Southern conservative coming out - success

  • mrugger823

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    Sep 12, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    I was on the verge of failing out of medical school 9, 10 months ago. I'll spare you most details, but a lot of shit happened in my life. I was at the end of my rope, and I had to relieve one of my major sources of stress by coming out to my parents.

    I was terrified of telling my father. He's a Bible thumper and so right-wing it's startling. When I told him the day after Christmas, he made me feel better about myself, but still didn't say much. I just got this email a couple days ago, and it stopped me in my tracks.

    Not every guy is as lucky as I am, but I hope this lets other guys out there know that your parents aren't always the people you think they are.

    "Dear [me],

    I want to tell you just how much I admire you. It’s not often that a man can say that with consistency about all the things his son has done. I am proud to be able to call you my son.

    Since the day you first opened your eyes on this planet, you have blessed us. And now you are the one who has opened my eyes, and I want to thank you for it. Without you, I never would have seen my ignorance and disrespect. I have a whole new way of seeing others, and I owe it to you. I regret that you could not come to me sooner when going through your darkest hour, and I feel sure that was because of my stubborn beliefs and attitudes. You are the stronger one.

    Two things are for real and will not change. God’s love for us both, and my love for you, my son. DAD."
  • commoncoll

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    Sep 12, 2011 4:35 AM GMT
    Doesn't it give you warm feelings in your stomach?

    But are you doing better in medical school now?
  • JP85257

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    Sep 12, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    This made me tear up.

    Luck you.

    My parents treated me the same as this, actually.
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    Sep 12, 2011 7:39 AM GMT
    This is just... *butterflies*
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    Sep 12, 2011 11:06 AM GMT
    That's a very sweet letter.
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    Sep 12, 2011 11:16 AM GMT
    Congratulations. Supportive parents are awesome.
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    Sep 12, 2011 2:18 PM GMT
    Aw what an amazing dad you have! I am very happy for you! I hope things are way better for you know icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 12, 2011 2:19 PM GMT
    If that doesn't make someone teary eyed I don't know what will. Thanks for sharing this! Beautiful.
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    Sep 12, 2011 2:19 PM GMT
    **sob**

    Seriously, that is what love looks like. You should hug that man!

    Good luck in medical school!
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    Sep 12, 2011 2:24 PM GMT
    Ok seriously I'm to cry icon_cry.gif

    What an amazing feeling it must be to have the support of your dad..

    Congratulations on coming out!
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    Sep 12, 2011 2:56 PM GMT
    omg man ... thats really good .. u give me hope for myself ... wish i have ur courage icon_sad.gif
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    Sep 12, 2011 3:25 PM GMT
    Even I could feel that from Texas. Wow.
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    Sep 12, 2011 10:20 PM GMT
    Congrats on coming out to your parents! That e-mail is great, makes me really think about my own situation.
  • waccamatt

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    Sep 12, 2011 10:26 PM GMT
    That was a truly awesome letter and it really shows how much things would change if everyone could come out.
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    Sep 12, 2011 10:34 PM GMT
    That was very moving...I bet you were crying up a storm. Thanks for sharing and I'm glad to hear that your parents are supporting you no matter what.
  • grnranger99

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    Sep 12, 2011 10:52 PM GMT
    That actually made my otherwise crappy day much better.....THANK YOU AND YOUR DAD
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    Sep 13, 2011 12:43 AM GMT
    Wow. What an amazing letter. I can only hope to get a reception like that when I come out in a few months.
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    Sep 13, 2011 12:48 AM GMT
    icon_cry.gif this is not a sad face it's a happy face with tears
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    Sep 13, 2011 12:53 AM GMT
    Having the support of your parents and your dad, especially, can make such a difference. Thanks for sharing!
  • sportsguysd7

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    Sep 13, 2011 12:55 AM GMT
    Wow. May we all be so lucky. Thanks for sharing.
  • neosyllogy

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    Sep 13, 2011 1:01 AM GMT
    Seriously?
    I'm in pleased disbelief.
    That's awesome! icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 13, 2011 1:14 AM GMT
    I'm very happy this went so well for you. Good luck in San Diego.
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    Sep 13, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
    Now THAT'S love.

    *grins happily*
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    Sep 13, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    Ugh I wish it went that way for all of us....def didn't for me....told one parent then promptly told NOT to tell the other.
  • BardBear

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    Sep 13, 2011 1:58 AM GMT
    Way cool. Good for you.

    Peace, my friend,
    Bardy