I've been replaced by a FART app

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    Sep 12, 2011 4:56 AM GMT
    Tonight I chilled out at a local bar and had a great conversation with John, a very hot muscular dude that I've met before. He knows I'm gay and is cool about it. Anyway, I noticed him and like three other people constantly on their cell phones playing with apps. I told them I should make a film on getting people off their phones to interact with other people. He was showing me apps like "Yo mama" jokes, and a fart app, etc.

    Anyway, though this has been discussed before, how can we get ourselves back to those better days when people connected and entertained each other? And for those of you addicted to your phones, what makes you want to play with it rather than enjoy the people around you? Is it shyness, disinterest, do you feel like you are addicted?

    Your thoughts...
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    Sep 12, 2011 6:37 AM GMT
    I thought about this today while I was at...yes get ready for this....St. John's Cathedral then then later on at an underground rave. Both events had monumental amounts of visual and auditory stimulation. Yet that didn't stop so many people, including myself, from utilizing our phones as our eyes and as a way to distract ourselves.

    I thought the best solution for this was that for any kind of gathering...perhaps simply a dinner...or a large party...is a cell phone BAN. When you arrive you check your cell phone in just like your would a coat. And while you are at the event you are forced to endure real life interactions. And if you REALLY have to do something on your phone then you have to LEAVE the event and then come back after you've checked in your cell phone again.
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    Sep 12, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    Welcome to the cellular age, where people think it's ok to answer their phones in mid-conversation, during meetings, at dinner or in the movies icon_sad.gif

    It's easier to message/SMS/BBM someone else instead of actually engaging with the person next to you IRL. I don't mind someone jumping on to their cell phone to talk or IM, but it's an INTERRUPTION and should be excused.

    I don't think you can get away from it but it is weird to see a bunch of people in one place hardly communicating... at least not with anyone in the room.
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    Sep 12, 2011 7:32 PM GMT
    JakeBenson said

    I thought the best solution for this was that for any kind of gathering...perhaps simply a dinner...or a large party...is a cell phone BAN. When you arrive you check your cell phone in just like your would a coat. And while you are at the event you are forced to endure real life interactions. And if you REALLY have to do something on your phone then you have to LEAVE the event and then come back after you've checked in your cell phone again.


    I wish this was a strictly enforced policy at every cinema and performing arts venue on the planet.

    The most enjoyable movie experience that I have had in the past several years was at a pre-screen where communications technology was collected at the entrance to the cinema.

    As for the actual question, I have found that polite confrontation is often sufficient to make someone put their phone away for awhile.

    I have used something like this before:

    "Hey, I came out here to spend time with you tonight, and I feel like you've made more extended eye contact with your iPhone than with me. Would you mind putting it away for a bit?"

    Depending on the person and the situation, I usually inject some kind of humour to take the sting of my rebuke off, but not so much that the person thinks I am joking around entirely.
  • dancedancekj

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    Sep 12, 2011 7:37 PM GMT
    A quick check for a missed called, or a 30 second text is OK. It still is a bit annoying, but is bearable if accompanied by "Sorry, I just need to answer this..." which would take a lot less time than calling somebody.

    That said, if they're too busy on their phone to notice me or pay their full attention on me, it's say goodnight and go.
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    Sep 12, 2011 7:59 PM GMT
    I prefer real farting to an app. I find it much more effective.
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    Sep 12, 2011 8:09 PM GMT
    Go to dinner. Checking your phone at the dinner table is beyond rude.
    If you absolutely must check your phone, excuse yourself from the table, and then check your phone.
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    Sep 12, 2011 8:15 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidTonight I chilled out at a local bar and had a great conversation with John, a very hot muscular dude that I've met before. He knows I'm gay and is cool about it. Anyway, I noticed him and like three other people constantly on their cell phones playing with apps. I told them I should make a film on getting people off their phones to interact with other people. He was showing me apps like "Yo mama" jokes, and a fart app, etc.

    Anyway, though this has been discussed before, how can we get ourselves back to those better days when people connected and entertained each other? And for those of you addicted to your phones, what makes you want to play with it rather than enjoy the people around you? Is it shyness, disinterest, do you feel like you are addicted?

    Your thoughts...

    I don't let a cell phone or other digital device I have distract me from other people, who expect me to be sharing my time with them. That would be an insult to them. If I already know a very important call is coming, I'll let them know beforehand, something like an urgent medical issue. Those are few and far between.

    Otherwise, I usually just silence my phone. The message can go to voicemail. Sometimes I'll take out my iPhone and start pecking away, but first say: "Don't worry, I'm not texting on you, just bringing up a photo of something we're talking about, hope you'll like this." And then I show it to them, much like guys used to whip out their wallets to show photo prints of family & stuff.

    I don't know how to reverse these depersonalizing trends, get us back to our former civility. I suppose societal pressure. But at the heart of it, I guess you either like your boys or you like your toys, and so will other guys judge you by it.
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    Sep 12, 2011 8:44 PM GMT
    wrestlervic said how can we get ourselves back to those better days when people connected and entertained each other?

    Your thoughts...


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    Sep 12, 2011 11:27 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidI prefer real farting to an app. I find it much more effective.


    Are you talking about my personalized 'ring tones' on my old blackberry?

    The best of both worlds!
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    Sep 13, 2011 12:12 AM GMT
    i was taking a spin class today and some little bitch was on her cell phone on the whole time. not only was she texting she was pulling up pictures and showing them to the people next to her. it was so distracting. the instructor took it away from her and put it in her purse till the end of the hour. thank god
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    Sep 13, 2011 12:22 AM GMT
    Well, I would just get the hint. Your company is not as interested in you as you thought. You will have to agree that it's easy to get distracted when people are bored. I find myself checking my phone when I have zero interest in what the other person is saying. I am not talking about one on one meeting. I will never make plans to spend time alone with someone I find boring.
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    Sep 13, 2011 1:02 AM GMT
    Advaya saidWell, I would just get the hint. Your company is not as interested in you as you thought. You will have to agree that it's easy to get distracted when people are bored. I find myself checking my phone when I have zero interest in what the other person is saying. I am not talking about one on one meeting. I will never make plans to spend time alone with someone I find boring.


    Not the case at all. We continued to talk and talk back and forth, good times. Oh, he's not gay I should add. But focus for many of the people was on their cell phones, no matter who came in.

    BTW, you need to find manners if you treat your phone more special than the human being with you, no matter how boring you think they are. I can only imagine what they think of you doing that.
  • Montague

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    Sep 13, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    This won't fly, give it up please. icon_smile.gif
  • Link27

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    Sep 13, 2011 2:46 AM GMT
    My friend does that to me all the time. Playing me videos and showing me pictures on her phone that I don't need to see (or would have no interest in seeing) - instead of adding to the conversation - I feel like I'm carrying the whole conversation on my own. This usually happens when I start talking about something important going on my life icon_rolleyes.gif

    Sometimes I'll just stop talking until she gets it or she'll be like "I'm listening...."
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    Sep 13, 2011 7:32 AM GMT
    Aren't we connecting with other guys right now on RealJock?....
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    Sep 13, 2011 7:33 AM GMT
    wrestlervic saidTonight I chilled out at a local bar and had a great conversation with John, a very hot muscular dude that I've met before. He knows I'm gay and is cool about it. Anyway, I noticed him and like three other people constantly on their cell phones playing with apps. I told them I should make a film on getting people off their phones to interact with other people. He was showing me apps like "Yo mama" jokes, and a fart app, etc.

    Anyway, though this has been discussed before, how can we get ourselves back to those better days when people connected and entertained each other? And for those of you addicted to your phones, what makes you want to play with it rather than enjoy the people around you? Is it shyness, disinterest, do you feel like you are addicted?

    Your thoughts...


    No.
  • Vaughn

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    Sep 13, 2011 7:34 AM GMT
    I can't wait to be plugged into it directly.
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    Sep 13, 2011 7:42 AM GMT
    Vaughn saidI can't wait to be plugged into it directly.

    Was that a request?