Have you ever been a victim of a narcissist?

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    Sep 10, 2011 10:16 PM GMT
    A guy who pretends to like you for the sole purpose of thinking "I can get you", and then when he knows he can, he rejects you.

    Has this happened to you before?
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    Sep 10, 2011 10:19 PM GMT
    Yes it has
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    Sep 10, 2011 10:20 PM GMT
    gymrat100 said
    Has this happened to you before?


    Not that I can recall in my brief life so far . . . and I could ask the same thing likewise, OP - has this happened to YOU before? icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 10, 2011 10:25 PM GMT
    Yup, it has. It changes you definitely. And, I look back on it, and he wasn't very attractive. But, I must have been seduced, lonely, and desperate. But, the guy was clearly a narcissist. I wish I knew that before. I'm just humiliated that I liked such a human being.
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    Sep 10, 2011 10:28 PM GMT
    gymrat100 saidYup, it has. It changes you definitely. And, I look back on it, and he wasn't very attractive. But, I must have been seduced, lonely, and desperate. But, the guy was clearly a narcissist. I wish I knew that before. I'm just humiliated that I liked such a human being.


    At least the idiot did not do too much damage to your self-esteem/social standing, I'd reckon? Any news on how that guy is doing after you and him? This is good though - a lesson well learnt that you will never be careless enough to fall for such shallow guys ever again U_U
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    Sep 10, 2011 10:30 PM GMT
    Are narcissists guys who generally average to below average looking guys? I have zero confidence. But, I see guys who are, to me, and probably many, who are not attractive, yet they have this way about them where they think everybody wants them, that I admire that quality. I wish I had that entitlement.
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    Sep 10, 2011 10:34 PM GMT
    I learned a lesson for sure. But, I just see guys who are beautiful who have no confidence, and are not vain, but then I see guys who are not at all attractive, average if anything, who are the most vain people I have ever met.
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    Sep 10, 2011 10:50 PM GMT
    I think lonely people and narcissists are like moths to light.
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    Sep 10, 2011 10:56 PM GMT
    gymrat100 saidA guy who pretends to like you for the sole purpose of thinking "I can get you", and then when he knows he can, he rejects you.

    Has this happened to you before?


    How does someone "pretend" to like you?

    Not to negate the validity of your question - but someone not lasting a lifetime with you does not make them a narcissist. It means it didn't work out. Better you find out now than 40 years later.
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    Sep 10, 2011 11:10 PM GMT
    Have you ever been a victim of a narcissist?

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    Sep 10, 2011 11:22 PM GMT
    Somebody who leads you on for an extended period of time, and then when you want to take it the next level, they reject you flat with the 'i knew I could get you.'
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    Sep 10, 2011 11:30 PM GMT
    gymrat100 saidSomebody who leads you on for an extended period of time, and then when you want to take it the next level, they reject you flat with the 'i knew I could get you.'


    I know I should not ask this but...

    The dude actually said to you "I knew I could get you" and then burst out laughing as he cruelly skipped out the door?

    If he "knew" he could get you - why would he go through the effort of proving it? And to whom?

    Is there a possibility that you were interested in taking it to a level that he simply was not comfortable with? Or was not ready for? How long were you invested with this guy? Is he the only gay man you will ever meet?

    Again - not to negate the validty of your OP or your feelings but how is this narcissim and not just a situation that ran its course?
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    Sep 10, 2011 11:33 PM GMT
    Yup. It all happened. How long? A year. Was I desperate? Yes. That's why I let it happen.
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    Sep 10, 2011 11:35 PM GMT
    At first, I was put off by him, but then I liked all of his attention. He's the typical bodybuilder type. Narcissistic? Oh, yeah. I think he's pursuing fitness modeling now.
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    Sep 10, 2011 11:38 PM GMT
    He was in control it felt like. I literally felt I had no control looking back. I was really that pathetic.
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    Sep 10, 2011 11:39 PM GMT
    Burst out laughing? No, but he told all of his friends what a faggot I was.
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    Sep 10, 2011 11:50 PM GMT
    So this typical bodybuilder who was not very attractive but is a fitness model decided he wanted to prove that he could bag a passive aggressive needy, cling-on with no self esteem so that he could tell all his friends that he bagged a "faggot"?

    This is a totally fake post ain't it?

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    I jus' done been trolled ain't I?!?!

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    If Anduru or Alphatrigger is reading - please supply an appropriate gif here please.

    Thank you!

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    Sep 10, 2011 11:52 PM GMT
    Uh..no...but anyways. Wow...thanks a lot.
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    Sep 11, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    I'm sorry that people are so jealous of me... but I can't help it that I'm so popular.
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    Sep 11, 2011 1:47 AM GMT
    calibro saidI'm sorry that people are so jealous of me... but I can't help it that I'm so popular.


    Stop leading me on!!!!!
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    Sep 11, 2011 1:57 AM GMT
    gymrat100 saidA guy who pretends to like you for the sole purpose of thinking "I can get you", and then when he knows he can, he rejects you.

    Has this happened to you before?



    I'm a gay man and I have dated. So, yes.
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    Sep 11, 2011 5:17 AM GMT
    Yup, many times
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    Sep 11, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    In ancient Greece, Narcissus was a youth who suffered from a narcissistic personality disorder.
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    Sep 11, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
    OP —

    I refer you to The Rules For Gay Men:

    Rule 1. Never, ever underestimate the flakiness of a gay man. Ever.
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    Sep 11, 2011 5:50 AM GMT
    I'm assuming there's more to the story.