Help! He snores!

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    Sep 11, 2011 11:11 AM GMT
    When my new bf sleeps at my house he snores so fucking bad it sounds like a freight train coming thru my bedroom. What the hell am I supposed to do? I cant sleep!

    He says he sgarted snoring after having his tonsils taken out years ago & he cant help it. I totally understand & am compassionate about it but I have to be in the dark & have complete silence when I sleep....I dont know what to do.
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    Sep 11, 2011 11:13 AM GMT
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    Sep 11, 2011 12:28 PM GMT
    Separate bedrooms.
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    Sep 11, 2011 1:53 PM GMT
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    Sep 11, 2011 2:00 PM GMT
    paradox saidSeparate bedrooms.



    It's what we eventually did. What's very cool about this is we get to continuously play 'Your Place Or Mine?' icon_wink.gif


    The Doc wanted to laser off Bill's uvula. The dangly bit at the back of your throat that stops you from aspirating. He assured us it was fine and that it only took him (the Doc) six months to relearn swallowing so he didn't choke on foods etc.

    Eeep! No thanks.

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    Sep 11, 2011 4:08 PM GMT
    i remember seeing products for this at drug stores. I am not sure if the product was for the person snoring or the person that has to endure the snoring.

    i stayed in a hotel with a group of friends while on vacation and one of them snored really loud. My other friend who was sharing a bed with him got fed up with it so he reached over and slapped him. They are best friends so dont worry it wasn't able being cruel. It worked, he stopped snoring... altho i think it was because he didn't go back to sleep cause he didnt want to get slapped again.
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    Sep 11, 2011 4:10 PM GMT
    AvadaKedavra saidi remember seeing products for this at drug stores. I am not sure if the product was for the person snoring or the person that has to endure the snoring.

    i stayed in a hotel with a group of friends while on vacation and one of them snored really loud. My other friend who was sharing a bed with him got fed up with it so he reached over and slapped him. They are best friends so dont worry it wasn't able being cruel. It worked, he stopped snoring... altho i think it was because he didn't go back to sleep cause he didnt want to get slapped again.

    You can slap me whenever and however you want, sexy icon_wink.gificon_wink.gif
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    Sep 11, 2011 4:14 PM GMT
    paradox saidSeparate bedrooms.


    This works.

    If you fall asleep fast there are tricks you can do depending on how heavy a sleeper/how heavy a snorer he is. Sometimes if you cough loudly they'll stop for a little while long enough, but only if it's light snoring/sleeping. You can progress up to a louder noise (I once tossed a shoe at a closet door. The guy woke up all WUH UH WTF WAS THAT!??? I pretended I was asleep and his disorientation was long enough for me to actually go to sleep). Earplugs didn't work for me.

    In conclusion, separate bedrooms icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 11, 2011 4:16 PM GMT
    Doesn't getting separate bedroom destroy the couples dynamic??
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    Sep 11, 2011 4:18 PM GMT
    waimea saidDoesn't getting separate bedroom destroy the couples dynamic??


    Not sleeping destroys it faster.
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    Sep 11, 2011 4:20 PM GMT
    I was a hardcore teeth grinder to the point of developing TMJ. I'd first check out a store that carries Tempurpedic for their pillows.

    The problem I have is I need extra support at the back of my neck. I was able to discontinue wearing my night guard (plastic thing that completely covers my bottom teeth) with that extra neck support.

    If you see advertisements on TV for a mouth guard that moves your lower jaw outward to relieve pressure on the dangly bit, this pillow might accomplish the same thing.

    Fair warning: Best $130 I ever spent on a pillow. And, I replace them every 12-18 months as they get flabby.
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    Sep 11, 2011 4:21 PM GMT
    Put a sock in his mouth icon_smile.gif
  • Puppy80

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    Sep 11, 2011 4:23 PM GMT
    My bf says I have horrible snoring. He's usually OK if he falls asleep first. He also says I'm a lot better if I fall asleep on my stomach.
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    Sep 11, 2011 4:33 PM GMT
    Nudge him over on his side. If they sleep on their back it's the worst.

    Also, maybe get a fan and put it on the loudest setting. With ear plugs, it might be quiet enough to sleep.

    Finally, if none of that works, put a pillow over his head.
  • Scorpio1113

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    Sep 11, 2011 4:35 PM GMT
    My boyfriend snores and I just nudge him gently. When he is taking a break from snoring I use that time to fall asleep lol. Though I will say I have gotten used to it, for the most part.
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    Sep 11, 2011 4:37 PM GMT
    Ambien.
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    Sep 11, 2011 4:38 PM GMT
    waimea saidDoesn't getting separate bedroom destroy the couples dynamic??



    Apparently not. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 11, 2011 4:40 PM GMT
    i had my tonsils out last summer and it stopped me from snoring for six months.. i fear it is back now
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    Sep 11, 2011 4:48 PM GMT
    GVJoe90 saidi had my tonsils out last summer and it stopped me from snoring for six months.. i fear it is back now


    I had the same thing happen when I got my deviated septum repaired. No snoring for about a year and then it slowly started coming back.
  • nanidesukedo

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    Sep 11, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
    This is gonna sound terrible...but is your boyfriend overweight? If so...weight loss. If not, you should maybe see a doctor and have a doc check for signs of obstruction (as mentioned by previous posters, these can be things like the uvula, tonsils..). Also, congestion can cause it.

    But, I would agree...if all else fails, different rooms :-p. It's like the best of all worlds. Sex, cuddling..and then, when you want to sleep, no need to worry about awkward positioning, snoring, getting kicked..etc.
  • bishop65

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    Sep 11, 2011 5:08 PM GMT
    Try Z-Quiet: http://bit.ly/pXORwQ

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    Sep 11, 2011 5:09 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    waimea saidDoesn't getting separate bedroom destroy the couples dynamic??



    Apparently not. icon_wink.gif

    It's hard to have sex in separate bedrooms when the mood or urge hits.
  • neosyllogy

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    Sep 11, 2011 5:45 PM GMT
    [EDIT: Looking over lots of recommendations to avoid the sound of snoring on this thread I want to re-emphasize that snoring is a health issue. You should really work to stop him from snoring, even if only for him.]

    Lot's of things that can be done about snoring (including surgical intervention at the far end - see "pillar procedure") and it's worth looking up - both because you need to sleep and because it's actually associated with a lot of health problems for the snorer -- snoring is bad news.

    A simple solution that works for many most of the time is simple to have them sleep on their side. Side sleeping dramatically reduces snoring incidence because, if I recall correctly, it keeps your palate from collapsing into your throat (or tongue apparently).
    There are two parts to the side-sleeping solution. (1) Acutely: just wake him up and move him to his side when he starts snoring. I do this when by bf occasionally snores and it fixes it right up. (2) Chronically: he has to make an effort to sleep on his side (getting a different pillow made for side-sleepers may help).

    1 & 2 work together. Just like we train ourselves not to fall out of bed we can train ourselves to sleep on our side. Consciously trying while awake/falling asleep and being interrupted by you and put on his side when he snores should eventually be enough to create that habit.

    If it's still not enough talk to a doctor and look up some snoring cures (e.g. nasal strips) on the internet. If it comes to it surgical intervention has a very very high success rate, and this will improve his long-term health.
  • TheIStrat

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    Sep 11, 2011 5:58 PM GMT
    Murder
  • neosyllogy

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    Sep 11, 2011 6:01 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    The Doc wanted to laser off Bill's uvula. The dangly bit at the back of your throat that stops you from aspirating. He assured us it was fine and that it only took him (the Doc) six months to relearn swallowing so he didn't choke on foods etc.

    Eeep! No thanks.


    You should look into the "Pillar Procedure". Much less invasive, involves insertion of 3-6 dacron strips to give rigidity to the soft palate. As I understand, very effective. (Note there's some suggestion that 6 strips is meaningfully more effective than three, just something to look into.)