Do closeted gay men, married to women, or not, have shorter life spans than openly gay men?

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    Sep 09, 2011 2:07 PM GMT
    I can't imagine living a lie, and how this doesn't affect one's health. Any closeted guys, married or not, that can attest to this? How is your health?
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    Sep 09, 2011 3:48 PM GMT
    I was a closed gay married man.......when I divorced and came out (in that order....) I felt like a HUGE weight was off of my chest.....so YES, I feel that our health is definitely compromised being behhind a locked closet DOor and allowing life to go on without you......NOT ANYMORE!!!!!
  • squash4dave

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    Sep 09, 2011 5:08 PM GMT
    It's GOT to be shorter. Just think about having to eat pussy for the rest of your life.
  • trijiminal

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    Sep 09, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    When i was closeted, my blood pressure was consistently 160/80. Now that i'm out, its never over 115/80. I'm sure that this change alone increased my lifespan.
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    Sep 09, 2011 5:32 PM GMT
    squash4dave saidIt's GOT to be shorter. Just think about having to eat pussy for the rest of your life.


    But fish is supposed to be good for you.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 09, 2011 6:41 PM GMT
    Being that I am in the transition even as we speak, I can give you my thoughtful perspective. First, I certainly would not advocate that anyone make the choice that I made. And it has absolutely been an enormous impact to my emotional life (for the good and for bad). On the whole though, I think its hard to make generalizations as our lives are not soley defined by our sexuality. I have certainly enjoyed the benefit of a stable 18 year relationship with someone I have been friends with for 28 years. There has been very little drama, we have 2 of the greatest kids you can imagine, and a wonderful home we've created together. Bedroom life has been an undisputed disaster and I don't down play that in the least. I make no pretense to being bi, cause I am not. Sucked a lot of tit cause that was the closest I could come to having a cock in my mouth (And thank god licking pussy did nothing for my wife cause I'd rather lick ass before ever doing that again).

    On the whole, I seldom get sick; blood pressure, cholestral and all other vitals are fine; and have no major heath issues. Not sure the has anything to do with the path that I chose. I happen to be very active and eat well. I have also been open about my sexuality with my brother and closest friends for a number of years. Would have dealt with this change of life sooner if not for the kids.

    Assuming this thread is around another 40 years, I'll report back on my life's expectency. Hopefully by then I can talk about how my 35 years of marriage to my husband, have further evolved my life. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 09, 2011 11:13 PM GMT
    kew1 said
    squash4dave saidIt's GOT to be shorter. Just think about having to eat pussy for the rest of your life.


    But fish is supposed to be good for you.icon_biggrin.gif


    They make pills for that icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 09, 2011 11:32 PM GMT
    Well its sux to be in closet .. lie to ur friends .. but what if the whole gay scene reject ? treated as a disease ? would u still go n say that u r gay ?
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    Sep 09, 2011 11:33 PM GMT
    Stress kills. Period.
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    Sep 10, 2011 12:17 AM GMT
    Cairo_M saidWell its sux to be in closet .. lie to ur friends .. but what if the whole gay scene reject ? treated as a disease ? would u still go n say that u r gay ?


    Cairo_M - given the contempt Islamic socities have for gay people, coming out there would probably be more stressful and dangerous then staying in the closet. I imagine a lot fewer men on this board would be open about their sexuality under the same conditions. I wish you the best there my friend.