact but true.

    Those who do partake in such events see it at charity and a past time and that's kinda insulting to you because it's pretty much saying that you can't get anyone without help. Have fun wrapping your head around that one.


    I am very sad for you. The enormity of the things you do not grasp and do not understand is awe inspiring.

    I am glad that it makes you feel good to pretend you are cooler than everyone else.

    I would be surprised if you owned a 1972 Ford Pinto, you have never, and will never have OWNAGE over anyone on realjock.

    Get in the gym and spend some time and then you can OWN someone on this site.
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    Sep 10, 2011 1:14 AM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle said
    Guy101 said
    Alpha_Muscle said
    Guy101 saidI guess. Seems a bit weird, complicated and just silly to me.



    **facepalm**


    Says the guy needing help to get set up by his friends. Hilarious. Did you ever thing that maybe your hot friends facepalm'd you which is why they choose not to assist you? Bet that didn't cross your mind did it?

    ***OWNAGE***

    Most friends don't like hooking other friends up because of the awkwardness and because they don't want to take responsibility for something that really doesn't concern them all. Hard Fact but true.

    Those who do partake in such events see it at charity and a past time and that's kinda insulting to you because it's pretty much saying that you can't get anyone without help. Have fun wrapping your head around that one.


    I am very sad for you. The enormity of the things you do not grasp and do not understand is awe inspiring.

    I am glad that it makes you feel good to pretend you are cooler than everyone else.

    I would be surprised if you owned a 1972 Ford Pinto, you have never, and will never have OWNAGE over anyone on realjock.

    Get in the gym and spend some time and then you can OWN someone on this site.


    I don't think you have the time to feel sad for anyone (you should probably start with yourself) and seeing as how you are somewhat of a noob (on so many levels) you're in no position to even speculate what I have and haven't owned. You're the one who doesn't grasp anything and I'm not here pretending or even suggesting that I'm cooler than anyone. That's your insecurity getting the better of you (again).

    Thanks for showing your noobness.
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    Sep 10, 2011 1:20 AM GMT

    Guy101 said, "Those who do partake in such events see it at charity and a past time and that's kinda insulting to you because it's pretty much saying that you can't get anyone without help."

    Did you read my post about my experience?
    Charity or a pastime, eh? It was simply an act of kindness, and the golden rule.
    Are you saying anyone who is introduced to someone else should feel insulted?

    -Doug
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    Sep 10, 2011 1:23 AM GMT
    i hate being set. all my set ups have been worst than getting my toe nails pulled oof