When your RJ obsession gets in your way of life...

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    Sep 09, 2011 5:25 PM GMT
    People, maybe I have been spending too much time on this website but I feel that I have been establishing some serious obsessions with some of the members. I won't name them here because that would be creepy. But I just want some advice on what I can do with the SITUATION at hand. Should I take a RJ hiatus, should I just confess to my crush, or I should just fucking delete my account?

    Help! Thx dudes.
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    Sep 09, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    Honestly, you're probably best off confessing to your crush. Deleting your account or taking a hiatus is only going to put it off longer. You'd probably end up setting up a new account considering you've developed some serious relationships. Those aren't things you can just simply delete.

    And what's the worst that can happen if you confess? He'll tell you he's just not that in to you, and you will continue to breathe. You can establish another crush, I'm sure of it icon_smile.gif

    Best of luck dude!
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    Sep 09, 2011 5:33 PM GMT
    RJ crushes are awesome. I have a new one who is HOT (I was shunned by KardioKing who now only sends me occasional polite emails)
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    Sep 09, 2011 5:37 PM GMT
    Waimea its ok, I love you too.

    If your a top we can run into the sunset together!
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    Sep 09, 2011 5:50 PM GMT
    PaintDude saidAnd what's the worst that can happen if you confess? He'll tell you he's just not that in to you, and you will continue to breathe. You can establish another crush, I'm sure of it icon_smile.gif

    Best of luck dude!


    Thx man! I know that all you're saying is true, but making a confession is what it feels like it will kills me. It takes a tremendous amount for me to actually open up and say what's really going on inside, and that's why I am such a mean girl, it's to cover up all that fucking insecurity. icon_sad.gif
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    Sep 09, 2011 5:51 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidRJ crushes are awesome. I have a new one who is HOT (I was shunned by KardioKing who now only sends me occasional polite emails)

    Pfft Kardio doesn't know what the hell he's missing. He's obviously blind. icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 09, 2011 5:52 PM GMT
    waimea said
    Lostboy saidRJ crushes are awesome. I have a new one who is HOT (I was shunned by KardioKing who now only sends me occasional polite emails)

    Pfft Kardio doesn't know what the hell he's missing. He's obviously blind. icon_razz.gif


    He is a silly boy, but I still think he´s awesome.
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    Sep 09, 2011 5:52 PM GMT
    Chainers saidWaimea its ok, I love you too.

    If your a top we can run into the sunset together!

    You shut your mouth and make me some chicken soup woman!
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    Sep 09, 2011 5:53 PM GMT
    Lostboy said
    waimea said
    Lostboy saidRJ crushes are awesome. I have a new one who is HOT (I was shunned by KardioKing who now only sends me occasional polite emails)

    Pfft Kardio doesn't know what the hell he's missing. He's obviously blind. icon_razz.gif


    He is a silly boy, but I still think he´s awesome.

    He is silly and awesome. icon_smile.gif. Still blind though. He needs a new pair of glasses.
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    Sep 09, 2011 6:16 PM GMT
    waimea said
    Chainers saidWaimea its ok, I love you too.

    If your a top we can run into the sunset together!

    You shut your mouth and make me some chicken soup woman!


    Bitch aint good enough to get my cookin'
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    Sep 09, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    waimea said
    Chainers saidWaimea its ok, I love you too.

    If your a top we can run into the sunset together!

    You shut your mouth and make me some chicken soup woman!


    Bitch aint good enough to get my cookin'

    It's alright. I don't wanna get sick from it anyway. icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 10, 2011 12:58 AM GMT
    i got the same situation each time i log in to this site ... and even had the same thoughts as u but duh .. i would delete it if i am openly gay hah
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    Sep 10, 2011 1:02 AM GMT
    Always here to help.

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    Sep 10, 2011 1:05 AM GMT
    Just tell whoever it is...it's the internet. If they don't want you or feel the way that you do...who cares...it's the internet. It's not like you have to see them everyday. Worst thing that will happen is he'll say no. Give it a try, you never know they may be into you too!
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    Sep 10, 2011 1:13 AM GMT
    Oh, gosh. I remember having a crush a year or so ago. How silly I was to think he'd keep contacting me... icon_smile.gif

    I've just have bad experience after bad experience of the online thing so they either better be extremely, extremely, extremely, extremely awesome or it just ain't gonna work!
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    Sep 10, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    I think you should approach your crushes and tell them you like them--and you want to escalate things further (to see where it leads). That way, you'll probably weed out some that aren't as interested in you as you are to them (that is a good thing) and who knows, you just might end up with a really nice catch!

    Besides, what is the worst thing that could happen if you don't TRY? They all diss you and you do what I do....go out and cultivate more!

    As an example: A guy here catches my eye (must be single, of course...I am not the homewrecking type) and I'll leave a nice comment on one of his pics, or if he has information in his profile that I find compatable with mine, I'll e-mail him and tell the guy he has an interesting profile. Most of the time, I'll never hear back on the pic comment, but sometimes I will get a "Thanks" on the e-mail. If the response is too short and sweet, I might push it a little more, and sometimes I never hear from him again. His loss I say! If you get a pushback when you mention you are more than interested in a guy, just feel that it's his loss, that's all.

    And darn it....post a pic of yourself! I swear you are the most prolific poster in the threads that has a following, but no pic! Interesting! You have more than established your credibility here though!
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    Sep 10, 2011 1:46 AM GMT
    Who is the crush? what letter does his screenname start with?icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 10, 2011 4:45 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidAlways here to help.

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    EEEK!!! I HATE CLOWNS!!!! Stop!!!!!!!!
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    Sep 10, 2011 4:47 AM GMT
    blasiankid saidJust tell whoever it is...it's the internet. If they don't want you or feel the way that you do...who cares...it's the internet. It's not like you have to see them everyday. Worst thing that will happen is he'll say no. Give it a try, you never know they may be into you too!

    I will have to see him everyday on RJ because he is an avid poster.
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    Sep 10, 2011 4:48 AM GMT
    Soulasphyxi saidOh, gosh. I remember having a crush a year or so ago. How silly I was to think he'd keep contacting me... icon_smile.gif

    I've just have bad experience after bad experience of the online thing so they either better be extremely, extremely, extremely, extremely awesome or it just ain't gonna work!


    RJ works pretty differently from other websites. So I am sure you will be able to find someone nice here. You seem like a nice guy too. There's great love here for ya!
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    Sep 10, 2011 4:50 AM GMT
    Stan904 saidWho is the crush? what letter does his screenname start with?icon_wink.gif

    That's...highly personal! LOL it's you. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 10, 2011 5:57 AM GMT
    this may sound weird, bu ask your stomach, every time i have a problem i ask my stomach and its always right. well OK i never have problems but i read it works in aicon_biggrin.gif book. lmaoicon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 10, 2011 6:52 AM GMT
    I don't think leaving is the answer. Telling your crush you like him may be a hard thing for you to do but you'll grow from it. If everyones mature about it you won't be condemned or thought foolish for liking someone. Having a healthy (normal haha whats normal right) crush on someone is a good thing. To me it shows you have dreams of a nice guy and better life ahead of you. Being a RJ member maybe a great thing for you. You say you have strong insecurities, talking to guys going through the same things can help bigtime but you must put forth the effort. You can do it.
    You said you're spending to much time here. Only you can answer that. I do like that since CHdude left, TrolliLeo and you have become like the thread moderators. Pushing threads, adding funny comments. It seems to draw guys out into making comments.
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    Sep 10, 2011 6:57 AM GMT
    It's ok. RealJock has become the source online. They should win awards.
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    Sep 10, 2011 7:07 AM GMT
    waimea said
    Chainers saidWaimea its ok, I love you too.

    If your a top we can run into the sunset together!

    You shut your mouth and make me some chicken soup woman!


    A yes.. meant to be th_dreamy-smiley.gif