Set Up Fiasco. Should I email him again?

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    Sep 10, 2011 3:51 PM GMT
    Because of his crazy schedule, a friend of mine introduce me to a friend that he thought we'd hit it off through an email. He sent us both an introductory email and told a couple details about us and said no pressure, just thought you guys would hit it off.

    He then replied to my friend's email after a day to me saying how are you?

    I replied after a day making light of the situation and making fun of how this was not an awkward way to meet at all. That was on Tuesday and he never replied back. Maybe he saw my Facebook pictured and became disinterested or maybe he has not had the time to reply.

    What should I do? Should I email him again asking for a date or keep my pride and just forget about the whole ordeal?

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    Sep 10, 2011 4:03 PM GMT
    Why ask him for a date? Suggest meeting up for a walk or run and a casual bite to eat. You're making a new friend, right?

    Then leave it at that if he doesn't reply.
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    Sep 10, 2011 4:08 PM GMT
    First, your pics here are good, so don't ever lose confidence in yourself on that account (not that you said that). But it's also true that some guys have very narrowly defined tastes. You might consider it a compliment if the guy who likes plump, older, hairy-all-over bears turns you down. You simply don't know what this guy likes.

    Second, you might continue to use your friend as your intermediary. Tell HIM what's going on, see if he wants to ask the guy if there's a problem. After all, your friend initiated this.

    What's not clear to me is whether this "making light of the situation" was shared by you in your e-mail to this guy. If so, that might not have gone over well. Maybe he was a bit uneasy about a blind date, too, and you scared him off with negativity.

    A rule in dating, especially firsts: make the guy think you are thrilled to be meeting him, sharing time with him. Your phrases include "I'm looking forward to this" and "I can't wait to meet you in person." Obviously not TOO eager, that sounds creepy stalker, but certainly never share your doubts even before you meet. If doubts later develop after meeting him then that's the time to mention them.