Dating Mixed Signals

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    Sep 11, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    So I had what I thought was a pretty nice first date. The guy and I met up at a bar and had dinner. Afterward, rather than just going our separate ways, he asked whether I'd like to go for a walk. We ended up walking for about 45 minutes. Afterwards, I texted him and let him know I enjoyed the walk and it took him an entire day to respond. His excuse was that he was feeling under the weather. I've asked him if he's feeling better, and it has been 24 hours and he still hasn't responded. Is this a bad sign?
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    Sep 11, 2011 5:13 AM GMT
    drop him! Silence always works wonders. Eventually he'll reach out just because he selfishly wants to know why you aren't chasing anymore. You, sir, will have all the power to say yes or hell no~
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    Sep 11, 2011 12:24 PM GMT
    willocdh saidSo I had what I thought was a pretty nice first date. The guy and I met up at a bar and had dinner. Afterward, rather than just going our separate ways, he asked whether I'd like to go for a walk. We ended up walking for about 45 minutes. Afterwards, I texted him and let him know I enjoyed the walk and it took him an entire day to respond. His excuse was that he was feeling under the weather. I've asked him if he's feeling better, and it has been 24 hours and he still hasn't responded. Is this a bad sign?


    Leave it/him alone. The ball is in his court. If it's sent back to you then fine. In the meantime just assume he's not into you.
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    Sep 12, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    Thanks. Both of these sort of confirm what I thought should be my response. I'm definitely not texting him again.
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    Sep 12, 2011 3:23 AM GMT
    Why bother? They are so many cute boys in the world.

    Just kick him to the curb. He's obviously not worth your time or energy.

    Take the power back.
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    Sep 12, 2011 3:35 AM GMT
    It was a simple date and things seemed to go well according to you. You sent him a message and he didn't reply back as fast as you would have liked (hence the text which are pretty ambiguous anyway). He then gives you an excuse which may or may not be true and you've replied accordingly and are now just waiting for his reply back.

    As others have said "Balls is in his court" so continue on with your life and don't stop trying to meet and date others. It's really not that big of an issue and you might be expecting too much unless you have your heart set on him specifically. It was only a day. When it's a week of him not replying back then you'll have reason to be mad.
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    Sep 12, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidIt was a simple date and things seemed to go well according to you. You sent him a message and he didn't reply back as fast as you would have liked (hence the text which are pretty ambiguous anyway). He then gives you an excuse which may or may not be true and you've replied accordingly and are now just waiting for his reply back.

    As others have said "Balls is in his court" so continue on with your life and don't stop trying to meet and date others. It's really not that big of an issue and you might be expecting too much unless you have your heart set on him specifically. It was only a day. When it's a week of him not replying back then you'll have reason to be mad.


    I wouldn't say I "have my heart" set on him. I did think he was a good match. Oh well. Moving on, though!